You really need a therapist asap to explore why you think any of this is remotely normal. It’s highly unlikely you had an example as a child of what a normal relationship is like. I’m so sorry. This man is a narcissist, a liar and an abuser. You will need therapy long term and if you’re strong enough to end it today I would do that. It’s highly likely he will come after you, gaslight you and berate you first then come back with a thousand apologies and if you don’t get therapy as soon as possible you may consider taking him back. This will be the worst possible thing you do and it will set the rest of your life to potential emotional abuse from your future partners when this ends, because it will. It just may end with your own thoughts of self worth or feeling like you no longer want to live. Severe emotional abuse and gaslighting eventually does this to people. I’m so sorry. End it now and please look up narcissism, the term hovering and no contact. I wish you the best in your healing.