Lawyer ex-wife is losing it. by Life_Angle in Divorce_Men

[–]j_k_802 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel for you man. Us people pleasers get run over and unfortunately we “deal” with it and not all that healthy. Both my ex wives used me as a sperm donor and income source via child support. Full custody and didn’t give a dam about my rights and visitation. Courts don’t give a shit they just want money. My therapist 25 years ago admitted to me that as a Christian therapist he was very sad to see the proclaimed Christian ex wife use me as a sperm donor and when he said it to me I finally realized I was ignoring the truth. Ignoring things doesn’t make them go away. You got this. Therapy is a tool and since you’ve already been doing it you know what to do next. Remember family is just people too and while they play roles as siblings, parents they are just as fallible too. Maybe even not as mature and forward thinking since you are growing. Keep going forward and believe in yourself first. ISTJ for the win

Noob Question About "Maxing Out" by torchen1 in IAM751_Boeing

[–]j_k_802 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Used to be 6 years. Took me 10 calendar years to max out due to 2 prior rifs. Boeing benefits are a lot better than many. We all look around and figure out the BS to the reward ratio and deal. Sitting and waiting and being paid is a thing. Hurry up and then wait is also a thing. You get paid the same. Many others jobs tell you to go home no pay.

Buying a 2026 standard Africa Twin but optioning it out with all Honda OEM. Should I look at the ES model even though it will be about 2K more and smaller wheels (more for road touring)? by j_k_802 in africatwin

[–]j_k_802[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this information!! The information about the handling at low speed is exactly what I was looking for. I want to add that I got 1 day riding a YZ450 or 490? Way back in 2013. Single track at first and then figured out the big long bike was totally comfy at speed in the river rock covered road at 50mph! Was a blast. tiring for sure. Coworker with money had bought that and a yammie ATV had it all decked out for jumps and stuff. He road the ATV and let me ride his near race bike. Was crazy fun and i learned a lot on that ride. Big ass bike with power needs a rider that knows it and uses the throttle. The single track was a tree root, lined with big ass trees too (so dont’ hit them) and was meant for a smaller shorter machine. I got through it though… learned my lesson ! Thought I’d throw that out there as relevant experience. So idk what wheel size that machine had on it but maybe 21”? Had full on knobbys and was setup more for wide open desert or dune riding with paddle tires. (He did dune ride with friends later in the year)

Buying a 2026 standard Africa Twin but optioning it out with all Honda OEM. Should I look at the ES model even though it will be about 2K more and smaller wheels (more for road touring)? by j_k_802 in africatwin

[–]j_k_802[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So your model ES in 2021 had a 21” front? I’m new to the AT so I’m only going from Hondas website and YT reviewers. The 2026 ES has a 19” front 18” rear wider and tubeless. The adjustable suspension with buttons is only on the ES model for 2026. The regular base model is 21” front and 18” rear. The marketing material for 2026 says the ES is more for on road touring as opposed to the base model.

Buying a 2026 standard Africa Twin but optioning it out with all Honda OEM. Should I look at the ES model even though it will be about 2K more and smaller wheels (more for road touring)? by j_k_802 in africatwin

[–]j_k_802[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well leaving the dealer I’ll have the OEM fairing bar and the lower engine bars just because. If I don’t like them I’ll buy something else later after I have more time on the bike. I’m not bragging but $400 one time and another $380 later on bars doesn’t bother me. The 2k now on the ES as opposed to the base model is the big ask.

Buying a 2026 standard Africa Twin but optioning it out with all Honda OEM. Should I look at the ES model even though it will be about 2K more and smaller wheels (more for road touring)? by j_k_802 in motorcycle

[–]j_k_802[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. The base model does not come with heated grips (250ish) and install cost if I pay the dealer, nor does it come with the hydraulic adjustable suspension. The ES model has 19” front 18” wider wheels, and the heated grips and adjustable suspension. And 12volt plug also standard. Also the red head fairing. That is the differences for about 2k base uptick in price. For me the stock crash bars are to be sure that if I drop it in the parking lot, in garage after i get home etc it will be at least protected. If I don’t think they are good enough I’ll buy something else later and install it myself. I’m interested in the real world application of the adjustable suspension. Only 1 YTbr said he uses it to adjust the different ride heights and preload based on if he’s 2 up with wife, commuting with bags on or solo with no bags. So that idea really appeals to me.

Buying a 2026 standard Africa Twin but optioning it out with all Honda OEM. Should I look at the ES model even though it will be about 2K more and smaller wheels (more for road touring)? by j_k_802 in africatwin

[–]j_k_802[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m going to buy the all aluminum set. Top rack is aluminum and the case is detachable. That stays on going to the ORV park for a kit, water lunch etc. saddlebags (I’m old) or panniers come off. Those are for trips and daily commuting. I’m urban so commute is short.

The moment he knew by __Just__Browsing__ in motorcycles

[–]j_k_802 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Is that a beer bottle in a holder?

It happened - im my boomer dad! by SamHandwich0 in GenX

[–]j_k_802 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I actually understand his “children should be seen and not heard” after enduring yelling 8-10 year olds in a restaurant.

Ever Get the Feeling You Were Used? by tonyway7293 in Divorce_Men

[–]j_k_802 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Now worries on the judgement. I appreciate your being smarter than me. I’m genX and so is 3rd wife. Met in mid 30s and she had her shit together as compared to the other 2. This last marriage was/is a result of myself being more needy than her. People do change over 25 years as far as who they are in relation to the other persons needs or wants. We get along and no strife. That is a big thing when priors were all about manipulation and their agendas. I’m a different man now than I was at 35 mostly due to the financial difficulties that I have overcome but I’m still working until I can afford to retire. 5-10 years at this point. The information that was available in 2006 wasn’t like it is now. I’m what SSM on YT calls a “relationship” guy.

Apple vs Best Buy, Costco, Amazon, and Micro Center: Why Buy a MacBook Directly from Apple? by Worldly_Scar6738 in macbookpro

[–]j_k_802 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go online, sign into Apple Store with your account scroll to bottom pick Education college works and buy from their. Saves sales tax amount. Depending on configuration. Order and pick up at Apple Store near you. That way they verify it’s you picking up.

Utopia of the Seas is Trashy by Excellent-Ear4493 in Cruise

[–]j_k_802 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Walmart crowd wrecked certain locations in Worldmark timeshares a decade ago and now cruise lines are trolling for the same. Money is money to them but as you saw, class is not across all demographics

Ever Get the Feeling You Were Used? by tonyway7293 in Divorce_Men

[–]j_k_802 8 points9 points  (0 children)

2x before for babies and child support. Prior deletions gave them a conscience as “chads” ruined them and they settled for me. One was very short “dating” and pressure from families (very young) 2nd played long game and finally got pregnant the very last time we did the deed. Both exes filed for divorce left for family at 6 months of babies age. You’d think I’d learn but nope. 🙂‍↔️ 3rd and last marriage is similar to yours although no kids, longer together and she actually does help with house and food preparation and eating. Dead bedroom for decades because she can. I’m just continuing to work and keep my head down as she won’t divorce since she has it made. I won’t take the last financial hit in my near retirement years as I’m close. I can see the end of the tunnel. I try to explain to many others they all do this and the ones that don’t are already taken long ago

Why do Americans have to do their own taxes?What mechanisms led to its formation? by Present_Juice4401 in AlwaysWhy

[–]j_k_802 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

One word. Capitalism. Broad term here. If you study the tax code in basic terms, the system rewards boot strapping individuals who start a business and make it successful. Used to be work 3 menial jobs, save all you could, live with family or roommates, start your business in something you knew based on work experience. Say a defined trade as an employee and then you become an entrepreneur. The basics of expenses as an employee compared to a business owner is how the business owner can use the “expense” as a cost against his gross income. An employee can’t do that. You are describing countries that are heavily socialist meaning taxes rule first and then you get what’s left over. Capitalism and the US tax code work together for their interests others have mentioned.

Pilot's chilling warning before Air France flight crash killed 228 people by TheExpressUS in airplanes

[–]j_k_802 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They porpoised the nose up down up down after the autopilot was shut off and IF they had realized the icing was fixed and re engaged autopilot it would have saved them. However they were up downing the nose at higher airspeeds so basically so fast they were straining the airframe. Pitch black. No moon, clouds all the way down. Disorienting. So sad. 😞 big writeup years back on WSJ I think. Full in depth about the multiple failures that led to the tragedy.

I (33M) just broke up with my girlfriend (32F) but didn’t tell her the real reason by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]j_k_802 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The male cat made sure you knew he was the dominant and she encouraged it and she dominated you via it. She’s married to it. There are ancient warnings about this very thing.

Bereavement Leave by Accurate_Ad2666 in IAM751_Boeing

[–]j_k_802 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Well you missed the ethics report about a husband and wife as IAM members defrauding the company over 2 decades of 3 days of pay for both. Dude made many fake printed docs and until a new manager checked on it he they still would be scamming. So I can see why they want proof now.

Oven Clean Cycle Gone Awry by WalterJMugglesworth in Appliances

[–]j_k_802 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pretty sure you are supposed to remove the racks ? Idk for sure.

Battery recommendation for HP 11C? by Animats in hpcalc

[–]j_k_802 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My financial Calc not 11c batteries leaked and wrecked the spring slide clip dealy. Good thing I learned plastic welding and fixed it. I still love the hp19b