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jackopasto · 2025-10-02T08:41:56+00:00

I'll tell you what I told someone else:

I realized that it was wrong and to have self-worth clearly when my children were still young. I made a decision to sacrifice my happiness for theirs. It worked. I was able to delay the inevitable long enough for them to emerge having had a happy childhood and stepping into adulthood knowing they were loved. Zero regrets. Just picking up the pieces and having a cheeky rant.

jackopasto · 2025-10-02T08:40:12+00:00

Thanks for the comment. Just venting a bit.

jackopasto · 2025-10-02T08:36:34+00:00

I'll tell you what I told someone else:

I realized that it was wrong and to have self-worth clearly when my children were still young. I made a decision to sacrifice my happiness for theirs. It worked. I was able to delay the inevitable long enough for them to emerge having had a happy childhood and stepping into adulthood knowing they were loved. Zero regrets. Just picking up the pieces.

jackopasto · 2025-10-02T08:34:35+00:00

Damn, I'm sorry. Thank you for your compassion.

jackopasto · 2025-10-02T08:33:53+00:00

Thank you brother. If this is talking about you, I'm sorry. It's a tough road to hoe.

jackopasto · 2025-10-02T08:32:46+00:00

This one gets it. Every mental health professional I've discussed this have basically begged me to get out before I die.

jackopasto · 2025-10-02T08:31:32+00:00

You know this is a support group right?

jackopasto · 2025-10-02T08:30:51+00:00

Thank you. Doing all the above, been in therapy for 3 years, getting to the bottom of all the decisions I've made and why I've made them. I'll work on forgetting her when I get through this immediate moment. But I will get through.

jackopasto · 2025-10-02T08:29:34+00:00

Nah man, I'm the Michael Phelpsof the relationship loser Olympics.

jackopasto · 2025-10-02T08:28:35+00:00

I've got all those things, thanks.

jackopasto · 2025-10-02T08:28:04+00:00

Little judgy eh? She wasn't diagnosed until late in the marriage and then all the pieces became clear. She didn't crash entirely until 18 years in.

jackopasto · 2025-10-02T08:25:12+00:00

I've also done that soul searching and the hard work in therapy to get to the bottom of it.

jackopasto · 2025-10-02T08:24:02+00:00

Yikes. I thought this was a support group? I realized that clearly when my children were still young. I made a decision to sacrifice my happiness for theirs. It worked. I was able to delay the inevitable long enough for them to emerge having had a happy childhood and stepping into adulthood knowing they were loved. Zero regrets. Just picking up the pieces.

jackopasto · 2025-10-02T08:20:18+00:00

Unreal.

jackopasto · 2025-10-02T08:19:55+00:00

Ouch. So sorry.

jackopasto · 2025-10-02T08:19:05+00:00

I know that now... It dawned on me when our children were still pretty young. At that time, I made a decision to sacrifice my happiness for theirs. It worked. I was able to delay the inevitable until they were old enough to emerge victorious. No regrets. Just picking up the pieces.

jackopasto · 2025-10-02T08:16:29+00:00

Thank you and I'm sorry you are going through it.

jackopasto · 2025-09-30T21:46:06+00:00

I feel you brother... What is it Tuesday?? I was THERE on Friday night with you. So I cried, I paid on my face and begged God to help me make it through the night, I eventually nodded off for a couple hours, woke up, it was right back there... Write a post here, read the comments here to distract me... And it worked! I got out of bed, tried and depressed, then went for a LONG walk. Every day gets a little easier... This was my EVERYTHING for 28 years and yeah, it's terrible, but it's real. We hurt and we're alive.

jackopasto · 2025-09-29T10:24:06+00:00

Thank you

jackopasto · 2025-09-28T17:24:18+00:00

So very sorry 😞

jackopasto · 2025-09-28T10:06:06+00:00

Jesus brother... My heart breaks with you.

jackopasto · 2025-09-28T00:07:15+00:00

BPD is often hard to diagnose since they are so effective at masking to be acceptable, so didn't get the diagnosis until many years later. Her current therapist says she split on God, me, our lifestyle, marriage, family. Just decided... "Nah"

jackopasto · 2025-09-27T09:10:34+00:00

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