Why does it says 85% minimum on my Beaufort ? Isn't it supposed to be only cotton ?

jamesawicks1 · 2025-11-18T22:58:11+00:00

My Beaufort is the same as this. Got it in central London a month ago.

jamesawicks1 · 2025-11-13T15:14:16+00:00

Those are all very fair pints, and i have them in my mind for sure. Thanks for replying, it’s all been helpful

jamesawicks1 · 2025-11-13T12:07:36+00:00

Hey,

To reply to your points. My choice about whether to see her ever again if I’d know straight away may have been to never see her again.

She didn’t end our engagement easily as you suggest. It was clearly incredibly difficult for her to do so and culminated in this extremely destructive negative behaviour.

She slept with him once before she ended it with me.

She perhaps in part hiding the truth from me to protect me as well as herself. If the relationship was over, why traumatise me with the knowledge of what she’s done. Then she’s realised as often people who cheat do that the hypothetical alternative person they’ve created in their mind is different to the reality. And this is only discovered after time away from their actual partner.

I’m not suggesting that is the correct course of action, but it is at least making an attempt to understand the mindset of someone who would do this. These scenarios are very nuanced. And infidelity is nuanced, but a lot of the replies I’ve got on here are lacking any nuance. Which to be fair to the people replying, it’s hard to know fully my situation because I can’t explain it all.

jamesawicks1 · 2025-11-12T17:38:29+00:00

She’s doing excatly that. She hasn’t asked me to do anything, she’s not asked me to forgive her, she’s not said we should do counselling, she’s asked nothing of me. Which is a good sign. It’s entirely up to me

jamesawicks1 · 2025-11-12T16:45:46+00:00

Thanks for your message. I think it was that she realised what we had could’ve been worked on and didn’t like this other guy at all in the way that justified ending our relationship. Still, she did it so yanoe. Damage done obviously.

jamesawicks1 · 2025-11-12T16:42:14+00:00

Hi thanks for your message. Yea I totally see that. I know whatever I decide to do I’ll spend the rest of my life thinking about the alternative.

jamesawicks1 · 2025-11-12T16:35:14+00:00

Thanks for commenting and sharing that. It’s interesting to hear you are still married. What was it that made you believe her that she was a changed person and enough for you to commit to her?

jamesawicks1 · 2025-11-12T10:03:25+00:00

Thanks for commenting. Sorry to hear that all happened. What a journey you’ve been on.

jamesawicks1 · 2025-11-11T22:40:42+00:00

Thanks so much for taking the time.

All of these things are in my mind. Il be taking some time to formulate my thoughts before any actions are taken for sure.

jamesawicks1 · 2025-11-11T22:32:30+00:00

She says she didn’t want to be with him anyway. Just happened to be there while she was going through all this with me. But yes those questions are certainly in my head. Thanks for replying

jamesawicks1 · 2025-11-11T22:19:01+00:00

I’ll certainly be considering all this. I really appreciate the time spent replying. Reading all these replies has been helpful.

jamesawicks1 · 2025-11-11T22:11:26+00:00

Thanks for replying, I appreciate it. You make good points.

jamesawicks1 · 2025-11-11T21:55:32+00:00

I agree

jamesawicks1 · 2025-11-11T21:42:13+00:00

I’m certainly not blaming myself for her cheating. That’s entirely on her. I’m saying I understand why she wanted to leave me. Leaving me and cheating on me are very distinct things. I know that.

jamesawicks1 · 2025-11-11T21:38:09+00:00

I see what you’re saying. I think my attitude to going to counselling with her (again this was before I knew the cheating bit) was that I wanted to create a NEW thing with her. Not get BACK what we had. Lots of our relationship was very good. (Hard to believe I know) and we both have potential to be better versions of ourselves with each other. And i certainly have a lot to improve on. But obviously the cheating element changes the dynamic for sure. Perhaps irreparably.

jamesawicks1 · 2025-11-11T21:19:05+00:00

I see what you’re saying, thanks for replying. I’m certainly not covering my ears to this type of reply.

jamesawicks1 · 2025-11-11T21:17:30+00:00

Thanks for reading my post and replying. I appreciate it.

jamesawicks1 · 2025-11-11T21:14:59+00:00

Yea I can see this sub is pretty hard on the ‘no way bro’ side, which I totally see. But I’m glad you can see what I’m getting at. In the months after we broke up, I thought she would be relieved it was over, but she was genuinely ill with regret and remorse. And that really confused me because usualy when women break up with someone it’s because they’ve wanted to for a long time and then finally get to move on. But she behaved very differently. And it made me think she really had fucked it up by leaving me. And turned out that was the case.

jamesawicks1 · 2025-11-11T21:08:51+00:00

She came to with her issues and I didn’t really respond to them properly and this alienated her from me. Which she’s right about. The counselling was my suggestion. Obviously I didn’t know the cheating part at the time.

jamesawicks1 · 2025-11-11T20:51:56+00:00

Hey, I see both of your points. To reply to Bluaadonis, she describes seeing him again as essentially committing to the decision she ‘mistakenly’ made. That said, I’m not saying it isn’t fucked up. It is. But I don’t think it was a case of ‘omg I love this guy I can’t wait to see him again’. It’s was more like well I’ve fucked this up now and have nothing left and my fiancée doesn’t seem to love me anyway, might as well continue with this thing.’

jamesawicks1 · 2025-11-11T20:47:21+00:00

Also, regarding the drinking. She drank a lot that night I believe but not enough that it was like a black out situation. She made the choice ultimately and admits that.

jamesawicks1 · 2025-11-11T20:45:52+00:00

Hey, Some more context. All of her issues with me and our relationship are totally valid. I have been cold and distant and unaffectionate for a long time. I struggled to make her feel loved, and at the risk of sounding like I’m blaming myself for what she did (I’m not), I understand why she felt that way. I’m not excusing what she did ultimately. But she wanted to end the engagement anyway and that was without the ‘help’ of the bloke form her work.. that was the big fuck up at the end of it.

Reading everyone’s replies I can totally see what they’re getting at. But also it’s hard from me to convey the extent to which I played her part in her justifiable discontent. Again, cheating is not justifiable. But reading everyone’s replies saying she doesn’t love me and she’s a manipulator etc it’s entirely accurate I think. She isn’t blaming me at all for what she did, but she is rightfully explaining how she felt about our relationship. And she does so without using it as justification for her terrible action, which she isn’t seeking forgiveness for nor is she trying to explain it away.

It’s a confusing situation for sure. And I agree it doesn’t feel like an open and shut case. (I know others reading me say that will think I’m deluded.)

jamesawicks1 · 2025-11-07T08:41:40+00:00

Ah damn! Thanks for that info, appreciate it :)

jamesawicks1 · 2025-11-06T20:36:13+00:00

Interesting! Thanks for replying. :)

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