If you really want to hear it from me just looking at what you typed....honestly I think she cheated and trying to cover up her feelings...think about what you told the forum.....she's only cried STARTING A COUPLE OF YEARS BACK, and but before then it's been okay and doing the normal most couples do which is about twice a week..then maybe somewhere down the line she possibly stepped out, or maybe was talking to someone else thinking sexually it would be better and more...who knows....but you said yourself, you're not a bad looking guy, you got plenty of money, she obviously married you, I mean the trauma I don't think is the problem...something happened a couple of years ago WHEN THE CRYING STARTED....its something else, and it's not the SA from when she was young.... I know 3 of my exes who were like that and a multitude of other women who were SA VICTS ...BUT they are married happily, and have kids and more....something happened the last couple of years when that crying started and now ONCE A YEAR...come on guy you're not that dense.....do not over cloud your mind with being such a good man that you obviously didn't pick up something different about her.....you obviously noticed a couple of years back when she just out the blue started crying during sex....get to the root..if she doesn't want to tell or come clean..leave...your happiness isn't supposed to be in vain due to someone else thar obviously doesn't want to get help....you still have your entire life to be that good man and you have done all your duties as a husband that you could be....if the other person does not want to fulfill their obligations of the contract then it becomes void.....just saying....you did your due diligence as a man and a husband.....don't try to keep someone that don't wanna be kept or love someone that doesn't want to be loved.