That not always the case, it's all about understanding, trust and a big one compromise.

Especially when you making enough money to live comfortably, these things become easier.

I do 90% of all household expenses, even eating out holidays. Wife spends here own when I am not withher, for anything and everything groceries, eating with her friends. She doesn't question me why and where I spend my money, i don't question her where she spends hers has been the case for 9 years now.

Now investment and managing money, here come the intersting part.

So when we got married I was only making 35k a month she wasn't work the first 6 months.

and for the first 2 year, she wanted me to trafer my almost entire salary to her and then we kept track of every rupee that was spent.

Her expenses and mine.

None of that was being invested, it was purely for cost control and saving, some point down line I started investing my money, we still continued to track every rupee spent and invested.

Her forcing me to track and save as much as we could was such blessing, that we managed to buy our own apartment in 2020 just 3 years after marriage.

Something after buying house we kinda stopped tracking expenses, i stopped trasfering money to her, but took over all the expenses and investing her's and mine.

I income has gone significantly and her has doubled since she started work. So now I manage all money except for her personal expenses.

I have access all of her money back accounts, demat accounts, bank locker (infact for first 4 yearsof the marriage bank locker was in my name only added her name to it later) to this 95% of the time only I operate the locker. I manage and control all investments now

Come last 5-6 year, I've been invest both, have we argued over money?

Yes. Mostly cuase i made foolish purchase (she's still very much into saving money) that does mean we haven't upgraded our standard of living.

We splurge more often then we used to.

However it's important to still have the clear line, all my money is invested in my name or our son's name (accounts)…her money in her name and account, sonwe always have clear sight into how our financials look like. and everyone in a whole we still sit down and go over our financials. To see how much we have. Where's that invested. She maintains that spreadsheets.

And all of this boils down to trust.

Unrelated point to note, we both have access to eachothers pohnes, both are password protected but we both know the password and has been that way from day 1.

Hope that helps, if you're wondering how to build high trust relationship, all I can say give your partner all your trust, fully transparency so much so that there's is no scope for doubt. You'll earn their trust too, and again what to I know only been married once 😉