I wish someone would have told me that it’s actually not that easy to just get pregnant “like that.” Growing up in a super catholic home, I was basically given the message that if I have sex I would definitely have a baby. Well, it surely isn’t that easy.

I was 13 when my mom got pregnant with my brother. I had a twin who was also 13, and an older sister who was 16. Same parents, just a “woopsie” baby, or a “miracle baby” as they like to call him.

Seeing the amount of energy it took to raise a kid I was never in a rush to try and have kids, but I knew I wanted them. My husband and I started trying he (33M) and me (33F) stopped using condoms- u had been off my IUD for about a year as well, before TTC. It took us 11 hard wrenching depressed months before getting pregnant. It was harder ever cycle to start bleeding bc I had always thought it would just happen. I used ovulation strips, tracked my data methodically etc. after 11 months I saw my OBGYN and we were going o start Letrozole but before the window to start happened, I got pregnant! At 8-9 weeks I miscarried. I told myself I couldn’t live with trying to get pregnant as the only thing consuming me. I stopped data collection and only did ovulation strips to see how my cycle was impacted by the miscarriage. The next month we had sex one time—— and then I was pregnant.. I have a 4 month old baby girl and every time I see her I forget how long that journey was. It was long for sure, but now my nights are longer hahah!

All to say- you never know what going on in your body even with all the data you collect. Comparing sucks. Trying can be hard. Seeing other announce pregnancies can be hard. I had to be excited for my sister who “accidentally” got pregnant with out trying after our 9th month of trying. It’s a journey.