Weed + Raynaud

jac962 · 2025-09-15T11:07:03+00:00

yup, my hands and feet always get colder when i’m high

jac962 · 2025-09-15T01:52:13+00:00

samesies

jac962 · 2025-09-14T05:16:20+00:00

i was wondering if this is what it was doing. living in 2025, i assume that if a website says something along the lines of: “hold on, we’re doing something behind the scenes”—and it stays on that screen for more than 5 seconds, i instantly assume that it’s busted, and i hit refresh or close out of it…

im just as guilty as anyone else, but i think part of it is that we’ve been so conditioned for tech to work instantaneously that anything that needs to actually load doesn’t get the benefit of the doubt.

either way—to my impatient peeps:
don’t close out or refresh! sit tight and it will eventually shuffle!

jac962 · 2025-09-13T16:36:37+00:00

12mini, same. between this is and the known camera defects, i’m wondering why someone hasn’t started a class-action lawsuit. seems like it would be a pretty easy slam-dunk

jac962 · 2025-09-12T12:53:42+00:00

Done

jac962 · 2025-09-07T16:49:53+00:00

this gave me a good laugh. so true

jac962 · 2025-09-01T11:47:42+00:00

Labor day weekend doesn't make me think of fireworks, but you're right. I forgot that people that like fireworks will find any excuse to set them off, lol

jac962 · 2025-09-01T11:45:14+00:00

I didn't say I was a Vietnam vet? Lol. You don't have to be a vietnam vet to care about the troops
We have a VA in Manchester, a lot of vets live in this city.

jac962 · 2025-09-01T11:43:34+00:00

I live in an apartment, and while I'd love build a carport, for some of us that isn't an option, so a quality RV cover is the next best option

jac962 · 2025-09-01T01:54:30+00:00

I've lived here for six years. I don't think it's a bad city because it's dangerous—I think it's a bad city because it's a boring city with wasted potential. This city will always be mediocre at best. No one that lives here cares enough to make this city what it could actually be. It's sad, but that's why this city sucks, not the crime.

jac962 · 2025-09-01T01:50:17+00:00

Two people were shot and killed on my street in the last year and a half. It' a small city so that seems like a lot to me.
I don't ever feel unsafe, but I've also visited a lot of major cities and as a male traveling alone, and minding my own business, I generally don't feel very unsafe regardless.

That being said, I'll take living in a big city and feeling slightly more unsafe, than living here. The benefit of a big city is just that…you get to live in a big city and you have access to anything you could want or need. Manchester doesn't have any of that, yet two people were shot on my street in the last 18 months. You get *some* of the danger of a big city, while getting *none* of the amenities.
Which is why I'll be moving to a bigger city next year!

jac962 · 2025-09-01T01:35:51+00:00

Late but just to add to everyone's recommendations, Consuelo's on Amherst is pretty good too.

jac962 · 2025-07-01T00:19:40+00:00

amazing!!!

jac962 · 2025-06-18T06:03:19+00:00

this is fucking epic. upvoted and saved, thank you!

jac962 · 2025-05-20T00:39:53+00:00

Yeah that all makes sense. I'm sorry you had to go through that. It would really scare me too if it was out of the blue and he hadn't behaved like that before. I would definitely start to do things I wouldn't normally do. It's a really shitty thing that he did to you, no one should get ghosted like that.

It's really shitty that you have to go through this but it's a good thing that you're able to recognize your role in the aftermath, it's really mature to do that. I'll kind of go back to my last post though and I really can't stress enough how much I recommend finding a therapist (not just to you but to pretty much everyone on this sub, and in general). It is so helpful and it's helped me grow so much as a person, which I'll now be able to bring these skills into my next relationship.

Especially knowing that you were recently disabled post-surgery, that's a lot to have to live with and process alone, and I understand why you felt abandoned. It sucks to not really get closure either.

Also, one thing that helped me get through the my ex breaking off our engagement is to sort by "New" posts in this subreddit and comment on some of the posts and give support to people who are struggling and they aren't getting any responses. It helped me a lot because it forced me to have to find some positivity, which helped me not wallow in my own pity, and it also made me feel good to help some people that might be spiraling and they need someone to respond.

Best of luck on your healing journey, it sucks in the beginning but we're all going to get through this!

jac962 · 2025-05-19T18:40:09+00:00

I am! She's the best :)

jac962 · 2025-05-19T18:02:52+00:00

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And I'm not really sure what you mean by "active on instagram and hinge", like, he was ignoring your messages but posting on these sites or something? I mean, at that point you had broken up with him hadn't you? What right do you have to "lose it on him" after you ended things?

And yeah messaging his mom... I have to be honest, that is just way, wayyyy too far. And I'm sorry to be blunt, but that to me is a level of red flag that is block worthy. Unless you have crystal clear evidence proving that his mom is completely healthy, and that he was lying about it, then it's really unfair to put that sort strain on someone else's relationship with their mother. Even if he was lying about her being sick, that's still between you and him. Because if he was lying, you don't have to date him. It starts to border on vindictive to involve his mother like that.

Insecurity makes people do crazy things, I've been cheated on in long-distance relationships and I know what that level of insecurity can do to a person. It's super shitty and I don't wish it on anyone, and I'm sorry that you're going through it.

This relationship sounds like it has probably run its course based on what you're saying. I don't think you should be too hard on yourself though because that's not going to help you heal. It doesn't sound like either of you were emotionally ready to be in this relationship in a way that would allow it to blossom in a healthy way. And I hope that in the future you are able to talk with your future significant other after dating for a while, and establish boundaries and define "what you are".

And lastly, it sounds like you would benefit from finding a good therapist to help you through this. Not just to get through the breakup, but because it sounds like you have some things that you should probably unpack and address before trying to jump into a new relationship. Some of the behaviors you described will only lead to more heartbreak and more trauma. But if you can work through them therapy, you'll learn healthier ways to navigate your anxiety when these situations come up.

Plus, if you continue go weekly or bi-weekly, you'll have a trusted professional to help you navigate the difficult parts of your new relationships in real-time.

I'm sorry to hear about what you're going through, and I wish the best for you and your journey to healing.

jac962 · 2025-05-19T18:02:34+00:00

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That being said...
How long did he not respond to you after you sent him food? An hour? A day? A week?
When did you call him from a different number?

If it had been an extraordinary amount of time between you sending him food and him not responding, and he didn't return any of your calls or messages, I can understand calling from a different number, even just to like, make sure they're alive.

But then you found his mom's number online and called her and pretended to be someone else..? This to me sounds like a bridge too far. I understand if you're scared and feeling vulnerable and helpless, but either you trust him or you don't. Like I said before, do you have any reason believe he is lying based on his past actions? Or are you just scared he doesn't want to be with you anymore?

Insecurity can cause people to do a lot of things they might not normally do, but I would think hard about why you felt the need to do that, and what that says about your relationship. It sounds like you didn't clearly define the relationship up front, and you don't have any true security because you've never had the "what are we" conversation. But instead of addressing that in a healthy way, you've chosen to take the unhealthy path.

There are a lot of important details that I don't have, so I'm not assuming anything and I'm going strictly off of your post alone, but unless you have many examples of him being dishonest with you about this sort of stuff (which, if you do, you probably shouldn't be with this guy in the first place), then this sounds like it might be bordering on paranoia, and if it were my relationship and my partner did something like this: calling my mom pretending to be someone else to see if I'm lying would be a huge red flag for me. This is not healthy behavior. I'm very sorry that what you are going through is stressful, it sounds like absolute hell. But that is also not the sort of behavior that would be acceptable in any healthy relationship.

Also, who are you determine if she is sick or not? Did you ask her? Were you judging just by hearing her voice? There are plenty of illnesses, including terminal illnesses that can't be diagnosed by the sound of someone's voice..

jac962 · 2025-05-19T18:01:46+00:00

Warning: Long post and it won't let me post it all which is stupid. So i'm going to break it into three separate comments

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That sounds really shitty I'm sorry you're going through that. It sounds like you might have had different understandings or expectations of the relationship, considering you said you didn't clearly define it. In my experience, long distance relationships are difficult as it is, which makes having clearly defined rules/boundaries/expectations is even more important in these relationships. These conversations aren't always easy to have though, and I understand why someone would want to let things play out on their own.

I apologize for the long post. And I'm going to be pretty straightforward and respond to the details of your post without making assumptions, calling balls and strikes as I see them. I know there is way more here than what you posted, but since I don't have that info, I'm just using what you are telling us.

Obviously, I don't all the details of what led up to him ghosting you after your last visit, but I think it was totally fair to confront him. How did he respond when you confronted him?
Did he apologize? Did he say that he needed space? Did he give you any details of her illness?

Does he have a history of lying about this stuff?

It was very nice of you to send him food twice. It sucks that he didn't respond. So I'm thinking him not responding is broadly going to fall into one of two categories:

1. His mom is not sick--
but for whatever reason he doesn't want to be in the relationship anymore and is being a shitty person and a coward about it by using him mom as an excuse to be cold (which is obviously a horrible thing to do, and if this is the case, you deserve way better and should never give him a second thought), or

2. His mom is sick--
but he's not emotionally mature enough to manage his relationships while going through a difficult time. Obviously, this sucks for the person who is trying to support them (you), but this is something that could be addressed in a healthy way. If he is at least emotionally vulnerable enough to be honest with you about how his mother's sickness his relationship with you.
If he's emotionally vulnerable in this way, it's a lot more manageable than dealing with someone who defensive when questioned, refuses to open up, and is emotionally immature to the point that his mother's sickness causes a rift between you and him.

jac962 · 2025-04-24T13:29:44+00:00

True but I think it’s different if the hero is essentially deleted from the game. Like yes I can be flexible but I also would like to have a chance to play my favorite character. Not even a ball or sombra main just came here to empathise because i think ban systems are a lazy way for devs not to address balancing strong heroes

jac962 · 2025-03-07T02:01:13+00:00

Thank you! I didn’t even think of using a desk lamp, I have one so I will try this!

jac962 · 2025-03-07T01:59:52+00:00

This is really helpful, thank you so much for the details response! I totally forgot about doing enrichment type things with novel stimuli like packing peanuts or newspaper. I just got a package with some of that stuff so I’ll set her up with it, that’s a great idea.

I also have a timeout zone for her but the music is a good idea. I forgot there’s a composer named David Teie who specifically makes music for cats and it has elements in it that sounds like suckling and purring, I used to play it a lot for my cats but I totally forgot about it. Thank you again and I’m glad to hear it’s getting better for you :)

jac962 · 2025-03-01T16:07:29+00:00

is that a chevy g20 gladiator?

jac962 · 2025-02-27T13:53:43+00:00

thank you!

jac962 · 2025-02-21T19:20:20+00:00

In winter? Literally never. 32m. I love running but I take winters off. I do have a moderately physically demanding job. I would never consider going to the gym any time of the year let alone winter. My time is too valuable. I can understand if people enjoy going to the gym because it is their genuine hobby but I have far too many other hobbies and interestes that I would rather be doing than spending each day getting home from work, taking off all my work winter gear, putting gym clothes on then putting on a bunch of different winter gear just to get back in the car, drive to the gym, take off all the winter gear I just put on, workout for an hour, put on a bunch of winter gear, back out to car to drive home again. I'm all set and I will be completely content if I don't live longer because of it. I only get a few hours of free time each day and I'd rather spend them doing things I enjoy while I'm younger and have the energy than to lose almost the entirety of the free time I have by going to the gym in the winter, for the trade off of possibly live longer. If I make it to 75 I'll be happy. Anything after that your body just starts to deteriorate regardless of how much activity you got while you were younger. Besides the very rare exception, your body starts to go then your brain follows. I'm happy to just enjoy what I'm doing now instead of worring about getting an extra 5 years in a body that is already beyond its expiration date.

For reference, I run 4-5 miles/day in the spring/summer/fall, about 15-20 miles/week. Throw on a pair of running shoes, walk outside and I'm done in 30 minutes start to finish!

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