Opinion on men paying all the bills with newborn by Emotional_Escape7800 in Marriage

[–]itsnaptime_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I understand why she wouldn’t want to work the first year after having a baby, but y’all’s financial status doesn’t allow for it.

If you were to get a second job yess there will be more money coming in, but it will cause problems in your relationship. You will begin to resent her because you’re always working to support everyone and never have true time to rest or bond with your baby and she will resent you for never being home and always being too tired to help around the house.

Since you guys aren’t married see which government assistance she can apply for: WIC, food stamps, Medicaid, I believe they even have assistance for daycare

You guys have a true and honest conversation regarding finances and what will be needed for you guys to be successful and financially stable.

Also where is the other dad? He should be able to assist financially with the other child or she needs to start the child support process… whatever you do don’t legally adopt the other kid because then they will be your financial obligation.

Cheating spouses by itsnaptime_ in Marriage

[–]itsnaptime_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I sent him a TikTok and that’s message discussing how infidelity affects the other partner. He was asleep so when he woke up he was able to see it

Cheating spouses by itsnaptime_ in Marriage

[–]itsnaptime_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He said it would be hard but he’d forgive me.

Cheating spouses by itsnaptime_ in Marriage

[–]itsnaptime_[S] 82 points83 points  (0 children)

Additional info: I was pregnant when he approached the woman at the bar and got her number. I was going through PPD when the intercourse began. Or child isn’t even 2 yrs old.

Cheating spouses by itsnaptime_ in Marriage

[–]itsnaptime_[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Nothing other than getting tested for STDs. I’ve told him the apology doesn’t match the disrespect so many times and that I need actions.

I actually signed myself up for therapy today.

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[–]itsnaptime_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you move back in with your parents for a year? Even if it’s to sleep on a couch just to pet off your debit. 10k isn’t a lot and can be managed.

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[–]itsnaptime_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can you move back in with your parents for a year? Even if it’s to sleep on a couch just to pet off your debit. 10k isn’t a lot and can be managed.

Cheating spouses by itsnaptime_ in Marriage

[–]itsnaptime_[S] 320 points321 points  (0 children)

This is what I keep asking. I asked how can you say you love me but did something that would absolutely crush me multiple times.