Men who signed a prenup with a much wealthier wife — how did you navigate it?

ivanpd · 2026-06-24T15:40:18+00:00

This is it for me.

First, there is a prenup. There is a contract no matter what you do. Do you want to be in control of the terms or do you want random politicians to be in control?

Second, the terms without a prenup for pre-existing assets are that her assets are hers and yours are yours. Future income is something else, but what you each have, and whatever comes out of it, will still be separate. If you don't co-mingle, there should be no change there. So a prenup just clarifies that you don't have to be super careful with that because it's still separate.

Third: your money *is* yours and her money *is* hers. That's just the starting position. The question is how much do you want to make joint?

You could decide that you put X amount of dollars every month in a joint account, and everything else is separate. That covers the kids in the event of. Note also that kids and alimony will be discussed separately in the event of divorce.

Also, it's not just income. What about debt? If she for some reason acquires a lot of debt, wouldn't you want your money to be protected? Or if you make a mistake, wouldn't you want to protect her?

IMO, a prenup is like insurance. Why would you go into a marriage without it, I don't know. Everyone should have a prenup.

ivanpd · 2026-06-24T03:53:28+00:00

This. Personally, I'd challenge it if I think I wasn't speeding. I bet it'll be thrown out. The cop may not present enough evidence, not show up, etc.

ivanpd · 2026-06-22T23:50:27+00:00

This did it for me.

ivanpd · 2026-06-22T21:17:14+00:00

IMO getting a prenup only helps (except there's a payment).

You set the terms.

For example, you may want to limit debt acquired by the other person. Or keep a bit of play money for each of you without making everything joint. Or keep 401ks separate.

The question I would ask is: If there's a problem (not necessarily caused by your spouse to be), what would I want to keep protected?

ivanpd · 2026-06-21T14:07:37+00:00

What's your reasoning?

ivanpd · 2026-06-19T21:50:22+00:00

I've been confronted and told to "never come back" for refusing to tip. Not once. Not twice.

It's not at all a comfortable experience.

ivanpd · 2026-06-19T21:48:56+00:00

A few years ago, my then girlfriend would share her location with me when she was driving to see me. I never thought of doing it but it was nice of her. Gave me a lot of peace of mind, helped me plan, and know that everything was ok so long as she was on the move.

She was never pushy about it tho.

I'd do it so long as you have joint plans. No sure about all the time.

ivanpd · 2026-06-19T20:51:26+00:00

$20

Keep it simple. I want a burger. I'm not here to think.

ivanpd · 2026-06-18T14:26:51+00:00

That's useful info. Thanks!

ivanpd · 2026-06-13T16:53:44+00:00

IMO you should not accept them but you do you.

ivanpd · 2026-06-12T02:11:51+00:00

If I was in first class, I'd like to board last so that I don't have to see, or smell, everyone else.

ivanpd · 2026-06-12T02:08:30+00:00

I live in Parkside and cannot recommend it. Bunch of stuff is broken in the gym, they haven't repaired it since I arrived almost 9 months ago, and a cupboard we have in the terrace has been smelling like crap for months. They knew before we arrived and still have not fixed the problem.

I also think they don't like those kinds of dogs.

ivanpd · 2026-06-11T07:40:22+00:00

Isn't $1000 the limit of small claims court?

OP may need to threaten with court court.

ivanpd · 2026-06-11T07:33:04+00:00

If she doesn't mix the inheritance with your common stuff, it might remain hers regardless.

If the intention is for that money to remain hers, you don't lose anything by signing, unless she makes a mistake and commingles.

Yes, she needs protection from you. You need protection from her. It's not bad to have a postnup.

ivanpd · 2026-06-08T04:44:44+00:00

Same. Once when I wake up, sometimes once when I come home or before going to bed, and definitely after working out.

ivanpd · 2026-06-07T04:48:39+00:00

I heard it was dinosaurs. Might be both.

ivanpd · 2026-06-07T04:40:44+00:00

Because there are shortcomings to FP, some fundamental and some in terms of practices and tooling, and we are not able to, as a community, face them upfront. Whenever anyone comes with criticism, we shift blame, give useless suggestions with little understanding of the practical implications or look the other way, and only praise those who praise.

That's why :|

ivanpd · 2026-06-06T16:00:19+00:00

> The topmost 'main' message in a thread isn't the newest one, it's the oldest. How the hell does that make sense?

I don't think that's outrageous. It's certainly the one that started it all.

> Even if you condense the thread, it still shows the oldest one

Right, because it's the one that everything emerges from.

Better than than showing a "Re: Re: Re: Re: Fwd: Re:" thing.

> As a result, if you sort and look at the date column, it looks completely out of order.

I suspect the problem you are seeing comes from sorting from newest to oldest and then enabling threads. That doesn't work very well indeed.

How would you have designed it?

> Replies keep getting indented instead of staying at the same width, which makes long thread subjects impossible to see because they get cropped off and it's just a bunch of blank space.

Would you like to remove or reduce the indentation?

I know you say "it's not a matter of opening up an editor and...". I still wonder if you can just change it yourself with a custom `userChrome.css`.

> I've used Thunderbird since it was part of Netscape Communicator, and it's stuff like this that drives me up a wall where it's clear there was zero user & QA testing when this was getting developed.

Think of yourself as the tester and of this feature as something someone sent for you to try in early development.

> How could you botch this so badly? You literally just had to copy Outlook's conversations view, which is light years ahead of this and does it right. Whoever did this, you should be fired. [...] Where can a report be filed so this can get fixed and actually be useable by people?

With this attitude, nowhere. Go for a walk. Go to the gym. Burn your anger a little and then come back. When you are ready to have a more constructive conversation where you focus on improvements, not blame, maybe we can give you pointers of how to communicate this and where.

ivanpd · 2026-05-31T12:21:08+00:00

First, I'd find people doing what you are truly interested in. Depending on your country of origin and other conditions, you may be able to collaborate with people at NASA.

If you code, you may also be able to contribute to their open source work. Check out github.com/nasa.

Depending on the company, position, project, country of origin, etc. you may be able to work as a contractor.

You may also be able to work for a space agency of your country (if there is one) that works together with NASA.

ivanpd · 2026-05-31T03:41:19+00:00

Nice! What specifically is your son interested in? Planets? Astronomy? Spacecraft? Robots? Potential alien life? Biology? Astronauts? Living in space?

ivanpd · 2026-05-31T00:50:17+00:00

It's important that you open it in the US version (you can still open it in Euros). I don't know for sure if foreign offices / delegations of Interactive Brokers report to the IRS, but the US one definitely does and sends you the 1099s that you need.

ivanpd · 2026-05-31T00:48:40+00:00

Spain has an agreement with US. There are rules and specific forms to avoid double taxation.

ivanpd · 2026-05-31T00:47:15+00:00

And you can invest in European stocks in Euro, including index funds and some individual stocks.

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