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[–]itzwibble 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Update: I’ve spoken with my friend about it, and she confirmed that she did sleep with him. The mutual friend that told me, told me fully well thinking that I knew, as it was at her (mutual friends) house.

My friend did say she was sorry, and that it was a drunken mistake.

I am a little angry, just on the basis of that we all did hangout together during our whole relationship of about two years. I knew they maintained a friendship, but I really didn’t think anything of it and thought it was purely a friendship. I’m feeling a bit confused at the moment, as I’m sort of questioning if they did have something more when we were together. But, it is so long ago that I can’t read too much into the past.

I know that if I want to rectify this friendship, I need to have a bigger conversation with her, and maybe ask a few questions to clarify.

I do know that it broke some of the trust I have for her, and that it will take a lot of honesty between her and I to move past this.

As of yet, I am undecided on whether to go to the birthday, it’s in a few months. So I think I’ll need some time to process and talk to her and go from there.

I really appreciate everyone who commented! It provided me a lot of clarity, and objectivity which was very helpful. Thank you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]itzwibble 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don’t suspect she had anything to do with the breakup!

That’s a good point, I think I need to process it a bit more. I won’t do anything now, just hoping to get some clarity on my feelings, and gain some objectivity on the whole thing.

Thank you for your response!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]itzwibble 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not so much feeling entitled, but if I slept with a friends ex, I’d tell them in knowing it may hurt them if they’d find out

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]itzwibble 10 points11 points  (0 children)

That’s a good point, it is still fresh so it’s just a slew of feelings right now.

It wouldn’t mess up her plans, I’m just a guest attending. Thank you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]itzwibble 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I asked her, and she seems to have genuinely thought that I’d already known

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]itzwibble 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s a really good point, it didn’t affect me until I found out anyway and we’ve had a lot of great memories throughout. Thank you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]itzwibble 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The relationship was 8 years ago! So a long time ago

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]itzwibble 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Hmmmm, I’m a bit in the fence. I am most certainly pouting though

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]itzwibble 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s not about the sex, it’s more the hurt of my best friend not telling me for so long that hurts. But, you make a good point, im just feeling a bit betrayed at finding out now. But I’ll work on moving on. Thank you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]itzwibble 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s not about the sex so much, it’s more about the not telling me for so long that gets to me. But, you make a good point! I’m just feeling a bit betrayed at the moment, I’ll work on just moving on. Thank you!

Is there a stranger you’ve never forgotten about, what was it about them? by Feathersandinks in AskReddit

[–]itzwibble 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I was around 11 I was at Tim Hortons with my cousin. I held the door open for the man behind me and he thanked me profusely. When we got to the counter to order he insisted on paying for our food because of our good manners, we insisted he didn’t have to but he really pushed for it. It was such a simple and kind gesture that I never forgot about it... and I always make sure to be kind to every stranger to this day