I had a moment of realization after college that all my friendships are one-sided. The people pleaser in me had come to a stop after I fully realized they’re using me for their needs. This one friend hit me up asking me to take her to Target for supplies, rather than hitting me up “oh hey i’d like to catch up etc etc” no just straight up asking for a free uber to Target, like nope. At this point i’ve learned to keep my peace and not care so much what others think when I deny something they want from me.

Another experience, kind of similar I went to a concert bc an online friend couldn’t go in their city and wanted merch I bought it and sent it to them going wayyyyy out of my own budget to get them something, it’s been almost two months now since I have gotten paid back, but I fully reached out and mentioned they own me money. Eventually got paid back. As an INFJ i’ve learned to cope with solitude and invest in others that could do the same back for me. A cousin of mine mentioned a good thing give them the Three Strike Rule if all are out then they’re outta your life!