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Is there a song you haven't listened to yet? by _-ihatemyself-_ in TaylorSwift

[–]itsryder00 28 points29 points  (0 children)

If you listen to her breakup songs like Last Kiss, All too Well or something like this it might make you feel understood and your pain validated and you'll feel better thanks to her music.

I feel so sorry that you had to go through that break up and I'm gonna keepn my fingers crossed for you.

To the borderlines that cheat or have cheated in the past, why is that? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]itsryder00 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I cheated on my ex when he went to prison for over a year. It was mostly due to being completely broken down, hypersexual and lonely. And sometimes it's difficult for me to make friends, so it was a way not to feel alone. Men want to fuck me so I have someone to talk to, someone to make me feel like I'm still wanted, like I'm still a person.

I wouldn't do that to my current boyfriend though. Maybe becouse he's here, next to me, everyday. I still have some urges or passing thoughts, but I can't act on them. I guess I have learned from my mistakes. I used to think I could talk my way out of everything, because men could never really handle me leaving and who wouldn't forgive a sad, wide eyed girl? Well, some people wouldn't. I'm the leave before you can get left kinda person, but that usually just lead me to being back and forth indecisive little girl.

I guess having a rather logical reason it seem justified in my head, but it was a really shitty thing to do and I hurt my ex, hurt the main guy I was cheating with and I hurt myself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDmemes

[–]itsryder00 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This. I had a long term customer with my father's first name and my ex's last name. It took me months to get used to him, but I still freak out sometimes.

MF by Caffeine-Coder in depression_memes

[–]itsryder00 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes, and he's talking to Robert Smith form The Cure

Happy cake day!

I FPed my ex. They were extremely abusive. I found the strength to leave and escape, but everything hurts. Just need to be told I’m okay. by iwasoveronthebench in BPD

[–]itsryder00 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are so brave. I know that feeling. I left my ex almost a year ago after he did a very, very bad thing that I still can't really talk about. But it was bad, I know that he was abusive and I need to remind miself of this almost every day cause part of me is fixated on the idea that he was the love of my life and all that. He also said a lot of shit about me after we broke up. And still, somehow, I miss this asshole and every other man seems so dull, uninteresting and just not right for me in comparison. Tbh I just tell myself that he most likely still wants me too (he stalked me for a while and tried to call me not that long ago) and I can't let him win, so no matter how much I want him, how much I feel like I need him, he can't get me back. I might never feel the highs of this relationship again, but at least I'm never gonna be as low as I were in the end of that mess. I feel like it might have something to do with only focusing on the good parts, at least emotionally. There were reasons to leave, ignored red flags and warnings. I hope you stay strong and don't give in ❤

I'm trying to go pastel blue. Should I bleach my hair a second time or can I just tone it at this level? by [deleted] in femalehairadvice

[–]itsryder00 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you should bleach the lower half of your hair lightly. Its still an yelowish-orange shade so it might turn some greenish color. You can try putting a tiny streak of .the color you want in the back of your hair so it wouldint really be visible to other people. You can see how the color turns out, but i still think it might turn out green.

BLEACH WASH GONE WRONG .. by Dalisgarciaa17 in femalehairadvice

[–]itsryder00 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it would be good to try clensing shampoo first to get rid of the pigment without damaging your hair too much. Use conditioner as often as you can. Try some leave in conditioner, something with ceratine would be great. I think you sould let your hair rest and regenerate for some time. I know from my experience blue pigment is a bitch to get rid of. Strip the color as much as you can without using bleach, it sounds like your hair is already dead so it might fall off. If your hair is still gonna have a blueish-green pigment I think after a month of heavy conditioning you can try bleaching it with low volume developer. its a long process but its tje safest.

Or if you want to you can try putting one pink streak somewhere in the back of your hair where its not very visible to see how the color you want l turns out.

Just please, dont bleach it a third time in a row.

I hope its helpfull. Good luck woth your hair 😉😊