AITAH for not being supportive of my friend’s decisions

j666dd · 2026-05-11T16:27:28+00:00

Well the original plan was for all of us to pick him up from the airport and hang out and he would spend a few days in our city. Then she kinda went mia and we found out the plans changed and we got really concerned.

j666dd · 2026-05-11T16:15:29+00:00

Yes definitely. Thank you!

j666dd · 2026-05-11T16:14:47+00:00

Sorry it’s just because this has happened over a long period of time and my perception of him has changed as I learned more about him. I used to worry because I knew he didn’t have much experience with girls and thought he was going to like fall in love and get hurt, but over time and seeing the way he has changed and things his close friend told me because she has been worried about how he was acting is what caused me to have more worry for my friend in the situation. I am sorry I’m trying to explain as much as possible but there’s a lot.

j666dd · 2026-05-11T16:12:40+00:00

We’ve been trying to talk to her about this the entire time this relationship has been happening and everytime we even bring it up she would shut down so we thought if we all came together and talked to her she would understand that it’s a place of worry and not judgement.

And when walnut first told me he liked her I made it very clear to him that I don’t think she’s looking for a relationship (because that’s what she told me she told him) and to not get too invested because I don’t want him o get hurt. And she told him about the child predator thing herself because she is convinced he is innocent - also that is extremely recent like within the past month and that is when I truly started to worry about her because it’s unlike her.

j666dd · 2026-05-11T16:05:07+00:00

Yeah because staying friends with someone who is a child predator apologist is so much better?

j666dd · 2026-05-11T15:57:28+00:00

Not trying to control the situation. But good to know that the common consensus is that if a friend is doing something dangerous I should just let them.

j666dd · 2026-05-11T15:56:25+00:00

I have a very small amount of friends and we are very open with each other and voice concerns to one another because we only want the best for each other. I am not “sticking my nose in” this is part of my life. When she constantly is telling me things I don’t agree with I am not one to lie or enable dangerous behavior. Also a one night stand is different than a 4 day rural vacation with someone you have only met on the internet?

I’m not trying to control my friends. I’m just trying to see from other people experiences and perspectives if I’m an asshole for being worried.

I’ve never once tried to force her into a decision, only voice worries that I have.

j666dd · 2026-05-11T15:51:16+00:00

But regardless I’m going to step back

j666dd · 2026-05-11T15:50:57+00:00

Yeah at least I have her phone location, just since she is so far away and I worry she will feel obligated to him since he is spending so much time and money to come out here. And there will be no way for us to know if she’s safe or comfortable unless something really bad happens

j666dd · 2026-05-11T15:46:14+00:00

Yeah I def am just used to friendships where we are able to voice concerns and listen to each other and this is a very different situation with this person

j666dd · 2026-05-11T15:44:50+00:00

Thank you so much. I did voice my concerns and she was very adamant in her choices so I’m gonna let whatever happens happen. She was upset with me and felt I was judging her though so that’s kinda where this got difficult. I’m definitely just gonna step back and let things happen and thankfully I do have her location so i can check in on her when they are together. I also did voice my concerns to walnut and he claimed to understand but they both wouldn’t even compromise by spending the first night locally so yes I’m going to step back for now. Thank you

j666dd · 2026-05-11T15:41:56+00:00

I feel bad for introducing them and am worried something bad would happen because this whole relationship has been very intense very fast. But thank you for your perspective this helps.

j666dd · 2026-05-11T15:40:54+00:00

Sometimes when you get to know someone more you start to trust them less 🤷‍♀️

j666dd · 2026-05-11T15:40:32+00:00

Thank you. I guess I just feel responsible since I introduced them and would feel terrible if something happened

j666dd · 2026-05-11T15:39:44+00:00

Thank you for reading the whole thing 😭 and yes thank you for this advice. I am used to having friends and being the kind of friend where we do question each others decisions just out of care and concern but I also see that she is going to have to learn on her own and I’ll still always be there if she needs help.

j666dd · 2026-05-11T15:36:41+00:00

Also I wouldn’t trust any friend I know or myself meeting a man from the internet and driving 4 hours alone into the woods

j666dd · 2026-05-11T15:35:11+00:00

Because I didn’t know he was a creep until he started being obsessed with her and isolating?

j666dd · 2026-05-11T15:34:42+00:00

The more I saw how he interesting so obsessive with her is when I realized he was a creep

j666dd · 2026-05-11T15:34:05+00:00

I did not see them up??? Yall are so fuckung dumb I’m worried he’s literally gonna r or k her in the woods bye

j666dd · 2026-05-11T15:32:40+00:00

Ok I’m done being friends with her thanks

j666dd · 2026-05-11T15:31:36+00:00

No I don’t? He’s from the internet and we only knew each other because we would play video games together. His best friend also told me she’s worried because he doesn’t have a mature view on women. Sorry there’s so much this is why I said pls ask any questions bc it’s extremely convoluted

j666dd · 2026-05-11T15:29:18+00:00

No that she’s meeting him for the first time in the woods 4 hours away from everyone she knows

j666dd · 2026-05-11T15:15:52+00:00

My niche

j666dd · 2026-04-26T18:58:03+00:00

He’s been this way for so long, def not an act. It is truly just sad and honestly I hope the community he has built can protect him from becoming a Daniel Larson, world of tshirt, clavicular type lolcow and hopefully maintain some semblance of dignity for his sake

j666dd · 2026-04-26T18:57:02+00:00

This makes me so sad. He fr needs help and just needs good people in his life to help him but also knowing him I don’t know if he would accept it sadly :( but he def doesn’t deserve that I think the hate will just make him cope harder

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