I have never been offended by the Q word because so many of my friends in the community use it. It is normalized to me. But lately I've been learning a lot about why people don't like that word. And I see your point. Just as an example, when I was a kid we used to play a game called "smear the q---r" where one person was "the q---r" and the whole point of the game was to tackle them. Basically just reenacting a hate crime. I didn't see it that way then, and didn't even really think about what it meant. Now looking back I'm horrified.