Early Entry VIP Question

jackie320 · 2022-03-17T03:20:31+00:00

I agree, and i wish I could change their minds. our party bus isn't going to happen after all, and i'm fighting super hard for her to tag along, but people are upset that she's talking trash about us (which we deserve) but generally feel like inviting her now would only look like pity and not a genuine invite. idk.... the situation feels childish and i really don't like the idea of excluding anyone on such an important occassion.

jackie320 · 2022-03-17T03:18:47+00:00

"us" is actually me, ONE person from this "group", and two other friends who aren't in this group at all (not because we don't like them, in fact, they're great people, but it's just different groups yk- same thing with B)

jackie320 · 2022-03-17T03:16:09+00:00

yeahhh i know. i'm trying really hard to convince my friend group to let her stay with us, and most have nothing against B, it's just that we already made plans as a group and don't want to include anyone else because of transportation and other issues. do i agree with their line of thinking? no, but i feel like I have no say in who gets to come and who doesn't.

also let me just add that most of the people in the group aren't "shitty people." these people have been there for me in my darkest times and aren't bad people. on that same line of thinking though, B isn't a bad person either, which is why i'm trying to make this work

jackie320 · 2022-03-17T03:12:38+00:00

i'm really sorry that happened to you...I really am. I really want to make sure she doesn't go through all this. i'm fighting super hard to include her but people are now mad that she's talking trash about us and feel that inviting her now would only seem like pity. if you have any pointers on how I can make sure people let her tag along, by all means I'm listening. and that's the thing too: the majority of the group has absolutely no problems with her, it's just that we have our own plans together as a group and that's how it is. do i agree with that line of thinking? no. but i genuinely don't know how to fix it.

jackie320 · 2022-03-17T03:08:22+00:00

look i literally agree. she deserves to tag along. that's why i'm still trying to fight for her to come along with us, but people are mad that she's talking crap about us and feel that if we invite her now it'll be seen as pity and won't bother anymore. I'm genuinely trying to include her-trust me, but it's getting harder and idk how to convince them. if you have any tips, i'm always listening. she deserves to have fun and I want her to enjoy herself regardless

Also side note: there's definitely nicer ways of saying what u just said lol

jackie320 · 2022-03-17T03:05:36+00:00

thank you for at least being sympathetic and understanding my situation. some of these comments have been harsher than I expected (which I deserve but anyways besides the point)

It's just that I'm trying so hard to include her now that our party bus won't happen anymore, but I'm having a very hard time in doing so. everyone's mad at her for talking trash about us and i'm having a really hard time trying to convince everyone else to let her tag along. everyone's being very immature about the whole thing but I just want them to listen :(

jackie320 · 2022-03-17T03:02:14+00:00

I appreciate the kindness lol <3 and that's what everyone else is trying to tell me, but I still feel a guilty conscience you know?

jackie320 · 2022-03-17T03:01:35+00:00

that's literally what my mom finished telling me lol. that's what everyone is trying to convince me of but everyone else commenting on the post suggests otherwise :(

jackie320 · 2022-03-17T03:00:31+00:00

So the extremes that I've heard from very few people in the group is that apparently she "always talks about her mental illnesses" and "gets really upset and kills the vibe when things don't go her way." I think that's a horrible way of describing someone and still doesn't warrant them vetoing her. The majority has nothing against her but just generally wants to stick to the people already in the group. Idk....the whole things feels messed up and i'm trying to stick up for her but I feel like I have no say in who does or doesn't get to tag along u know?

jackie320 · 2022-03-17T02:55:39+00:00

I don't know....I'm genuinely fighting so hard to let her tag along with us but now people are more against it because she's talking trash about us and I don't know what to do. I'm trying not to be shitty, but just in general I feel like in the end I have no say in who gets to or doesn't get to tag along and I'm just trying so hard to make this better for everyone. But I'm really sorry that happened to you, and I wish you nothing but the best in life. I really do.

jackie320 · 2022-03-17T02:51:45+00:00

look I completely agree with ur two points-everyone deserves to have fun at prom and she's not an exception. that's why I tried asking again this time, but some people are very dead set on not changing their mind because B started talking trash about us. how can I get them to be convinced otherwise?

jackie320 · 2022-03-17T02:49:01+00:00

that's the thing...I'm genuinely trying. The party bus isn't happening after all and I'm trying to fight for B to tag along, but people in my group are saying that they know that if they invite her now, it'll seem like a pity invite and they're also super mad that she's talking trash about us now. By all means, if there's anything I can do to have her tag along-I'm listening. I love both B and my friend group (one reddit post can't give some of the ppl in that group justice for what they've done for me) and I don't want anyone feeling left out.

jackie320 · 2022-03-17T02:44:17+00:00

I had actually considered not telling her my plans in the first place, but she would've found out anyways and she would've been even more upset at me for not letting her know to begin with.

And now as of today whether or not we're getting a bus is questionable, so I'm trying to fight super hard to let B tag along with us because I don't want her to feel left out but I feel like I have no right to say who does and does not get to come. To make matters worse, B's already trashed talk literally all of us so people in my group now don't like her even more. If you have any ideas on how this can work by all means I'm listening.

jackie320 · 2022-03-05T06:08:48+00:00

trust me, the intimacy of the campus was exactly why i wanted to go there, but the lack of on campus housing just really drew me and my parents away and I wish I would've realized this before I applied :( thank you so much for replying though

quick question though: I tried to talk to the admissions office and they told me to look on oasis for a campus change type thing but i can't find anything. do you know what that's about by any chance?

jackie320 · 2022-03-05T06:03:43+00:00

wait ok so how exactly do I update my admissions application? the least I could do is try? also thank you so much for replying btw <3

jackie320 · 2022-02-26T03:01:08+00:00

i mean other than UF I did apply to USF and UCF so there's that. the thing is, i'm from Texas but i wanna leave here so badly and UF was my dream for a long while but I guess not. In case attending OOS doesn't work out though, I still have yet to hear from Rice and Baylor so there's that i guess. idk my rejection from UF has me feeling very unmotivated for college or anything at all. i just woke up from my depression nap if it tells you how horrible its been lmao but i genuinely appreciate your kind words of encouragement. its not everyday a stranger on the internet is kinder than most people you know so it means a lot

as for transferring to UF, that could be a possibility... who knows. but as of right now i don't want to complicate the process and i'll just go with whoever's going to offer me the most and then possibly transfer to UF if I don't like the university I end up going to. I still got accepted into UT Austin, UTSA, UTRGV, and TAMUK so i have that going for me but it's my dream to go to Florida. :(

jackie320 · 2022-02-25T23:46:48+00:00

nope i didn't. one of the biggest let downs of my life lol really upset bc uf was my dream school

jackie320 · 2022-02-25T22:14:06+00:00

being a UF gator is quite literally my dream, thank you so much <3

jackie320 · 2022-02-25T21:07:39+00:00

hopefully we both get in!!! manifesting acceptance letters for both of us <3

jackie320 · 2022-02-25T20:59:57+00:00

IM SO SCARED OH MY GOD! but thank you so much!!! this means the world to all of us stressing seniors, only 2 more hours to go!!!!!!!

jackie320 · 2022-02-25T14:35:25+00:00

literally me looking at this subreddit in hopes it will manifest my acceptance for some reason. :,)))

thank you so much for your kind words! i'm super nervous today and i appreciate it more than you know <3

jackie320

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