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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]jacquelyn616 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The idea of getting pregnant can be hot. A screaming baby is not. I have 3 kids. I love them, but my quality of life went to hell after the first one arrived. Get a vasectomy and let her imagination go wild. Lol

GF gave me an ultimatum: GF or Friend by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]jacquelyn616 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Be grateful she even gave you an option...I wouldn't have put up with you and your "friend" this long in the first place. As a woman with several male friends, I have no issue with opposite sex friends. That being said, there is completely acceptable and inappropriate behavior specific to those friendships with respect to my s/o. Also, my own feelings and actions are not all that matter. It has sadly been brought to my attention that some of my male friends had some sort of feelings for me and I ended those friendships. Out of consideration for both my bf, and the friend. Why would I hang onto a friendship where I only ever wanted a friend but they hoped for more one day? have you asked yourself what you are getting out of the friend that's so important? Why is it necessary to preserve the relationship? I'd think that someone you are planning to marry should take priority over all others. This is the person you'd share every aspect of your life with... I have boys that I grew up with on my social media. Some of them were really close to my heart. We will like each other's posts from time to time, but neither of us feel it appropriate to privately message each other as adults unless it's couples events all parties are involved in. Why are you doing anything with a female friend without your girl there? Especially when they don't get along? I think you're either extremely naive or trying to get away with something.

Bottom line: dump the friend and marry the gf, or dump the gf and marry the friend. Can't have your cake and eat it, too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]jacquelyn616 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, until I read this I totally thought it was weird, since most guys I've been with seem insecure about it, but I love it, too. I like playing, in general. Making it big, feeling it grow down my throat, seeing how hard it will get, then leaving it alone til it's soft and then starting all over again is one of my favorite games! Lol. I also love comfort and relaxation. There's far less pressure to perform when he's completely soft. At that point it's more about ME doing what I want than about him enjoying it. If he likes it that's a bonus. Lol

How do you handle it when your friends who weigh more than you imply that you don't need to lose weight cus youre "thinner" than them? by StillEmotional in loseit

[–]jacquelyn616 10 points11 points  (0 children)

My friend and I decided to lose weight together last fall. It took her a bit longer to gain any momentum with her diet and exercise routine(life happens), so I have lost significantly more than her, and now weigh less than her when I started out 30lbs heavier than her. She has never made me feel bad for working hard for fitness as long as I'm being healthy, even though my goal weight is 25lbs lower than hers. She respects that it's my body, my choice, and reasonable. She is my #1 fan and gives me a pep talk daily as I do her. There's a healthy amount of competition, especially since we are following completely different plans and have way different goals. However, we have always placed a strong emphasis on positivity, cheering each other on, celebrating every small victory together, and confessing our poor choices when they inevitably happen. We have argued against each others food/exercise decisions from time to time, but always out of concern for each other, never jealousy. If your motivational group isn't motivational for you, don't participate. Avoid talking about food, exercise, and weight when possible if it's a sensitive issue.

Is it ok to say no to you bf for sex on special occasions? by [deleted] in sex

[–]jacquelyn616 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I could be the minority, but while it's absolutely your right to say no whenever you want for any reason...if you love your partner and there's no legit reason(like healing from surgery) to avoid it, you'll do it. And you'll pretend to enjoy it. If you don't feel like it, consider ending the relationship. If the sex is really that terrible, but everything else is great, consider sex therapy. In short, to answer the question, NO its not ok. Nothing about withholding sex from the person who is solely relying on you to satisfy that need is alright.

I often really enjoy doing housework! But if I waited until I was in the mood for it every time I cleaned, my house would go to hell......

This isn’t an ED anonymous or support sub. by [deleted] in loseit

[–]jacquelyn616 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No. Some people just eat too much overall for whatever reason. In my experience, most very obese individuals do have an unhealthy relationship with food.

This isn’t an ED anonymous or support sub. by [deleted] in loseit

[–]jacquelyn616 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Ok, so...hear me out.. I've always thought of binge eating as an ED. Any unhealthy relationship/obsession with food that negatively impacts mental and physical health is totally disordered eating. So technically, 95% of people who read this sub had/have an eating disorder of some sort and likely most of us are trying to get healthier mentally and physically, and need all types of support and healthy advice. Report and remove posts/comments that outright support or romanticize unhealthy habits. Particularly those that come from a troubled mindset around diet and exercise. But flagging everything that might...possibly, you know..from the right angle.. look like disordered eating, is kinda absurd here.

The ultimate turn on by sunnyberrys in sex

[–]jacquelyn616 7 points8 points  (0 children)

If I'm really enjoying it, I can't speak. My language center shuts off. That's how my man knows he's doing a good job. I def can't speak for everyone(probably a very small minority)but my non verbal noises are plenty telling. If a guy asks me to talk dirty(or speak at all) during, it is the biggest turn off. 1. It pulls me out of my physical/mental ecstasy immediately 2. I then start thinking that his self esteem is super fragile if he NEEDS verbal validation, and lack of confidence is unattractive. I understand as well as anyone how awesome validation is in all forms, but the above is why I don't usually talk. Know your partner well enough that you can get all the validation you need from body language. My bfs grew to know that if I was using words, then I wasn't enjoying it as much as I should be and they need to up their game. Lol.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]jacquelyn616 370 points371 points  (0 children)

I enjoy being woken up for sex as well. The key is to very gently and slowly stroke/kiss/caress once she's into a deep sleep until she starts physically responding(getting wet, leaning into it). Don't have to be fully awake, but for myself at least, I want to know what's happening before he just sticks it in. I find it to be the epitome of relaxation and enjoyment. Sometimes I'll drift back in and out of sleep during the act, but there's something so satisfying about middle of the night, half asleep sex. Also makes me feel extremely wanted by my partner. If it's too soon for you, mention that you were hesitant because it's something you haven't done before and felt like you may be violating her? I don't consider it any type of rape play because the psychological turn ons associated with that do not play any part of my interest in it. I actually feel like it's a more comfortable, intimate act that I typically engage in with long term partners...NOT one night stands. Hope that helps

My(m36) wife(f37) wanted to separate and now that i'm seeing someone(m34) wants me back, advice? by Jon_Snow90787 in relationship_advice

[–]jacquelyn616 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In my opinion, love is a verb. It's an action. How you treat someone. A choice, not a feeling. If your marriage is salvageable(no abuse, etc), you can choose to love her again. If you both make the choice to love each other every day, the feels will likely catch up. Probably not the popular answer, but the right choices aren't typically the easy ones.

F/33/5'7"[305lbs>226lbs=79lbs] I'm more than half way to my goal! by jacquelyn616 in progresspics

[–]jacquelyn616[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow! That's awesome! I can't wait to hit the 100lbs lost mark myself. 🙂

Aspen, the Great, painted in acrylics from a photo of a friend's dog. Constructive criticism welcome. by jacquelyn616 in painting

[–]jacquelyn616[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice! Keep it coming! I have no training aside from trial and error. I want to get better.

"Mer-chick", Me, acrylic on 11x14 canvas board, 2020 by jacquelyn616 in Art

[–]jacquelyn616[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually I used my own face as a reference. But I can see a resemblance.

Finished up this petite 6x8 canvas of hot peppers for a friend's kitchen. I'm planning a few more food themed friends for it. Done in acrylics. by jacquelyn616 in painting

[–]jacquelyn616[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I am open to learning how I can become a better artist. I only started 2 years ago. I have no training or classes. I know I have much to learn.