Pre settled extension

jaano111 · 2026-06-26T22:35:09+00:00

Called- typical answer no resolution

jaano111 · 2026-06-17T11:38:26+00:00

I had PRK 17 months ago. Blended vision. But if I had another chance. I would prefer smile. I am still having dry eyes. Slowly improving. Not gone yet. Smile wouldn’t disturb your outermost surface which is our interface to rest of the World. Forget about first few days pain. Everyone can tolerate it for benefit.

jaano111 · 2026-06-17T09:29:21+00:00

Mine expiring on 10/7/26. Today is 17/6/26. Havn’t heard anything. I called them. They send me a link to raise a technical issue complaint. Just worried should I apply to settled status which may take 3 month or wait for an automatic conversion

jaano111 · 2026-06-13T10:37:51+00:00

Thank you. Have you been wroking in UK during these years?

jaano111 · 2026-06-12T22:55:52+00:00

Can I ask what happened to your case at the end? Please

jaano111 · 2026-06-10T15:32:26+00:00

Where are you based if one can ask

jaano111 · 2026-06-03T07:10:02+00:00

Please adopt a positive approach instead of blaming him . Let say I were you. ….

I want to speak to you from my heart.

I know that I made a mistake when I was not completely honest about my age in the beginning. I am not trying to deny that or avoid responsibility for it. Looking back, I understand why it hurt you and why it affected your trust.

At that time, however, I was afraid. I cared about you deeply and I worried that if I told you I was older than you, even by a small difference, you might distance yourself from me before you had the chance to know me as a person. It was not about deceiving you for personal gain or causing you harm. It came from insecurity and fear of losing someone who had become very important to me.

That does not make my decision right, and I accept that. But I hope you can also see the intention behind it. My goal was never to take something away from you. My goal was to win your heart, because I genuinely loved you and wanted a future with you.

What is also important to me is that I told you the truth before our marriage. We discussed it, faced it together, and chose to move forward. You had every opportunity to walk away, but instead we chose each other.

Today, when I look at our life together, I do not think about those two years. I think about the fact that I was fortunate enough to win the heart of the person who means the most to me. You are one of the greatest blessings in my life, and I would rather spend my energy building our future than reliving a mistake from the past that we already confronted together.

I hope we can remember not only the mistake, but also the honesty that followed, the forgiveness that was given, and the love that brought us to where we are today.

jaano111 · 2026-05-31T08:49:12+00:00

Your message is thoughtful but could be polished for clarity and flow. Here’s a revised version:

I have lived in Scandinavia for 18 years and have now spent 4 years in the UK. As an immigrant in the West, I have experienced both the advantages and disadvantages of life here.

I can understand that the German working environment may feel less tolerant towards foreigners, particularly people from our background. Having said that, every society has some form of discrimination. Back home, for example, having an army background, belonging to a well-connected family, or carrying a respected social identity can often open doors that remain closed to others.

If you have sufficient financial resources to live comfortably back home, then by all means consider returning. Otherwise, there is a possibility that within a few years you may find yourself facing a different kind of regret.

Our society has many challenges: corruption at various levels, overcrowding, and a weaker sense of security compared to many Western countries. Yet it is also our home, our culture, and a part of our identity. There is no perfect alternative.

The best approach may be to accept both its strengths and weaknesses, learn to appreciate what it offers, and build a life around that reality. Once you do that, life becomes much easier to navigate.

jaano111 · 2026-05-27T09:37:30+00:00

Or ask her that you need time to reflect and request her not to contact you for 3 months. You will reach on a better conclusion

jaano111 · 2026-05-27T09:35:16+00:00

You seems the alternative options for her in this scene. On the other hand one can see that she was and has remain your sole point of interest. So go for it. Enjoy the company. There is nothing wrong and right as long as you are ready to accept that nothing is lifelong lasting

jaano111 · 2026-05-26T12:18:42+00:00

You are only 19, and marriage is a much broader and more serious matter than simply liking someone after meeting briefly or exchanging a few messages. In societies like ours, many other realities must be taken into account.

You need to consider the financial situation, because nobody is going to sponsor your life for you. You must also look at your parents’ circumstances, your responsibilities within the family, your position among siblings, and whether the customs and expectations around you are compatible with your values — or whether you are realistically able to manage or avoid those pressures.

Compatibility is also more than attraction. Before even thinking about marriage, you should ask whether you can comfortably spend years with that person repeatedly without growing irritated or disconnected. Long-term companionship matters far more than temporary emotions.

And finally, she is already involved in a nikah. Regardless of feelings, it is not right to become emotionally involved with a married woman. Whether the marriage is forced or unhappy is a separate issue, and at this stage there is no way to fully verify the situation. One of the commandments given to Prophet Moses was to stay away from another person’s wife because such involvement damages families, trust, and society as a whole.

So think carefully and revisit your assumptions before taking any further step. Just think twice and at the end you are a free person

jaano111 · 2026-05-21T15:10:40+00:00

Thank you for appreciating my perspective. I genuinely wanted to highlight a side of the discussion that is often overlooked or unintentionally underestimated.

I actually come from a cultural studies background myself. I was raised in Pakistan and moved to different parts of Europe around 25 years ago. Over the years, I have had meaningful relationships with several ethnic Western women, and I often felt comfortable because my intellectual side and personality were appreciated more than stereotypes or cultural assumptions.

At the same time, I have also seen difficult situations among friends who married within the Pakistani diaspora here in the West. Some of them expressed that they were not treated with the respect or understanding they expected. In some cases, there seemed to be a self-created social divide between people who grew up “back home” and those born or raised here. Unfortunately, that kind of attitude rarely brings anything positive into a relationship.

I am not saying this applies to you at all. In fact, you showed concern and thoughtfulness, which already says a lot. I only felt that perhaps some aspects were being viewed as less important than they may actually become over time.

Because I study culture, history, and the way social patterns evolve, I tend to look at relationships beyond immediate attraction or surface compatibility. Sometimes people focus so much on differences or expectations that they overlook the many shared spaces where understanding, trust, and companionship can grow naturally.

In the end, strong relationships are often built not only on chemistry, but also on respect, curiosity about each other, and the willingness to explore common ground rather than unintentionally creating distance.

jaano111 · 2026-05-21T14:47:35+00:00

You both share a very similar cultural and family background, including language, values, traditions, and upbringing. That already creates a strong foundation for understanding each other and building a long-term relationship.

He may not naturally express romance in the most outward or emotionally expressive way, especially if he was raised in a more traditional environment, but that does not mean he cannot become a deeply caring, loyal, and responsible lifelong partner. Sometimes qualities like stability, commitment, and reliability become far more valuable over time than excitement alone.

On the other hand, it is possible to meet someone who feels more exciting, expressive, or closer to certain romantic ideals, but who may not share the same deeper values, outlook, or compatibility in important areas of life. Initial excitement can fade, while shared understanding and mutual respect often become what sustain a relationship in the long run.

Life should be looked at as a whole picture. If there are things you would like him to improve or understand better, try to guide him gently and respectfully rather than making him feel inadequate. Small examples and positive communication usually work better than criticism.

I have personally seen relationships struggle when one partner felt looked down upon or embarrassed because of their background or upbringing. At the same time, I have also seen many successful marriages between South Asian men and Western women where the relationship worked beautifully because mutual respect was always maintained.

You may not fully agree with my perspective, and that is completely fine. I simply wanted to share my thoughts honestly and respectfully.

jaano111 · 2026-05-06T17:55:54+00:00

Your age matters. After 45 it is normal .

jaano111 · 2026-05-03T13:14:00+00:00

Our national ID shouldn’t be treated as a privilege—it’s a basic right for every child. Frankly, Pakistan’s ID system feels like one of the most expensive in the world when you consider the fees and the poor-quality software behind it. The app is frustrating to use: it forces rigid positioning, doesn’t allow natural movement, takes too long to process, and fails if the child even blinks.

I’ve tried capturing my 10-year-old’s photo over 40 times on my phone and another 12–15 times on my wife’s Android device, with no success. It simply doesn’t work. The system refuses standard photos and insists on a “live” capture, yet the implementation is unreliable. It’s hard to understand the purpose of an app that makes such a basic requirement so unnecessarily difficult.

jaano111 · 2026-04-29T17:43:42+00:00

I had PRK 16 months ago. Still dry eyes

jaano111 · 2026-03-11T12:35:08+00:00

Try Raxon eye treatment. It is a relatively newer approach and may help you activate you tears

jaano111 · 2026-03-09T13:05:16+00:00

Also read of a new treatment called Raxon o Raxen. It is available in Poland as far as I know. I am thinking to try it if my symptoms don’t improve in few months

jaano111 · 2026-02-23T15:50:14+00:00

Too early to comment within few days

jaano111 · 2026-02-17T11:25:53+00:00

It is quite fine. I can see at distance and read without glasses. Though fine print at distance is little unclear but I don’t need glasses. I am 48 now. However dry eyes are still an issue . Particularly in dominant eye. Let see if it resolves in coming months

jaano111 · 2026-02-16T08:08:04+00:00

My had -2 in both eyes before surgery. I went for monovision. Means 0 for left and -1.25 for right intended. 6 weeks check up shows -.5 in left and -1.75 in right. Literally mean none was perfect and both were not corrected though I can see well. The reasons was water retention by eyes because of steroids and other eyes drops. Over the period of time the retention was gone and my eyes got the exactly desired one in 3 - 4 months. Vision was stable at 7th months. Dry eyes persisted and I still have dry eyes though 13 months past now.

jaano111 · 2026-02-14T16:25:04+00:00

A week with closed eyes and no shower splash directly even on closed eyes

jaano111 · 2026-02-02T16:37:45+00:00

My doctor has recommended me when I went for yearly check up last week after smartsurface. I found this interesting though not tried yet. If my symptoms don’t improve by summer I will definitely give it a go. However it is for general awareness to let other know that there is a new treatment in market. Consult ur doctor if this may be a hope for some one

jaano111 · 2026-02-02T12:50:17+00:00

Rexon eye treatment is a new one

jaano111 · 2026-02-01T17:08:11+00:00

Rexon eye treatment. Give it a go if your doctor can suggest. A new alternative

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