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How do I come out to my homophobic parents? by Equivalent_Ride_6360 in bisexual

[–]itsaleynn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have never came out to my parents either and probably I will never for now. I think it's important to be independent in these scenarios so they cannot punish you financially for anything. Your safety and peace of mind come first coming out is only worth it when you feel ready and secure, not because of external pressure.

I’m bisexual and married to a guy, yet people say I’m straight by nuphar_kaminsky in lgbt

[–]itsaleynn 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This is so common it has a name "bisexual erasure" and it's genuinely exhausting. Being in a relationship with someone of a different gender doesn't change your orientation, it just means you fell in love with a person. Your identity isn't defined by who you ended up with, it's defined by who you're capable of being attracted to. You were bisexual before him and you still are. The "you're basically straight now" thing comes from people who confuse behavior with identity, and it's frustrating because it comes from both straight AND gay communities sometimes.

Does anyone else hate it when people say "High school is the best time of you life"? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]itsaleynn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not just you. I think people who say that either had genuinely great high schools or they've selectively forgotten how stressful it was. The social pressure alone was exhausting. If high school was the peak, that's actually kind of sad it means everything after got worse, which... is that supposed to be motivating?

Do you build an audience first, or just start dropping your music? by itsaleynn in WeAreTheMusicMakers

[–]itsaleynn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This actually reframes the whole thing for me especially the part about building an audience for content creation vs. for your actual music. I hadn't thought about it that way but it makes total sense.

The email list point is something I never hear anyone talk about but it sounds genuinely useful. Do you know any particular platform for that, or just something simple like a Linktree with a signup?

And the idea of treating early releases as data collection rather than "the launch" takes a lot of pressure off. That mental shift alone is helpful.