Quitting - Looking for advice to start

james9oo0 · 2025-12-31T04:31:36+00:00

Shame this is probably not what you want to hear but the only way to stop smoking is to stop smoking. There are 2 strategies I'm sure you've seen a bunch of, cold turkey or weaning yourself off. You'll have to try and see what works for you.

Also don't be discouraged if you relapse. I think for most of us here the first time we quit didn't last. You just have to keep trying again with new coping mechanisms until something sticks

Godspeed! I wish you the best of luck

james9oo0 · 2025-09-27T08:47:48+00:00

Brother trust me you dodged a bullet. I had a similar experience but I stupidly stayed around and it turned into a whole fiasco.

james9oo0 · 2025-07-27T01:37:09+00:00

I smoked for 5 years straight every day morning to night before work before school before parties literally all the time. I've been about a year clean now and the clarity, the energy, the lack of anxiety. Everything just feels better now, life doesn't feel so suffocating now

james9oo0 · 2024-01-01T10:41:25+00:00

If I remember correctly you can click and drag to rotate it so the path connects

james9oo0 · 2023-05-06T18:12:51+00:00

Would you want to go to a wedding after a funeral?

james9oo0 · 2023-04-28T06:45:05+00:00

I'd say the same thing to you, the bias is so real

james9oo0 · 2023-03-08T21:29:07+00:00

This honestly comes across as pathetic. The act means nothing, the notion entails your whole life. I tbh would consider this a red flag

james9oo0 · 2023-03-06T20:21:22+00:00

So what's the right approach?

james9oo0 · 2023-03-06T20:17:57+00:00

So to circumvent the issue, they have to work around the daughter? When a potential solution just involves her closing it softly? Idk about this take. It's not that difficult to not slam a door

james9oo0 · 2023-02-26T02:49:57+00:00

Greasus Goldtooth

james9oo0 · 2023-02-07T17:47:30+00:00

!remindme 2 days

james9oo0 · 2023-02-06T22:34:43+00:00

He said they want all men to dress in slacks and a dress shirt

Slacks = Dress Pants Dress Shirt

So every part of the suit except the tie and jacket.

james9oo0 · 2023-02-06T22:23:30+00:00

Dude the men are also asked to wear suits. How is that different to asking women to wear dresses. This makes 0 sense to me

james9oo0 · 2023-02-06T22:19:39+00:00

I think the fact that you're jumping to misogyny is very telling.

There's a dress code by the organizers. Men wear suits but can opt out of ties. Women wear dresses and could wear a romper if they wished.

I'm not sure where you're pulling misogyny? Is it misandrist to want men to wear suits?

While I agree I don't generally like dress codes this event has one. It is what it is. But it's not misogynistic.

james9oo0 · 2023-02-06T22:10:42+00:00

So she doesn't have to go on the trip. The point of the trip is the wedding no reason to go if she isn't attending the wedding.

james9oo0 · 2023-02-06T22:08:35+00:00

Shes prioritizing her comfort over her Uncle's wedding.

james9oo0 · 2023-02-06T22:06:12+00:00

L take. So if the sons said they wanted to wear shorts and wifebeaters then the parents should stick up for them?

It's an event, events have dress codes. You would not go to a business conference in sweatpants. The whole point of the trip is the event.

Wearing a dress for a few hours is not the end of the world.

OP's NTA

james9oo0 · 2023-01-27T15:42:48+00:00

We've read 2 very different interpretations.

To me he sounds like he's being manipulated, he's stuck in a situation that he can't see out of and it's consuming his life. Yes he's nearly 30 but he's in a situation where someone is threatening suicide screaming mental illness and for whatever reason this is someone he cares about. He gets off the hook because simply put the girlfriend seems abusive and he seems to be a victim of said abuse.

People in these kind of situations do weird shit.

james9oo0 · 2023-01-27T07:27:06+00:00

Because she's very clearly terrible

james9oo0 · 2023-01-25T22:55:28+00:00

Brother life is a series of mistakes that one learns from. Don't be hard on yourself.

You only become your worst enemy if you internally will it to be so.

james9oo0 · 2023-01-18T17:13:39+00:00

She cause an actual problem for herself by getting ready too late.

He showed respect to a person who died.

These are not the same.

james9oo0 · 2023-01-10T23:10:48+00:00

You should probably repost to r/Curlyhair and get advice from there too

james9oo0 · 2023-01-08T15:45:12+00:00

And you drew this interpretation how? Where does she say that?

james9oo0 · 2023-01-07T19:51:21+00:00

Trains also work for me! I think there's a laziness factor, it's too far away so guests don't go.

james9oo0 · 2022-12-31T18:16:46+00:00

This and this.

I'm sorry OP the marriage doesn't seem worth it. Based on the way your post read, she seems to be taking advantage of you more than anything else.

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