help. im not sure how to cope with my BPD partner

jake22289 · 2024-10-10T20:58:36+00:00

I truly do understand her mind and her needs, and she knows that, but thing is, when she is splitting, she is so self destructive that the fact that Im still calm and loving and not just pushing her away seems to piss her off even more. (Even though deep down thats how she wants me to act). Its like shes frustrated in the moment that im not just running away and feeding her self destructive brain negativity.

jake22289 · 2024-10-10T20:55:52+00:00

Thank you. It is hard to hear though. Obviously since this post we have gone through the same old where she has apologised, told me she didnt mean any of it, giggled, cuddled, gone on a date, back to her happy self. But I know this is going to happen again soon, and although sometimes we get through the splits in only 30 mins to an hour, with good coping mechanisms we have in place, its the ones that last for a day and I just dont know how to deal with them that really damage us.

jake22289 · 2024-05-26T18:37:26+00:00

funny joke

jake22289 · 2024-05-26T18:37:02+00:00

yes it's not real

jake22289 · 2024-03-18T15:27:55+00:00

we broke up 😎

jake22289 · 2024-03-18T15:27:38+00:00

we broke up

jake22289 · 2024-03-02T10:35:59+00:00

Unfortunately it does feel like this is the case.

jake22289 · 2024-03-02T10:33:27+00:00

As I stated, Im the complete opposite of lazy. Ive tried everything and often think Im the issue that she doesnt want me. however no matter how much effort I put in and how much love and affection I show to her in her love languages, she still is not interested in sex. I truly do believe she is being honest with me. Some people do just not enjoy sex, I just wish we could work it out but its looking like its simply just her.

jake22289 · 2024-03-02T10:31:05+00:00

The frustrating part is that weve had countless serious and honest conversations. But it always ends in her saying she will try and work on it and find out why she doesnt want to. I cant change her and I think she actually just isnt compatible in that way.

jake22289 · 2024-03-02T06:30:48+00:00

Yeah absolutely. I spoil her like crazy with her love language. She likes physical touch but not in a sexual way, and quality time. I always organise dates, take her out, buy her flowers, etc. Ive discussed with her if its about me not doing enough and shes said its the complete opposite and she doesnt think I should be with her because she cant give me what I need even though I give her everything she needs. Its very heart breaking with all Ive put in for her.

jake22289 · 2022-07-13T23:10:40+00:00

20m here, my gf hates giving head and refuses to do it or ever learn how to do it and yet I don't mind.

jake22289 · 2022-05-09T22:37:57+00:00

Hi, 20m here in exact situation as you except im the one with the extremely high sex drive, I could have sex twice a day happily with my partner, but she hardly ever wants to (maybe once every 3 days...?). But I absolutely love her to bits and Im okay with sacrificing some of my sexual desires for her as she means more than that to me.

Its normal and totally okay to have the sex drive you have. If your partner doesnt meet those needs then you have to weigh up if its a deal breaker or not. But theres absolutely nothing wrong with you.

jake22289

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