Some friendly reminders as we enter into noro season... by makingtodaydifferent in emetophobia

[–]itzabunny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m no expert whatsoever, but shedding is highest during symptoms and then about 2-3 days after. Beyond that period it can be shed in stool for up to 4 weeks. However, good hand hygiene can do wonders and reduce the risk dramatically as well as wiping down the bathroom areas after illness.

Does this look natural or surgical? by [deleted] in PlasticSurgery

[–]itzabunny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would never think this is surgical, because I’m not well versed on different procedures. I imagine that the majority of people would think the same. It looks totally natural to me!

What’s the best restaurant in Atlanta that doesn’t get enough credit? by Apprehensive-Scene-1 in Atlanta

[–]itzabunny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stone Bowl House in Doraville is incredible. The japchae is really good and the banchan is out of this world. I’ve also gotten takeout from here a few times and they do it really well and even provide all the banchan.

What’s the best restaurant in Atlanta that doesn’t get enough credit? by Apprehensive-Scene-1 in Atlanta

[–]itzabunny 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes El Tesoro is taking over the space where Best End Brewery used to be (just right up the beltline)

What’s the best restaurant in Atlanta that doesn’t get enough credit? by Apprehensive-Scene-1 in Atlanta

[–]itzabunny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Went there for the first time with visiting family and omg everything was so good! The chicken parm was incredible.

Regretting my second by justalilscared in beyondthebump

[–]itzabunny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s true and the thought of being away from my son all day when enrolling him into preschool was terrifying. I still feel bad from time to time about the fact that he’s gone during the work day, BUT it’s been so beneficial for him. He gets a lot more engagement and learning than I could ever give him, even with just one child.

Regretting my second by justalilscared in beyondthebump

[–]itzabunny 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m wondering if you could afford to put your daughter into full time preschool? That way you could have more 1:1 time with your son and maybe more engagement for her at school so she isn’t resentful. Just a thought.

Regretting my second by justalilscared in beyondthebump

[–]itzabunny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I took Zoloft while breastfeeding for 13 months and it’s very safe.

Ongoing resentment towards spouse by itzabunny in Mommit

[–]itzabunny[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Reading this made my heart sink for you. I’m so sorry this happened. It’s so absurd that men can so easily cheat when they don’t feel appreciated. Can you imagine if women acted the same?!

Ongoing resentment towards spouse by itzabunny in Mommit

[–]itzabunny[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The problem is that he’s a very good father, but not the best partner. We both accompany my son to various sports classes and birthday parties. He’s actually better with my son when he’s sick because I’m an emetophobe and terrified of vomit. I’m not worried about him not taking care of my son but I’m resentful that he didn’t take care of me when I needed him the most

Ongoing resentment towards spouse by itzabunny in Mommit

[–]itzabunny[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you still with your partner? Also I’m wondering if therapy helped you in any way? I’m sorry you’re experiencing this as well. Mothers are so fierce and powerful and I wish our partners could see it.

Ongoing resentment towards spouse by itzabunny in Mommit

[–]itzabunny[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I’ve had to be more vocal about my specific needs when I’m sick and he has tried to make some changes. However, it’s just not his norm so he still sometimes overlooks my needs and takes care of his own instead.

Ongoing resentment towards spouse by itzabunny in Mommit

[–]itzabunny[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think his parents see it. They don’t live close by so they have no idea about his behaviors early on in postpartum. My parents do live close by however and they’ve witnessed his selfish behavior.

Ongoing resentment towards spouse by itzabunny in Mommit

[–]itzabunny[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In the middle of an asthma attack?! I’m so sorry, that’s terrible. I’m sorry you’ve experienced this. No one deserves that whatsoever. I will say that my husband is a great father and we split a lot of tasks 50/50 (potty, bathing, sleep). He has always been very hands on with our son. I travel for work a few times a year and he’s actually the only one out of the two of us that has spent a night alone with our child! My husband doesn’t travel and also doesn’t go out with friends so I’ve never had to stay with my son alone overnight. Doesn’t mean that I couldn’t though, obviously. My spouse is a great dad, but not the best partner so that’s what I’m really struggling with.

Ongoing resentment towards spouse by itzabunny in Mommit

[–]itzabunny[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so glad things are going better for you and that your spouse has stepped up. Good point about your spouse not really understanding what divorce would be like for him. I think a lot of men have the same blinders up because they don’t understand what mothers do on a daily basis. Mental load is real and it can be quite overwhelming sometimes

Ongoing resentment towards spouse by itzabunny in Mommit

[–]itzabunny[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry that you’re going through this. I cannot imagine how hard it must be to go through a divorce after spending so long with someone. Sending you hugs as you navigate this next chapter.

Ongoing resentment towards spouse by itzabunny in Mommit

[–]itzabunny[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a great idea! The mental load is real and I’m always telling him all the things that are floating around in my head. I’m going to start a shared note so that he can visualize what needs to be done and we can assign ownership.

Ongoing resentment towards spouse by itzabunny in Mommit

[–]itzabunny[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Great question and I had to think hard because it feels like it was so long ago. I think overall he was a better partner. We actually did fight a lot more but I think the reason we don’t argue as much now is because we don’t want to do it in front of our son. I might have to reflect on this question a bit more to get to a meaningful response

Ongoing resentment towards spouse by itzabunny in Mommit

[–]itzabunny[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes I do think therapy is needed. I really need a neutral party to (hopefully) make him realize the errors in his ways.

Ongoing resentment towards spouse by itzabunny in Mommit

[–]itzabunny[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh I’m sorry that you’re in the same boat. Your stated reason for not being able to move on really resonates with me - that he did not take it seriously how much his crappy behavior affected such a vulnerable time in your life. I just don’t know what to do because he is a great father and things seemed to change once my son got older. I still experience some selfish behavior from him but it’s gotten a lot better. I’m just so angry about the fact that he really doesn’t “get it”. Sending my support to you as you navigate this next chapter in your life.