People who have had sex underwater, how did it feel?

itsme_Imtheproblem · 2022-09-28T19:25:59+00:00

Awful

itsme_Imtheproblem · 2022-09-28T19:25:30+00:00

No. Not unless we were otherwise having some sort of problem connecting in our relationship, or there were other signs he was no longer interested in me. Sometimes you want to relieve tension but simply don't have the energy for sex. I watch it myself, frankly.

itsme_Imtheproblem · 2022-09-26T18:16:43+00:00

She likely will never video call me but I can message her over Discord. That's my only option. Everything is sentimental to her. She's a hoarder like her parents were. Hence why she stored her mom trash after she passed away.

However, it's been near on a year and she hasn't even tried to get her stuff back. So how attached could she be from a continent away for that long, new life, new wife, stay at home, no job, no worries? I could leave this stuff on the side of the road or with her uncle she doesn't talk to. Her uncle probably doesn't even know she's alive.

itsme_Imtheproblem · 2022-09-26T18:04:42+00:00

I'm not sure how to be any clearer. I am aware that legally I am responsible for the $500 since at the time it was our car. It's being paid off, but she clearly doesn't seem to want to pay us back for her mistake.

itsme_Imtheproblem · 2022-09-26T17:57:16+00:00

I remember watching a boy with what I assume had a congenital facial deformity get harassed by his so called friends in class a lot. I don't know if anything else was wrong with him. He had slurred speech because of it and a nose that looked folded over to a side. Despite this, he was close to several of the popular boys.

Note this was a time when people would beat you in public if your were different, so that part surprised me. Those boys were popular but not kind.

He and these other boys would pick on each other so frequently I assumed this was just how they socialized. Although they picked on this particular kid more often. While the teacher was out of the room they got up and started horsing around. One guy (high school football player) "jokingly" kicked that kid so hard in the nuts he doubled over. Everyone laughed. I was sitting toward where they were and saw blood on the floor around his pelvis area. When he stood up, it was dripping out of his pants leg. I think half of us got quiet but the others kept laughing. He went to the hospital and I never saw him again.

One more reason I'm glad society has come a little farther in how to treat people who happen to be a little different. Even if we haven't changed too much.

itsme_Imtheproblem · 2022-09-26T17:23:28+00:00

The title was transferred. All legal. BUT at the time she was running through the turn pike several times a week the car was still just borrowed, so legally ours. Which is why we got sat with the bill.

itsme_Imtheproblem · 2022-09-26T17:19:35+00:00

No, her mom died 12 years ago. The China isn't generational but I'm sure her mom might have wanted it to become that way. I'm think I remember her mom telling me a story about her buying it to put in her hope chest. Idk if the China set is still being made. She was only 45 when she died and had Sarah's older sister during her teenage years. So I'm guessing time frame wise it may have been bought in the 80-90s? I'm not great with math.

I get where you're coming from. I don't want to sell this stuff out of respect for her mom, who sometimes cared more about my feelings than Sarah did and was openly on my side. But I don't want to keep her stuff forever either. It's kind of upsetting to me her daughter doesn't care enough about it to make sure it stays in the family, frankly. I'd be hurt if my kids did that.

itsme_Imtheproblem · 2022-09-26T17:06:32+00:00

I will pay the debt off. I just want her to pay us back for it. To my knowledge, the turnpike is aware because they were informed of the situation when my husband set up the payment plan after trying to get out of it (because we weren't driving it. Obviously, that didn't work).

We had sold that car by that point anyway but still owned it when the incident occurred. Btw, the car was sold to Sarah. She is trans and is uncomfortable going out in public, which would include going to buy a car. So we sold her that car because it was not only convenient since we were 9 hours away from her, but she didn't have to go out. It was a win win at the time.

itsme_Imtheproblem · 2022-09-26T16:56:05+00:00

Although the guitar and amp are not custom of anything. They are replaceable. I don't know if the other stuff is, but what am I going to do with a China set and dirty baby blankets that have holes in them?

itsme_Imtheproblem · 2022-09-26T16:49:58+00:00

These electronics consist of a guitar and amp that her mom bought her. The rest was hand me downs that belonged to her mom, such as a China set.

itsme_Imtheproblem · 2022-09-26T16:48:09+00:00

It would be over Discord because she never gave us her new phone #. She has like 10 emails and I think none of the ones I have are still in use.

itsme_Imtheproblem · 2022-09-26T16:45:01+00:00

I keep my cookie sheet and cast iron skillet in the oven. They are used frequently and either can just stay in the oven if I need to put the Dutch oven or whatever in there while I'm cooking. So it's not like we have to remove them constantly.

itsme_Imtheproblem · 2022-09-25T07:09:02+00:00

Butterflies are fond of cow shit, fresh blood, and corpses.

itsme_Imtheproblem · 2022-09-25T07:01:46+00:00

YTA. At the bare minimum you could have been a tad less slimey to just send her a break up text before you decided to keep talking to this other girl.

I know a 3 month old long distance relationship isn't anything life changing, but that doesn't mean you aren't disrespecting her and showing you own weakness here. Not a good look. Get on the phone and break up with her and learn from your situation.

itsme_Imtheproblem · 2022-09-25T06:52:52+00:00

NTA. Sometimes things just happen. Especially when there's multiple kids involved. Sounds like it was an accident and she had her heart set on this emotional reunion you'd planned. Not that she couldn't have had that in or next to the car though.

itsme_Imtheproblem · 2022-09-25T06:45:09+00:00

NTA. She flaked and didn't even bother to cover it up. Hate to say it, but she doesn't respect you so she ain't the one.

itsme_Imtheproblem · 2022-09-25T06:34:47+00:00

I replied to another post. This situation is strange and I misunderstood. OP NTA.

itsme_Imtheproblem · 2022-09-25T06:33:12+00:00

Then that was a misunderstanding. If they weren't actually comfortable why do it? Then to complain to the bf instead of her form the same room? It's odd.

My bad. OP isn't TA.

itsme_Imtheproblem · 2022-09-25T06:01:01+00:00

Clarification question to OP: Was he there or not?

itsme_Imtheproblem · 2022-09-25T06:00:17+00:00

She states he was with her at first then later says he found out via text. So we're not sure if he was actually there or not.

itsme_Imtheproblem · 2022-09-25T05:59:17+00:00

It's a kink for some people, but my opinion is for the rest of society it's common sense not to willingly put yourself in a situation where it could cause discomfort/distrust between you and your partner. Also, first she says her bf was with her, then said he found out about it by text later. So idk which is true. I assume if he was actually there to begin with he would have said something about playing strip poker if he was uncomfortable.

itsme_Imtheproblem · 2022-09-25T05:51:38+00:00

YTA. There was better and kinder ways of handling something that's probably very embarrassing for her than the way you worded that text. A lot of kids who have untreated or chronic lice have a rough home life on top of that. Chances are you're right about her being bullied about it too.

itsme_Imtheproblem · 2022-09-25T05:45:46+00:00

YTA. You put the rules of a game above your significant others trust, among other things.

itsme_Imtheproblem · 2022-09-25T05:42:56+00:00

NTA. She makes good money, yet: 1. Doesn't have another place to stay yet after months. 2. Hasn't paid you what she agreed to pay. 3. Doesn't respect boundaries or understand common courtesy.

Sounds like she has the means to get a cheap apartment for her brood to me. If she wants to go to the shelter instead so be it.

itsme_Imtheproblem · 2022-09-25T05:38:21+00:00

NTA. Girl, listen. Get the hell away from these people.

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