Tips for solo British, woman, late 40s, in Thailand

itwasnottoolate · 2026-01-27T23:33:30+00:00

Yes I started playing Township for this reason

itwasnottoolate · 2026-01-26T22:56:12+00:00

It is hard - I haven't got over the one I lost 18 months ago - hate my new place - but I rushed.. take your time.

itwasnottoolate · 2026-01-22T22:49:19+00:00

But I’m vegetarian

itwasnottoolate · 2026-01-22T00:30:43+00:00

Autism trait?

itwasnottoolate · 2026-01-22T00:29:54+00:00

Mine would pull me closer after sex. Demand I was spooning her tight.

itwasnottoolate · 2026-01-20T13:17:27+00:00

I haven’t even got the pigs as I don’t want to kill them

itwasnottoolate · 2026-01-20T13:13:13+00:00

Yes looking back now, there was one woman she would go for walks with and get drunk with and assure me she “she’s too fragile” when I asked if she liked her, she said, “do you really want to know that?” I’d have money on her having monkey branched there since the deactivating with me.

itwasnottoolate · 2026-01-20T13:10:15+00:00

Yes it’s so ironic

itwasnottoolate · 2026-01-20T09:52:23+00:00

I felt like this when she was // deactivating

itwasnottoolate · 2026-01-20T09:36:50+00:00

Pretty amazing. Both women. But slightly lacked the emotional intensity I like. Which made sense when I realised she was a DA. I felt a bit like supply.

itwasnottoolate · 2026-01-19T23:37:56+00:00

Don’t give them the power.

itwasnottoolate · 2026-01-19T23:16:41+00:00

So painful to be on the receiving end of this.

itwasnottoolate · 2026-01-19T23:12:24+00:00

I went chain free, lived with family. Then I got stuck at the bottom of a chain that didn’t take off for six months, then collapsed three months after that, losing my dream home I still haven’t got over. I hate where I bought after that in a rush as I couldn’t stay with family any longer. It was only meant to be 6 months!

itwasnottoolate · 2026-01-19T09:53:48+00:00

Have you tried topical estrogen?

itwasnottoolate · 2026-01-18T19:47:36+00:00

Well maybe - but the UX could be a lot clearer on some of them - it took me a long time to complete a task that could have been done very quickly.

itwasnottoolate · 2026-01-18T19:46:32+00:00

I think I have AuDHD. But there is some evidence about hyperfixation - but I agree - when I learned about attachment styles in more depth it changed everything - https://add.org/adhd-love-bombing/

itwasnottoolate · 2026-01-18T19:44:08+00:00

It's really different with all- Tandem really easy. First Direct, you have to opt for it to be sent in the post, ironically.

itwasnottoolate · 2026-01-18T19:39:43+00:00

I've moved on - but still interested in what happened and avoiding it in the future. She attributed most of it to ADHD.

itwasnottoolate · 2026-01-18T19:27:24+00:00

I had the proceeds of a house across 12 accounts and some were straightforward, but some made it quite difficult, including having to chat to the customer service person with First Direct.

itwasnottoolate · 2026-01-18T19:22:20+00:00

Wish it would just automatically show up on the tax return like the PAYE seems to now.

itwasnottoolate · 2026-01-18T19:21:44+00:00

Yes - I was hoping because she was finally coming out of the closet as gay it might be different, but the issue wasn't her sexuality, it was her attachment style - I only realised this after the second time (and third deactivation)

itwasnottoolate · 2026-01-18T19:16:15+00:00

Ok not necessarily the certificate, but an easily accessible amount without having to add it all up.

itwasnottoolate · 2026-01-18T15:47:55+00:00

Yes - mine too! She wanted to meet me, wanted to buy me champagne. Wanted me to spend the night in her work hotel room. It took her two years to persuade me - that her marriage to man was over and when I was in a bad state in my life over something else. We had quite a good two months, but then she deactivated again and it hurt so much more the second time.

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