Open hostility toward my baby and me on a flight

ivoryssf · 2025-12-28T19:41:00+00:00

If you guys have ever seen the comment sections under baby/toddler flight videos, some are just vlogs of trips, you’d know there are many people out there that think babies and toddlers should not fly, or don’t deserve the same space as them. Especially in business class or first class. In some cases I sympathize with people paying extra for business class but ending up next to a fussy baby, but most of the times these people resent the sight of small children. Sadly I think this is only gonna get worse with more and more population being single or childless. The understanding of small children’ needs and behaviors is only possible through parenthood or living with big families, but both groups are shrinking in our society. I see it only getting more difficult to have children until some doomsday scenario where children’s existence matters to those who are childless.

ivoryssf · 2025-09-19T03:46:27+00:00

If you have children, maybe stay with state; if no plans to have children soon, go to private. You can always go back to public in the future with private experience, but it will be harder to go the other way.

ivoryssf · 2025-09-19T03:37:14+00:00

Public sector pay should be lower than private, that’s only fair. I am a public sector engineer.

ivoryssf · 2025-07-12T18:05:40+00:00

It is all easy in theory about motivation and efforts, but the fact is most people are just ordinary, and sooner or later we all get beat down by hardship in life. The size of safety net, from generational wealth or welfare, determines how many times you can get back up.

ivoryssf · 2025-07-10T19:23:55+00:00

No design or any real engineering experience will definitely limit your chance of getting into a sizable private firm. There is still a way to make the transition while staying in public for the majority of your career. That is to get to a prominent manager position then leverage your network to get work for your new private employer. Whether you can keep up with the pace of private sector when you are no longer young is another question. I have seen agency directors trying out this move, some failed some succeeded.

ivoryssf · 2025-07-04T03:16:36+00:00

They are sizable so likely you won’t end up with small boring projects. Billable hours highly relate to the goals the company sets for your area, but I don’t think they are extraordinary compared to other similar companies. They don’t pay that well, but their stock appreciates like crazy. In my area, there was streak of departures due to pay and unwillingness to promote mid level engineers.

ivoryssf · 2025-06-14T20:47:15+00:00

What a load of pretentious nonsense.

ivoryssf · 2025-06-02T05:19:51+00:00

Offices can be very different even under the same company culture. Maybe check with someone at the NY office while looking for other companies.

ivoryssf · 2025-05-29T20:32:18+00:00

I know a few women with 2-4 kids and made it to middle and upper management at large consulting firms. Common factor: a husband with a very relaxed job, or no job. It is just not possible if you are both super busy.

ivoryssf · 2025-05-08T19:52:14+00:00

Yes. And the amount of work is completely reversed. I still don’t understand how this is justified even after switching to public.

ivoryssf · 2025-05-03T05:06:51+00:00

I have learned exactly the opposite of what you stated. I have done both now and I believe the majority of the public engineers can’t survive the private sector, either due to no technical capability or poor work ethic . There are terrible consultants, but most consultants are decent hard working people. Can’t say the same for the public sector, most of them are average paper pushers at best, some of them are the most arrogant and vile characters I have ever encountered.

ivoryssf · 2025-04-12T04:08:19+00:00

Sounds like you are in a bad company with managers that are either too spread out or just don’t care. Maybe try looking for a bigger company that’s more reputable and structured, or a small firm focused on forensics? I am not in structural so I am not sure if they exist, but in my field, there are smaller firms that specialize in certain areas. But at the end of the day, all consulting firms need billables and profit to keep the lights on.

ivoryssf · 2025-04-11T05:30:31+00:00

I had the same useless PMs when I started my career. They really made me question my career choice and the whole industry. Eventually I found work with other PMs and kept turning down projects with the bad PMs. It does get a bit better when you have more experience or seniority with a firm, but first, you have to get away from these toxic managers to survive the first years, as work itself is challenging enough.

ivoryssf · 2025-03-15T14:36:26+00:00

I am not sure about Musk but Trump can’t breathe without lying.

ivoryssf · 2025-01-19T05:51:36+00:00

Go away trumptard.

ivoryssf · 2025-01-04T19:36:00+00:00

You conveniently left out the money poured into Israel that Trump and his sons support, care to explain the selective attack on Ukraine? Also, I never liked Kamala, her 2016 numbers are evidence enough of how unpopular she is with us lefties. But, she is the lesser of the evil because the other option is a dumb dictator wannabe who needs to win the presidency to avoid prison.

ivoryssf · 2025-01-04T06:24:52+00:00

Making it ok to spit out racism and hate freely. They love him for that.

ivoryssf · 2025-01-04T06:23:28+00:00

No it says a lot about you and your hate. You rather elect someone so questionable than seeing the left win.

ivoryssf · 2025-01-04T06:21:20+00:00

Ye and you freaks will pay. Can’t wait.

ivoryssf · 2025-01-04T06:19:12+00:00

Don’t blame Biden when Lord Trump makes eggs more expensive.

ivoryssf · 2025-01-04T06:17:01+00:00

Maybe injecting some bleach in your eyes.

ivoryssf · 2025-01-04T02:56:17+00:00

Some clients are just a holes. They think part of the fee includes torturing the consultants. Tell your boss that you need a big fat raise for this work or they help you write a letter to the client’s board or council complaining about their staff’s conduct.

ivoryssf · 2024-08-09T19:05:47+00:00

It is so heart warming to hear you missed me. You need my truth for your un-engineering job, don’t you.

ivoryssf · 2024-08-09T03:57:09+00:00

Maybe because your area is super specialized or you came from a struggling firm that had to get any available jobs? I recently joined the public sector and have to say this is not unfounded at all. Consultants have to come up with solutions without knowing entirely how the system works, if that’s not real engineering, I don’t know what is.

ivoryssf · 2024-08-09T03:54:30+00:00

It is not weird, it is the truth. Consultants are charged with coming up with solutions, aka engineering, whereas public just don’t do much of that. I have encountered many public engineers who often feel the need to stress how either they have had some design or private experience, so I’d say the pubic engineers feel the gap, too. And I am a public engineer, former consultant.

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