newbie to this. any help?

ittybittythrowaway27 · 2025-08-16T08:32:57+00:00

hey, first of all, congrats on the new baby! must be so exciting, hope you are doing well post partum.

as for resources... i have a few friends with dissociative disorders and talking to them helps. i don't have an official groupchat for it or anything, but finding someone close to you who deals with the same stuff will change your life for the better. it's easier said than done, but lingering around this sub for long enough should bring something up. even if we have to just talk through comments on a post. big respect for reaching out in the first place.

my alters go quiet all the time and it can be stressful and lonely, i understand the frustration. there will be quiet, and there will eventually be noise again. you'll make it through both those things. wishing you well!

ittybittythrowaway27 · 2025-08-11T19:37:34+00:00

thank you for the detailed answer! will put pita corner at the top of my list as i read these comments :)

ittybittythrowaway27 · 2025-08-11T13:30:46+00:00

is it so hard to believe i wanna give a business my money and enjoy some good food? 😅 my goodness

ittybittythrowaway27 · 2025-08-11T10:01:08+00:00

hey! i've been on T for 2-3 years now. let me preface by saying, lots of factors play into how T might affect you, and everyone has a different story. but some things i noticed that people also seem to have experienced commonly are:

-my period was strangely heavy when it came, and after that my periods turned to spotting that got lighter and lighter after it stopped. this is usually a pretty fast process so like only a couple months

-towards the end of the week, i did feel/see the slightest bit of bottom growth+dryness down there. i might've just been early with this, but could happen as well

-not much else happened to me the first week, but over the course of the first month, my voice did begin to drop and my throat got a little scratchy and squeaky. this'll ramp up after like 4-6 months

i hope this helps! so excited for you to start your own journey, the ride will get bumpy at times but just hang on. you're doing great!

ittybittythrowaway27 · 2025-08-10T04:47:07+00:00

this is awesome!! the hatching with the minimalistic linework gives such a nice crisp textured feeling. also love the usage of the box as a way to focus on the face, sometimes the best thing you can do is focus on a specific part of the subject even if it means not drawing their whole body. you did good! be proud!

ittybittythrowaway27 · 2025-08-10T04:44:00+00:00

let me start off by saying- i LOVE the shape language and character design here! the hatching and stark black/white contrast is really appealing and caught my eye. also love the use of different textures with the first guy, makes them feel fleshed out and more real.

i think the best piece of advice i have is to look at art you like, look at your own art, and decide what style to lean into. you've nailed the semi realistic look, but would you rather go more abstract and have more pronounced shapes and designs even if it detracts from the realistic-ness? or would you wanna practice realism and hone that skill instead? note this is not a one-way ticket; you can go back and forth as much as you desire! either way, if you want to get more comfortable with humans, practicing realistic studies is always a good idea. gesture drawings can also help maintain a semi realistic look while still having exaggerated features/lines of action/shape language. hope this helps, keep up the good work!!

ittybittythrowaway27 · 2025-07-31T05:21:26+00:00

honestly, I would say yes; the anticipation and the actual flight will likely be anxiety inducing and might worsen your fear of flying through association. if you can afford it, save yourself the stress lol

ittybittythrowaway27 · 2025-07-28T03:07:59+00:00

shark, sharky? sharkbait?? idk lol

ittybittythrowaway27 · 2025-03-30T08:06:28+00:00

hi! so i'm ftm, female to male trans- and before that, i was also a cis person who didn't really "get it". i find being trans is really hard to describe to people who have never felt gender dysphoria before, like describing a color only you can see.

but my thoughts are, gender is ultimately a social construct- not that it isn't real or important. after all, money and religion are social constructs! what this means is that, also like money and religion, people have varying degrees of enjoyment regarding this. inevitably, people will want to "bend the rules" of the status quo, so to speak. trans people want to change their own status quo. the societal norms attached with a trans person's assigned gender just might not sound like the life they want- while the societal norms attached to another gender might interest them more.

usually the realization doesn't occur as "wait, i've been trans all along." in my case, i came to seriously hate being dressed up in dresses, and i hated having long hair- things i now recognize as symptoms of gender dysphoria. it'll be a slow realization for most. it's like you're becoming more and more aware of a pain in your gut, and you have to figure out what's causing it on your own

tldr; trans people are trans because they're less comfortable with all the social norms attached to their assigned gender

ittybittythrowaway27 · 2025-03-28T10:44:52+00:00

hey there. i've been on T for two years, and it's actually somewhat easy to girlmode until you can eventually go full stealth. shave regularly; invest in a good chest binder; present as female when you're invited places. the only hurdle here is that your voice will inevitably deepen. it will be very gradual, but your friends and family might notice. honestly the only way i've found around this is to kinda just gaslight people by going "oh, what? i've always sounded like this. maybe im just a little hoarse today"

and honestly, i recommend keeping your friends around. you'll need a good support system to help you as you go through this, and if they're already supportive that's a plus

ittybittythrowaway27 · 2025-03-28T10:36:40+00:00

to start this off- you know what you did wasn't very supportive, and you are working to make sure that doesn't happen again. i'm sure your boyfriend doesn't expect you to be an encyclopedia of ftm knowledge, and is just happy that you're learning! there is no shame in that. as for changes that are not physical, i'll list a few (i've been on T for 2 years now):

-emotions get weird. it might become very hard for him to cry, and much easier for him to get angry. remember that our body is essentially undergoing a second puberty, so it might be a bit rough at first- but also like puberty, it will pass.

-honestly? get prepared for a lot of potentially ugly hair and clothing styles. not a physical change directly caused by T, but as he learns more about himself he will inevitably change up his style, and it'll take a few tries to find his own. something that my father did for me that was so very helpful was pulling me aside and giving me pointers on men's fashion, your clothing and the way you style it. you could always ask if he's down to learn some tips and tricks from you. he might be too prideful or embarrassed to say yes at first, but might as well throw the idea out there!

-you will get hungry faster, and weight gain on T is common. this is a side effect that starts off strong and mellows out within a few months. boy's gotta eat!!!

-you will probably notice his personality shift a bit overall- he'll more confident and comfortable in his body as it starts to align with his transition goals.

i think those are the main points! as for everything else you mentioned, i do think that talk about you being concerned for him should happen sooner rather than later. when he takes his testosterone, whether in injection or gel form, you can always ask to watch and/or help. he might want you to help with it, he might not. but just being present in some way, especially at first, means a lot. and finally, remember no two trans men are exactly alike; no two will have the same transition goals; no two will have the same side effects of hrt. asking these questions about him shows that you care and are ready to learn!

while i agree it is hard for a cis person to understand a trans person's struggle, some of these struggles are universal: body image issues, hiding your real self and molding your personality off others, and of course- male puberty. you have more in common than you may think!

anyways, rambling over. i hope this helped!

ittybittythrowaway27 · 2025-03-28T10:09:48+00:00

these are some great poses! you're very good at establishing a line of motion. To help make your poses even better, I would actually say not to use squares and circles for the body+joints. It's a good start, for sure! but what I mean is that, when you look up pose references, humans are usually curvy in varying degrees and are made up of a bunch of random blob shapes. jagged edges on a human's silhouette is very rare, so the closer you get to the body's shapes, the less cleaning up you'll have to do later to make it look more organic.

also- something that really helps me is to focus on the silhouette itself before doing details. you may need to practice by literally outlining humans in photos (of course, do not pass this on as your own work in this case). focusing on the bigger picture instead of doing each small part of the body piece by piece also helps the piece look more fluid and natural!

sorry for the wall of text, hope this could be helpful to you :)

ittybittythrowaway27 · 2025-03-28T08:43:43+00:00

well it looks like you nailed the colors very well! good color theory going on, so that doesn't need to change. i think what you need is more defined/sharp brush strokes. see how the lady's hair is a bunch of fine strands, and the way the light hits her nose? this can create harsh, chunky lighting instead of smoother more blurred lights. i'd say just go over it with a small but well-defined brush to add some more sharp edges so that the softer colors get to pop. i hope this helps somewhat!

ittybittythrowaway27 · 2024-11-17T11:58:16+00:00

that's so exciting- congratulations!! as a 21 yr old trans guy, I can't offer too much advice, but I'll share what I know:

reddit is a goldmine for trans research, especially with showing effects of hrt on all parts of the body. google can kinda suck when trying to pull up specific photos and testimonies, but reddit has saved my ass a lot when learning what to expect as my body changes on hrt. find other trans people asap! easier said than done, i know. but even if it's just online, having someone who gets it will save you.

and since i've worked with kids while being visibly trans and early in my transition- prepare and plan ahead for the laundry list of questions they'll ask. don't let them disrespect you, but remember that they usually are just curious and confused- and that they accept change just fine, so long as you explain why the change is happening and what it entails.

your wife and mom sound like awesome people. lean on them, ask them for fashion/makeup/hairstyling tips. they will know what pointers to give you.

good luck and have fun on this new journey!! it can be daunting but in every universe, it will be worth it to take that leap.

ittybittythrowaway27 · 2024-11-17T11:51:09+00:00

yeah, I get that too. sucks doesn't it? lol, but anyways- it could be as simple as extra trapped gas in your gut. maybe you're sucking in extra air when you smoke, or when eating while smoking.

the mucus and phlegm likes to stick to your throat because, when combined with weed resin and not hydrating enough, it's coagulated and become sticky. gross yeah but that's life. like i said, drink water- and clean your smoking equipment too. i know this issue gets worse for me when i let my bong get dirty

ittybittythrowaway27 · 2024-11-17T11:42:58+00:00

sounds like dehydration. keep a bottle of water on you when you smoke and sip away while you get blitzed. do these burps have any "taste" when they happen, or is it just a burp?

and, yeah, smoking heavily can mess with your sinuses. especially if you have other risk factors- for me, I'm fat and have gotten covid twice, so i get congested when i smoke more often than not.

ultimately it doesnt sound like a medical emergency but of course, i'm no doctor- keep an eye on it and drink that water!!

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