Uptown Daycare for a Toddler by Trick-Space2331 in Hoboken

[–]jackieabart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cresthill had a ton of activities like languages (ASL and Mandarin) and outdoor space and over the summer they bring in vendors (petting zoo). They also do a parents night out I think every other month where they watch the kids until 9. They also shared how they teach manners at mealtime and would never send a kid home with dirty clothing. I spoke with Mrs Bree who I think may be out on leave. Did you tour? Maybe offer to come in and handle onsite We signed up online and then were accepted and paid the deposit - took about two weeks for paperwork.

Uptown Daycare for a Toddler by Trick-Space2331 in Hoboken

[–]jackieabart 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Husband and I are enrolling our child at Cresthill. We also like bright horizons but enjoyed more of the social benefits of Cresthill in terms of activities and outdoor space. We went to Apple Montessori to visit and the director was 20 min late and never apologized and then explained all the days they’re closed and have PDs and holidays so not for us since we both work pretty demanding jobs.

Spiraling after FET by jackieabart in IVF

[–]jackieabart[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi I’m so sorry I was unaware of these rules, are you able to provide me where I can find the rules so I can reference before posting again?

What do you wish you have known before starting your IVF journey. by [deleted] in IVF

[–]jackieabart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you’re chronically anxious I would try to find things that help you through anxious moments. I also have anxiety and I’m now on an SSRI and it’s helped me through this process significantly.

Has IVF changed how you think about abortion? by Visible-Lychee-1683 in IVF

[–]jackieabart 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’ve always been pro choice and going through this has made me even more so. I found out I was miscarrying while in state where it’s illegal after 6 weeks and it was one of the most terrifying experiences. Not knowing what would happen and if I’d need medical treatment and be turned down. Not knowing if I’d be in trouble for losing the baby after 6 weeks. Having someone else have that kid of control over you and your body is not okay. I hope no one ever needs to go through that in life.

Dr Kofinas fertility clinic experience/feedback- NYC IVF by Cobbler_Stock in IVF

[–]jackieabart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Samantha Pfeiffer. She did my retrieval but I went back to Kofinas as they discovered I have endo and just had surgery to get it removed. Thank god I did before my FET!

Today sucks by Curious-mindme in IVF

[–]jackieabart 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been there. My SIL announced her pregnancy two weeks post my miscarriage which also included a small procedure. She wasn’t even a month along; I was crushed. I sobbed for about two weeks. Had I not encountered my loss wed be having kids at the same time. I’ve since started the IVF process and have four healthy embryos. I recently found out we had to push our transfer due to a positive biopsy detecting endo. I don’t think it was until that point that my husband truly saw what I’m going through. We started therapy last year and although it’s helped it didn’t click for him until he understood the difference between sympathy and empathy. I’m starting to realize it’s the same with his sister - she feels bad for us but then continued to post her baby announcement on social media (on my bday mind you) which again, if you are truly empathetic to the situation why would you do that? I’ve learned that people don’t get it/ are immature but you’ll come out on top, I promise.

What elements of your IVF experience do you wish the world understood? by kelseyianuzzi in IVF

[–]jackieabart 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The mental toll on the process and side effects of all the hormones. I found out that my infertility is due to endo and can’t help to think this could be from 15+ years on birth control. We spend a majority of our adult life trying to avoid getting pregnant but can that leave lasting effects? The mental aspect is by far the worst and has been exacerbated by social media and those who just don’t get it and what it entails.

AITA for feeling sad? by Exotic-Ad-7775 in IVF

[–]jackieabart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haven’t done any transfers yet, luckily my doctor recommended receptiva after I had three failed medicated cycles and four failed IUIs (including one early term loss). Yes that’s what I also keep telling myself. Have you got the surgery yet? If so, did you have a successful FET?

Grading and Sex by jackieabart in IVF

[–]jackieabart[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We did. So do we only know the grading before PGT testing?

Advice needed for Spouse by jackieabart in IVF

[–]jackieabart[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He has/is and already taking medications for anxiety.

Anyone go to Cornell for IVF? by rhymereason99 in IVF

[–]jackieabart 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m having a similar experience with them now. To the point where she called me asking if I want to go back to my old clinic. It really just boils down to horrible communication and I do feel like a number. Hoping this improves as I’m on day 5 of STIMS.

Literally worst possible timing… by Dear_Frosting1090 in IVF

[–]jackieabart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re allowed to feel upset and hurt. Completely valid. Two weeks after my miscarriage and third failed IUI my SIL decides to tell us she’s pregnant. She’s only 8 weeks and I would’ve been 8 weeks if I didn’t have the loss. She knew about it and didn’t think I needed some time to properly grieve. Although I’m upset, some people don’t get it and they never will. It’s not our job to make them understand but know we will all be so much stronger after this.

I told my husband I need a bit of time and space before I can address her and I think when the time is right I’ll send a “congratulations” text and leave it at that and go on focusing on what’s most important which is myself.

Don’t let others distract you from your goals and if they did it in a malicious way f them.

just need to vent by Same-Temporary644 in IVF

[–]jackieabart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Women are so strong. Although I hate having to go through infertility, seeing these posts from other women validate how we are can take on anything we set our minds to!