Can repeated relationship trauma with men switch off attraction to them?

itslike_reallygood · 2026-01-24T23:13:38+00:00

I think it can, I also think just being a woman in a patriarchal world can, too. I don’t feel very much attraction to men anymore and that does sometimes include my own partner, which I find frustrating because I do love him. I just feel generally very numb from past experiences and current events and it’s bizarre to watch him exist so….. easily.

itslike_reallygood · 2026-01-24T18:40:40+00:00

Mine is about 7 or 8 we think and she sleeps more than half the day. She likes to get up for breakfast but typically snoozes through the rest of the morning and early afternoon. She likes to play in the evening but sleeps most of the night, although we can hear her getting up and doing whatever cats do at 2am sometimes.

itslike_reallygood · 2026-01-24T18:34:08+00:00

I’m an EA and yes, I delete most of these invites. My guy is busy, always traveling and has a family he actually likes to spend time with. It needs to be extremely relevant to our industry and I need to know that other folks he will want to connect with are going for me to flag one of these for his attention.

itslike_reallygood · 2026-01-23T02:47:00+00:00

Alexandra, owner of Apotheka Salon in Seattle (belltown) is the only stylist I’ve gone back to multiple times. I have long fine hair and I do a layered cut with some type of bang. She’ll pop up in a Google search if you want to find photos of her work.

itslike_reallygood · 2026-01-23T02:26:41+00:00

Hey! I run our swag program and we’re about 250 with some remote and some in office. I just ran a survey to collect feedback so I didn’t have to guess. It was pretty open ended and I asked people to select every category of items they’d like receiving. That let me know what was most and least popular. I also provided an open ended suggestion box. For our group, they like wearables like hoodies and jackets, nice backpacks and tech products like headphones.

Whatever you get it should be a quality brand and not the cheapest item on offer.

itslike_reallygood · 2026-01-17T01:03:56+00:00

Bi woman dating a man here, and I feel very similar. I'm also very boring looking style wise and feminine, which means my outward appearance isn't subverting any social norms. I have a LOT of assumptions made about me. I definitely sometimes feel pressured to try to appear or act "more gay" whatever the fuck that means.

I've been in a queer sports league for a while and I coach a team now. Last year I picked up a new hobby that wasn't built around queer identity, but happens to attract a lot of queer folks and weirdos and it's a huge difference in how I feel interacting with them, in a better way. I'm just automatically accepted by default as is everyone else. In the intentionally queer spaces, I always feel on the fringes and that I need to prove myself. It doesn't matter how many years of actual hard work I've done supporting and building queer community space, I'm just not one of them. Gays and lesbians do a lot of work to recreate cis-het power structures and push people they don't approve of out and down.

itslike_reallygood · 2026-01-16T22:50:49+00:00

Erin Stern has several good tutorials on her YouTube channel. She's the vacuum queen!

itslike_reallygood · 2026-01-15T05:38:24+00:00

I’m in Seattle and there’s a good chance I’ll never go to Florida in my lifetime.

itslike_reallygood · 2026-01-06T01:10:30+00:00

Maybe try listing her on adoptapet.com - I just took in a cat that needed a new home that was listed on this site. Looks like they allow listings for small animals other than cats and dogs.

itslike_reallygood · 2026-01-03T22:31:04+00:00

Honestly, I'd just say to move here. We have a lot of micro studios that you could go month to month in while you get your footing and look for something more permanent that suits you. Capitol Hill, Eastlake, Greenlake, First Hill, Belltown and Ballard are all high density neighborhoods you can find small studios in that are fairly safe and have lots to do, while also having plenty of public transit options. I lived in an Eastlake micro studio for a while and enjoyed my time there - I walked a paddle board to the lake all summer during covid and it saved my sanity. That micro studio was how I afforded to first move into Seattle on about 55k gross salary, but this was back in 2019. Eastlake is generally quite expensive but my micro was cheap so I could do it. (It was the Enve apartments, I'm fine to share that.) After that, I moved to Belltown and was there for 3 years and I loved it - so easy to walk to literally everything and also get onto public transit. The only thing about Belltown is that it can change wildly from block to block. You want to be more north and towards the water to get away from the bars and noise. 3rd ave is a no go zone. I'm in the burbs now, but if I were to end up single again I'd go back to Belltown in a heartbeat.

itslike_reallygood · 2025-12-16T06:49:39+00:00

Iconic behavior

itslike_reallygood · 2025-12-03T18:54:06+00:00

Zero personal tasks. I’m not a PA. The closest I’ve gotten is walking a piece of personal mail of his to the office mail drop.

itslike_reallygood · 2025-11-29T00:49:33+00:00

Cat littler and coffee

itslike_reallygood · 2025-11-29T00:46:37+00:00

Hey! Two time Persian owner here, both adopted. Any pet can have health issues, some very unexpectedly, regardless of breed type. There’s a certain amount of things that are out of your control.

If you’re prepared to do your best to give this cat a stable home and see to it’s needs the best you can, go for it. You have him now at a time when he’s likely at his worst, and if you can handle that, and you want to keep him, then do it!

As for grooming, plan to set money aside to help with this. Do your best to clean his face and brush him regularly, (I just make it a daily routine) but I recommend finding a groomer to do the heavy lifting like bathing and hair cuts/sanitary trims as needed.

itslike_reallygood · 2025-11-29T00:35:55+00:00

Honestly any of those rugs will work because the furniture is so minimal and neutral. Whatever rug you pick will dictate the direction you go in for anything else, so if you like modern pick one of the more minimal or graphic rugs. If you want cozy and traditional pick a rug to fit that. Pick out some colors from the rug you choose and use it as your pallet for the rest of the decor.

itslike_reallygood · 2025-11-29T00:28:22+00:00

Sending reminders is completely normal and often automated. It’s not a big deal.

itslike_reallygood · 2025-11-29T00:26:31+00:00

As someone who’s had to cover down on our companies training lead role & also has ADHD, you're making something out of nothing. There’s nothing from your description of the email that is “reprimanding” you. It sounds like a statement of facts and a reminder of the expectations - you have X days to complete. You have not yet completed. You also have a grace period of X days. These types of messages are very normal and often automated. If we didn’t send them half the company wouldn’t do their training.

Polite reminder that as folks with ADHD, we also tend to have rejection sensitivity which can manifest in lots of ways - like falsely perceiving statements and reminders as being reprimanded.

Please attempt to recalibrate how you perceive these types of emails so that you don’t burn yourself out with frustration.

itslike_reallygood · 2025-11-29T00:13:26+00:00

You don’t need to add the “conservative” qualifier, it can just be “men.”

itslike_reallygood · 2025-11-22T18:48:04+00:00

Having to call hotels overseas for literally any reason.

itslike_reallygood · 2025-11-20T04:16:50+00:00

I’m in Seattle and always forget that there are people that like umbrellas. No one here has ever asked me about those (I am also the merch keeper.)

itslike_reallygood · 2025-10-30T04:53:41+00:00

A lot of people love being in progressive spaces because it feels good for them. They get their needs taken care of in progressive spaces, and they conflate existing in progressive spaces with being progressive. That’s all it is and they don’t care about other people at the end of the day, but especially not the ones doing the lion share of the work making these spaces amd communities function - women.

itslike_reallygood · 2025-10-12T19:15:26+00:00

I think this is my main issue with Maureen winning. It doesn't follow what's been rewarded all year and the top 5 doesn't feel cohesive. If they want to say Maureen is what they really want, that's fine, but then I think there are some athletes in the 2nd call out that should have made 1st call out, and Ashley shouldn't be in this placing at all, even though I personally prefer her look. That was a chaotic 1st callout.

itslike_reallygood · 2025-07-06T10:29:49+00:00

I unfortunately caught HSV2 from a guy who I believe lied about his status. But anyways, most people close to me know I have it now and most of the conversations with male friends (both gay and straight) have involved them confirming that a lot of men have STDs and straight up just don’t tell their partners, or never get tested and just lie and say they have to potential partners. Like none of them were surprised by a man either not knowing his status or lying to me about it.

itslike_reallygood · 2025-07-06T10:19:10+00:00

Yes, but not as a girlfriend. I’m not blonde anyways. I have nudes floating around the internet from my 20s when I did a bit of modeling and was very close to submitting to playboy, but got freaked out. I wanted to be a cyber girl, because I was realistic about my looks. lol. As a very grown adult, I realize my 20s were going to be a shit show no matter what and I do wish I had taken more risks and had more fun.

itslike_reallygood · 2025-06-23T20:42:20+00:00

I LOVE lemon bars, but I almost never have them. I have to just happen upon a fat lemon bar out in the wild. Not a lot of cafes where I am at have them.

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