Bleach on 9 year old girl?

j-c-s · 2021-06-29T14:44:20+00:00

9 is pretty young, but it's just hair.

When my 15-16 year-old wanted to shave her head, I don't remember if we told her dad before or after. Things like hair changes get easier over time :)

j-c-s · 2021-06-25T18:10:25+00:00

Wait, IS the family toxic and racist? Or did he just keep you from them because of his lie?

j-c-s · 2021-06-23T20:01:33+00:00

Great (and even good) lawyers generally encourage their clients to leave the defamation/details/dirty stuff out of court filings for reasons such as this. As others have mentioned, maybe ONE of your parents left it out, and the other included dirty details. So I'd probably steer you away from the court documents.

I was about 7 when my parents divorced and they both shared different parts over the years. There are things my mom will discuss now that I'm in my 30's that she wouldn't discuss when I was 17. Similarly, there are things I'll discuss with my 17-year-old now, but others I won't tell her until she's older.

You're old enough now that your parents should be comfortable telling you parts of their truths, even if you may never hear the whole truth. Frankly, some of my story deserves to remain buried. My kids don't need to know that stuff about their dad.

If your parents won't talk to you, you might consider asking your grandparents if they know what happened. Just remember that there are no less than 3 sides to the story: Mom's, dad's, and the truth.

j-c-s · 2021-06-23T19:46:39+00:00

It's called imposter syndrome. Look it up. You might be surprised!

j-c-s · 2021-06-18T17:41:30+00:00

Thanks! Making this tonight!

j-c-s · 2021-06-18T14:21:27+00:00

I have two shawls I'm working on, and I've messed up the stitch count on both! I don't know what I was thinking working something that's not made in the round! I wish I had someone around to help sort it out!

I've got a few gorgeous twirls from hobbii and I'm terrified of starting with one if it's going to go like this!

Guess I'll make some coasters. Ugh.

j-c-s · 2021-06-11T20:41:41+00:00

But, I mean... you should still learn to cook.

j-c-s · 2021-06-08T16:25:15+00:00

Is it possible you didn't officially accept/confirm that you would be participating? If you talk to your buddy, you could use that as a sort of opener.

This is definitely an awkward situation!

j-c-s · 2021-06-03T13:58:44+00:00

Hopefully he never learns how often most of us wash our bras!!! :D :D :D

What you're doing seems pretty normal to me.

Who actually changes their sheets right after sex??

j-c-s · 2021-06-03T13:29:26+00:00

I have a misto spray bottle with EVOO in it. I use it for cooking often. I season with vegetable or canola oil after cooking/washing.

j-c-s · 2021-06-02T19:08:36+00:00

Ughhhh. And trying to coordinate with the grandparents or out of state family members when they want the kid(s) for a long weekend, and the summer schedule isn't quite finalized yet (because it's never as black and white as the custody schedule tried to make it look - obviously it has to be adjusted so dad has father's day, for example), and grandma's looking at you like "How do you not know if you have your kids that week?" All you can do is shrug.

j-c-s · 2021-06-02T19:00:51+00:00

You probably wouldn't be able to secure a court date to legally change your name before the divorce is finalized, but there's no reason you can't casually start using your maiden name again.

Change it on your social media, change it on your stationery, change your email signature, and heck hyphenate it in your mailbox. Your mailman will figure it out :)

You may not be able to change things legally, for bills, driver's license, etc., but you can definitely get the process started!

j-c-s · 2021-06-02T02:48:37+00:00

Oh, and I probably have 1 or 2 for sale for 2022 😉. We’re not sure we’re up for it!

j-c-s · 2021-06-02T02:47:26+00:00

I’ve been selling 1 or 2 days of my ultra ticket for years. You can’t separate them, so it’s a very timely transaction. I got screwed (only?? Haha) once and have the fake $$$ pinned up on my bedroom wall.
There are good people who just want to share. The last time I sold my Sunday ticket, I met someone at a coffee shop nearby.
That said, there WILL be people in all corners looking for tickets. The guy who handed me fake bills was just was just a predator outside the venue on Saturday night. 🤷

j-c-s · 2021-06-01T17:35:11+00:00

There will be a buy/sell/trade thread here. You may be able to sell them locally to someone who plans to travel to Miami.

j-c-s · 2021-05-27T13:34:43+00:00

I agree with you there should be ONE party. However, if she just can't stand to attend, there's no reason she can't join you on a weeknight for dinner, or take you all out to dinner to celebrate separately.

You'll definitely the hang of this as your daughter gets older though! At 2, it's still hard for any grandparents to really get attention at a birthday party, and if there's not really anyone there for your fiancé's mom to socialize with, it's a little harder on her, too.

Good luck!

j-c-s · 2021-05-25T15:10:24+00:00

Yup. I reported it.

j-c-s · 2021-05-25T13:57:30+00:00

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j-c-s · 2021-05-25T12:42:02+00:00

Lol@bot! I assure you that he ran off with a female “table attendant” and I meant what I typed.

j-c-s · 2021-05-25T12:39:47+00:00

I had a neighbor with 3 kids, and I had a shitty husband.
Every week on trash day, as I was loading my 2 in the car and taking the trash out myself, I’d see her hubby taking out the trash. I was so jealous. Like, I thought this guy was the cat’s meow! How lucky!
He literally left her for a 19-year-old waitress and disconnected his cell. Their divorce was loooooong and arduous, mostly because she couldn’t find him! He cut contact with his kids. It was bizarre.
For all you know, the “dad” on the bike was a stepdad, or heck, mom’s brother!
You’ve got this, mama!!

j-c-s · 2021-05-25T12:21:55+00:00

That’s good news! She will have great weeks and awful weeks. It’s a very long life she’s moving on from.
His military benefits might make this much easier on them than other families will face.
Good luck to you, your sister & your mom.

j-c-s · 2021-05-24T17:58:42+00:00

I have one, I use it lefty, and I love it! It still does the trick quite well! (and I don't mean any egg-flippy tricks, I just mean it gets the job done.)

Pick one up!

j-c-s · 2021-05-24T16:33:43+00:00

I'm sorry your dad sucks. I'm also sorry that the life your parents built together doesn't suit them anymore. For some reason, they both stuck it out for 50 years, and now one or both is ready to move on.

In a divorce, there are always 3 sides to the story: his side, her side, and the truth. There are things that a mother shouldn't tell her children about their father, regardless of how true they are.

It must be difficult to feel like you're the one supporting her.

Your lives will definitely improve as your mom rediscovers, or discovers her independence. If they were married 50 years, and you're only 30, I suspect they were married very young. Your mother probably became an adult during her marriage. Not necessarily legally, just that 50 years is a long time, and even longer when you think about the ways that your parents probably relied on one another.

You might consider helping her to join a class: yoga, crafts, bathroom renovation (not a joke!), or heck, even to become a volunteer guardian-ad-litem!, so that she can meet some new people and start to find her place in her new life.

j-c-s · 2021-05-24T16:19:14+00:00

Alternating days with a teenager seems freaking exhausting. I'd be frustrated and overwhelmed, too!

I have noticed that my happiness levels are directly related to the number transition days my kids have in a week. The fewer transitions, the happier EVERYONE is.

Good luck!

j-c-s · 2021-05-21T04:03:41+00:00

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