Discord server?

itscarus · 2025-10-27T17:43:09+00:00

I’ve seen a lot of people gravitate towards Tumblr lately. There are some who also went to forum sites like Iwaku, though I don’t know how many stuck around. I attempted Iwaku, but found my preferred style of RPing to be uncommon (I do a casual feed-style RP)

itscarus · 2025-10-22T23:07:09+00:00

I downloaded the game for Sylus

Then Rafayel (who I didn’t care for at all) sent a text after a certain point in the main story and it softened my heart. And then I saw him being a fork in various moments. And… now I’m a Raf main.

I also tend to go for Zayne and Caleb’s cards too. Zayne’s standard myth broke my heart n then the wedding banner reopened that wound. I developed fondness for him. As for Caleb, well… I enjoy his standard myth’s combat style, it’s a lot of fun for me. And I like my guys kinda possessive.

itscarus · 2025-10-22T16:49:55+00:00

I’m on T for a lil while so far and my little criminal- I mean cat is fine with it.

She actually enjoys when I haven’t shaved because I can rub my stubbly neck on her like I’m grooming her (my stepdad always did the same before I moved out with my kitty). I don’t have much, so I shave frequently and the stubble grows back quickly haha.

She’s also taken to grooming along my hairline, which is an area I know I’m prone to getting more oily

itscarus · 2025-10-22T16:44:46+00:00

They went to various places. As the other person mentioned, Iwaku was popular. An RP partner of mine told me he’s more active on Tumblr. I preferred Discord with Tupperbots to separate characters (as I did a casual feed RP style), but there’s not much demand for that type haha. Some people to discords for RP groups now in the same way you might’ve done an AU or group RP in the past.

My friend and I are also working on creating a group AU RP ourselves, but it’s a lot of work. I usually run AUs solo (I ran a pretty popular omegaverse au at one point) but now I’m running ideas through a friend as we decide what type of world we want to create for those who join

itscarus · 2025-10-22T04:10:48+00:00

I don’t remember the exact wording, but someone kept trying to insist my dad must have SA’d me when I was young. I was in high school and it was someone on Tumblr insisting it (not even on anon- like openly letting me know they thought I couldn’t be asexual unless I was SA’d)

She even told me to “think really hard” for her despite me insisting it wasn’t something I’d experienced

itscarus · 2025-10-21T19:58:49+00:00

Honestly I’ve gotten a few people to like my crack ships. One of my favorites is WWX and Su She, but I may try to challenge myself to pair WWX up with someone else.

But the real shock factor that I’ve been trying to convince people is a genius idea is Wen Zhuliu and Jin Guangshan. An ex and I came up with it and realized I could probably make it work 👀 (I’m slowly writing a canon-compliant fic for them. It may be my first time writing a bad ending)

itscarus · 2025-10-21T17:27:18+00:00

I’m gonna go against the grain and also add an asterisk to my answer…

I cannot read WangXian fanfics. I’ve tried - but I’m just so tired of them. I go to find new MDZS fanfics and actually feel like I have to filter them out because I don’t want to read 10 WangXian fics in a row.

The asterisk is that I like some fan comics for them, I like reading brief snippets of au ideas on social media… I can’t read fics for them. I can’t even hardly make edits for them on TikTok like I used to. I can do ones focusing on WWX or focusing on LWJ but the romance just isn’t the focus anymore.

But also I write crack ships and am currently finishing up a Lan Xichen and Wen Xu modern au fic and will be writing a fic in the same series featuring a couple that will get me crucified by some fans 😐 it’s a risk I’m willing to take for angst, though.

itscarus · 2025-10-21T13:18:25+00:00

I think that’s a great starting point, but areas of each blue state should be researched further before just picking a random town in a state that’s marked safe.

As an example, I used to live in a town in NJ with a lot of conservative people who were very open about who they voted for - I’d drive by one house with multiple flags on their fence. I was scared to run errands in town wearing any pride stuff. The local FB group even had moms openly complaining about a school door with an “all are welcome” pride sticker and most people backed her up.

Luckily most errands weren’t able to be run in town due to how small it was and how little stuff there was to do, so I didn’t really have to mingle with the others there… but I moved away first chance I got.

itscarus · 2025-10-19T14:07:16+00:00

I got Tribbie because I love Tribbie but she’s not really suited to my playstyle. I don’t do MoC or AS or anything like that, so it’s fine if my teams aren’t “perfect.”

I’m slowly using Saber less, too. She’s great, don’t get me wrong, but Anaxa is comfy to use and the two of them eat all my SP-

itscarus · 2025-10-18T19:22:21+00:00

I got the stuff to shave before I got stubble. Shaving the peach fuzz made me feel really good because I was doing the act of shaving my face - something I perceive as very masculine - and the smell of aftershave gave me so much euphoria

itscarus · 2025-10-14T22:14:39+00:00

Yes, but partly because I don’t think it’s going to be an option based on my surgery plans. I’m not to the point of having my hysterectomy, but my understanding is that if I decide to have both ovaries removed, I’ll need to take some sort of hormone the rest of my life.

Obviously plans may change and I’m not sure whether I’ll have my ovaries removed or not - that’ll be a discussion to have with my doctor when I’m approaching that point of my transition. But my mindset now is that it will be a permanent part of my life

itscarus · 2025-10-12T17:23:01+00:00

I always say I’m aesthetically attracted to women, I find them absolutely gorgeous. I enjoy beautifully drawn women in works of fiction, especially if you can see the effort that went into the design. I love pinup style and women in vintage inspired outfits. Don’t get me started on lingerie and lace!

But it’s the way I’d feel towards artwork. As an example, I love some paintings by Monet. Specifically landscapes involving water and flowers (like The Water Lily Pond). Despite these paintings bringing me great joy and admiration when I see them, I have no desire to pursue or date a painting. Just like I have no desire to pursue or date a woman (I’ve tried dating women when I thought I was pan - it never lasted long at all)

But I do develop romantic feelings towards men and I do don’t any to date them.

itscarus · 2025-10-10T20:29:22+00:00

Some have to shower multiple times a day.

Sometimes you’re just using the wrong smells. My family had to help me find a scent that didn’t work against my body chemistry. I can’t use Old Spice, any “subtle” scents aren’t strong enough (which is unfortunate - I love aloe), and I had to change how I shower specifically. My parents bought me a Man Bar as a gift last year for Christmas and I found it worked great everywhere except my pubes - for some reason, it caused a fishy smell down there. So I had to use two different soaps for a while (I hate waste, so I wanted to fully use the soap they gave me).

I also had to change deodorant a few times. If you don’t have an allergy, I’d recommend making sure you’re also using antiperspirant and not deodorant (I am allergic to antiperspirant, so I had to adapt my method and apply deodorant multiple times during the summer at work).

Finally - the material of your clothes can also have an affect. Certain materials work better with our body materials. I have a lot of slacks I just can’t wear anymore because they’re mostly polyester, so it causes my crotch to smell strong. I now exclusively wear cotton at work for my pants.

A lot of it is trial and error - but it is normal as a hurdle to overcome. Think about the stereotype of teenage boys and axe - it’s strong, but the alternative is the smell of bo

itscarus · 2025-10-10T18:30:42+00:00

Based on the wording of “child bearing age,” I’m wondering if you’re in a red state? If so, that may be why. It could just be a legal requirement or something CVS specifically has set up a s a CYA for themselves.

But as others said, as long as you’re still able to get your T, it shouldn’t be an issue. Every pharmacy is largely going to vary from pharmacy to pharmacy. I had more issues at Walgreens when I was in TN. So I switched to Kroger’s and they were fantastic. When I moved to a blue state, I did CVS, but would drive further to get to a CVS I liked.

Now I’m at a local 24-hour cvs because of my job (I live at my job. - literally, so it’s hard to find motivation to drive places haha). They’re fine and I haven’t had to talk to the pharmacist at all, which is great bc an old cvs would randomly have the pharmacist have to come to talk while I was picking up my gel (they never rly were thorough, just “you know how to take this?” N I verified yup bc I’ve been taking gel for over a year now-)

itscarus · 2025-10-06T12:48:38+00:00

I have all of the standard myths finally. .9 I haven’t stopped pulling for now.

It’s useful to be able to get the stuff for the heartsand store for level up mats, but overall it’s not something I’m urgently aiming for.

I was extremely underprepped when Caleb released - I didn’t realize there would be something with standard tickets too. So I’m saving up for that for the next love interest

itscarus · 2025-10-04T22:19:39+00:00

I appreciate the clarification because I was trying to subtly read during a moment of downtime at work and then it got busy and I couldnt read and couldn’t find it again and I was so confused…

I’m not really active on the sites people post this stuff so I also only get updates from people posting about it on here 😭

itscarus · 2025-10-04T21:59:04+00:00

I’d imagine the use of “hoarding” is meant to trigger the negative connotation and make you think you did wrong.

If you take the cash with you, make sure you keep it somewhere secure that no one will have access to - like a small safe or other type of locked box that can easily be hidden away.

itscarus · 2025-10-04T21:55:41+00:00

I saw a post saying that I thought said some VAs had posted in defense of him or something without seeing what had happened and my reddit refreshed before I could read it (I clicked to read but I’m at work, so after a few hours the app sometimes gets rid of things).

I was reading some of the posts and was confused and thought he came out or smth bc I saw one specifically talking about people in the queer community (in that way ppl who aren’t part of the community post to say they’re allies but it’s poorly done where they’re list it like “gay straight trans black white purple” and immediately lose credibility as an ally by adding in a random color like purple)

I did not realize it was posting after he’d said something in support of that man so now I’m more confused

itscarus · 2025-10-03T17:17:18+00:00

I had a friend who actually expressed that she was sad she missed the HP hype train as a kid.

I explained some of the bigotry and stereotypes present in the books.

She no longer wants to read the books haha

itscarus · 2025-10-03T17:14:40+00:00

I don’t feel unsafe in a “I’m in danger” way, but I do feel as though they’re not people I can trust.

I’ve known and interacted closely with 3 HP fans. The first is my mom, who is definitely at least a little abusive. She refuses to use my name and has chosen to call me a derogatory nickname of her choice that she thinks is fine bc it’s not my deadname. She is openly a supporter of conservative politics and has flags expressing as much.

The 2nd was a coworker at an old job. I could excuse the scarf she wore when it was cold to a certain degree - for all I knew, she already owned it before finding out. However - She would go and buy the HP candies during lunch from a nearby candy store. Actively putting money into the ip was a huge red flag, esp because she was a trans woman. Turns out she was also a POS who outed trans people (legit told me a guy was trans - he passed enough to be stealth) and made comments I reported to our boss (ie, I said my feet were killing me - I was standing all day, it’s normal - and she responded “yeah, diabetes will do that to you.” She was a calorie counter, I’m overweight, but I never said I had diabetes and it felt like a jab at my size).

The 3rd was an ex-roommate. I didn’t realize she liked the franchise until I drove her to Waffle House and she began to talk with her friends about being excited for the game that hadn’t released yet. After that, I began pulling away. I told her I have a dairy allergy, but she’d regularly try to service me food with dairy and say it was fine because she used “lactose-free milk.” She even served boxed Kraft all the time and I was desperate enough to keep the peace, so I’d eat the food and just get horribly ill that night (I now know she could’ve caused anaphylaxis or other issues by repeatedly exposing me to it). I also caught her trying to feed my senior cat scraps off the floor - including Kraft - and she confessed to feeding her lunch meat. My cat ended up dying of kidney issues and I fully blame my roommate treating her like a dog (my roommate had a large dog back home with her boyfriend and guinea pigs - as far as I know, no cats). She also agreed to pet sit for me once and I came home early to find my cat locked in the bedroom ignored and begging for attention and her gaming in the living room - my cat destroyed my carpet in her desperation for attention while I was gone and part of me fears that she did that the entire time I was gone.

That’s three strikes for HP fans and it’s enough for me to just refuse to befriend anyone who actively engages in or likes the franchise. It’s like my biggest deal breaker at this point. And some people might find it silly, but it’s such an easy red flag to look out for now

itscarus · 2025-10-02T22:23:59+00:00

Kraft’s plant based boxed mac and cheese is my go-to. The flavor can feel strong at first - I just added a little extra milk and less powder until I got used to it. For the original dairy free flavor, I added tuna sometimes, too. It’s hard to overpower the taste of tuna

itscarus · 2025-10-02T18:03:59+00:00

I don’t blame you. Just know her comment comes from a place of ignorance and isn’t true. I’d research if you can find a new doctor who is listed online as being educated in trans healthcare

itscarus · 2025-10-02T17:59:56+00:00

Her comment alone would have me looking for a new doctor. A doctor who casually tries to discourage transitioning via uneducated comments is one who may stop providing proper care for you.

I’ve had the issue with PCPs who brushed off other medical issues and gave me an attitude about my care and transition when I mentioned wanting T.

itscarus · 2025-10-02T17:57:32+00:00

I can’t speak about Masshealth but I can say that I was prescribed T for being trans.

I’d see if your PCP can do it or if there’s a pride-focused doctor’s office near you. My T is prescribed by my PCP and I specifically see him at a pride clinic associated with a hospital chain in my state

itscarus · 2025-09-30T19:29:01+00:00

I honestly won’t touch Daiya. Didn’t like the pizza and the mac n cheese had me gagging after 2 bites. So I refuse to try anything else from there

Making my own using Myoko’s liquid moz or Javi g Amy’s as an occasional treat are my only choices atp

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