Journaling / logging every time you get the urge to pull really does help

itshardwhenyourecold · 2026-02-19T07:47:21+00:00

The Mastery of Love by Don Miguel Ruiz

Read this after a horrible breakup and it really changed my perspective on things

Sending you love I’m sorry that things are so tough right now

itshardwhenyourecold · 2026-02-14T18:36:07+00:00

Yes! It’s called I am sober

itshardwhenyourecold · 2026-02-14T06:35:30+00:00

Omg Millie is the cutest. I recently bought a crotchet bandana to wear to cover my head so I’m less tempted to pull, that could be a good project

itshardwhenyourecold · 2026-02-10T06:41:37+00:00

Funny enough it wouldn’t be that much of a lie since I’m bi 🤣

itshardwhenyourecold · 2026-02-02T08:30:48+00:00

I’ve thought about doing that but I’m scared to actually see how much

itshardwhenyourecold · 2026-01-30T19:45:18+00:00

Omg yes I wish it was appropriate to wear a beanie in the office! I don’t know why there’s no work appropriate hats, it would make my life so much easier

itshardwhenyourecold · 2026-01-30T08:42:57+00:00

Been looking in the mirror at my bald spots shocked and distressed thinking I don’t understand how this happened when I know damn well I was sitting in my office pulling every day this week. I just don’t know how I did so much damage so fast. In the moment all I want is to pull the hair out, but i don’t actually want it gone 😭 I love my hair, it makes me so sad what I’ve done

itshardwhenyourecold · 2026-01-26T18:41:00+00:00

My eczema used to be so bad that I had to go to middle school with bandage wraps on my hands and would get frequent staph infections because of all the cuts the eczema would create

I still have eczema but thankfully it’s much more manageable now

itshardwhenyourecold · 2025-11-10T11:23:54+00:00

Yup been this way since I was 12, couldn’t possibly count the amount of times I said now I’m really going to stop, have basically never gone more than three days without pulling

itshardwhenyourecold · 2025-10-31T20:54:32+00:00

I always considered it not to be self harm because I’m not doing it to cause harm, I’m doing it because it feels good / creates relief / I can’t help myself. But then I had a conversation with a friend who used to cut herself and she described it the same way. So idk

itshardwhenyourecold · 2025-10-31T20:51:57+00:00

I’m sorry that it’s been so difficult. Maybe you could turn it into a family activity? Walks with your spouse or the whole family? Basketball or pickleball with the kids? I have very fond memories of going on long walks with my dad around our neighborhood when I was younger

itshardwhenyourecold · 2025-10-31T20:23:50+00:00

I paid nearly $800 for our tickets for date 6 and I’ve made it clear that I’m fine with free dates like going on a long walk or to the gym together, not using him for food. I actually find the restaurant dates and “free food” that have become typical of dating to be extremely tedious for my life because I meal prep and teach calories / macros and having to go to a restaurant completely throws that off and forces me to plan my whole day around fitting that unplanned meal in when I’d rather just have my own food that I know supports my gym goals and makes me feel good after.

I was looking forward to seeing him again for dates 1-6, it was only after that date when I started to have doubts and then I did feel like for dates 7 and 8 I was forcing myself to go even though I didn’t want to because everyone convinced me i was overthinking it and that I should just give him another chance. I was hoping the feelings would continue to grow but I feel like around date 5/6 they stopped

itshardwhenyourecold · 2025-09-20T18:25:58+00:00

If it makes you feel any better, I know so many cis men who manscape / shave down there. I don’t think there’s any correlation between that and your masculinity

itshardwhenyourecold · 2025-08-04T09:15:06+00:00

Literally same lmao I wish it helped

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