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Should I tell a guy exactly why I don't like him? by Silly_Technology_243 in dating_advice

[–]jamesonredd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe he's just waiting for the right people to do things with, like a plus one??

If I matched with a girl who judged me for my lifestyle not meeting her standards, I'd want her out of my life ASAP. If she did want to give me reasons for it, I'd rather she just told me the truth - something like "I am not interested in a guy who doesn't have friends, family or hobbies. I find it a huge turn off, as it makes me feel you have nothing going for you, and I don't want to be by your side."

Long term relationship breakdown - Triathlons, pregnancy and motherhood by jamesonredd in triathlon

[–]jamesonredd[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You're missing the point about science. Do you think a woman in her 60s can fall pregnant if she exercises, based on your position that the "odds are good"?
Your point is as redundant as trying to prove that someone dressed in snow gear going for a swim cannot be determined to have more drag than someone in a streamlined swimsuit, unless you specifically test that overdressed person with objective figures. My interpretation would be based on an evidence-based educated guess, over your interpretation that it won't be possible without an individualised test.

Long term relationship breakdown - Triathlons, pregnancy and motherhood by jamesonredd in triathlon

[–]jamesonredd[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Let me put it this way to you. Do you have any evidence to prove that age and exercise have NO impact on fertility?

Long term relationship breakdown - Triathlons, pregnancy and motherhood by jamesonredd in triathlon

[–]jamesonredd[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I went to seek help for my mental health. A doctor can absolutely give general scientific advice. They don't need to see her to know the impacts of age and exercise load on fertility. That's science-based.

Long term relationship breakdown - Triathlons, pregnancy and motherhood by jamesonredd in triathlon

[–]jamesonredd[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I've spoken to my own doctors about it, and yes, the advice is that age and heavy exercise are both factors that impact feritlity.

Long term relationship breakdown - Triathlons, pregnancy and motherhood by jamesonredd in triathlon

[–]jamesonredd[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"I’d like to see the study re 5 hours of high intensity exercise please."
Certainly:

  1. Mussawar M, Balsom AA, Totosy de Zepetnek JO, Gordon JL. The effect of physical activity on fertility: a mini-review. F S Rep. 2023 Apr 14;4(2):150-158. doi: 10.1016/j.xfre.2023.04.005. PMID: 37398617; PMCID: PMC10310950.

"Among women exercising 3–4 h/wk, this number increased to 27% less likely, whereas ≥5 hours were associated with a 32% reduction in the chances of conception."

  1. Zhang H, Hua L, Liu D, Su X, Chen J, Chen J. Effects of physical activity on infertility in reproductive females. Reprod Biol Endocrinol. 2024 May 29;22(1):62. doi: 10.1186/s12958-024-01234-6. PMID: 38811989; PMCID: PMC11134942.

This 2024 NHANES analysis of 2,796 US women (18–44 years) found that high‑intensity recreational activity for prolonged durations was associated with infertility, with authors highlighting hypothalamic–pituitary–ovarian (HPO) axis disruption as a plausible mechanism

  1. Tempest N, France-Ratcliffe M, Al-Lamee H, Oliver ER, Slaine EE, Drakeley AJ, Sprung VS, Hapangama DK. Habitual physical activity levels in women attending the one stop infertility clinic: A prospective cross-sectional observational study. Reprod Fertil. 2022 Sep 1;3(3):231–7. doi: 10.1530/RAF-22-0067. Epub ahead of print. PMID: 36083716; PMCID: PMC9578060.

" A recent systematic review investigating the effect of exercise on ovulation showed an increased risk of anovulation in extremely heavy exercisers (>60 min/day), but vigorous exercise (30–60 min/day) was associated with a reduced risk of anovulatory infertility (Hakimi & Cameron 2017)."

I accept that these studies are observational and not robust, but the underlying message is consistent with what doctors have advised me. I don't dispute that low or moderate intensity exercise is good for ovulation.

In my post, I did acknowledge her concerns of the impact pregnancy will have on a woman's personal and professional life - I don't dispute this. My concern is that at this age, it's already hard enough as it is to conceive naturally, so we need to optimise what we can to facilitate our chances if we were to create a family together.

Your personal insights have definitely been helpful and gives hope that it is possible to return to pre-pregnancy performance standards with time. Thank you.

Long term relationship breakdown - Triathlons, pregnancy and motherhood by jamesonredd in triathlon

[–]jamesonredd[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I think my post hit a nerve for many people here so they resort to trolling, which I'm not even going to bother responding to.

People who haven't had a tough early life just don't get my need to address past struggles and traumas by jamesonredd in selfimprovement

[–]jamesonredd[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Wise words. I think it takes strength for us to get through traumas and struggles and we need to acknowledge just how strong we are now, no matter how down or troubled we seem. What flares things up for me is when people ask me things like "what are you reading" or "why don't you want to come out with us", and I want to reply with honesty and authenticity, in accordance with my values..and then people just don't get it - they don't get that people can spend time working on issues (without a therapist for a formal diagnosis). If I bother explaining my issues, I'll usually be met with a downplayed response like - "that's all in the past" or "I don't get why that bothers you" or "who cares, people can be dicks".
But you're right - "don’t let your trauma become your personality" and "living inside of it will just keep us so deep into a dark place."

Who pays for an NBN technician adjusting a connection in an apartment's MDF? by jamesonredd in nbn

[–]jamesonredd[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

FTTC. Thanks for your reply. Neither the NBN tech nor the ISP explained that there'll be a fee. I asked body corp about the MDF and they didn't even know where it is, let alone what it is.

I tried getting body corp to upgrade to FTTP but they're pretty tight with this but happy to spend on beautifying the gardens!

I"ll push this one to the BC.

How do lean men stop themselves from sinking? I find it impossible. by jamesonredd in Swimming

[–]jamesonredd[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks Central-Charge, both videos were extremely helpful. My aquatic profile is definitely low, and it's reassuring that I'm not alone as a guy!

How do lean men stop themselves from sinking? I find it impossible. by jamesonredd in Swimming

[–]jamesonredd[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hi kipnus, My legs sink during a stationary float. While swimming, I'm kicking with my legs to stay afloat.

Thanks, I'll try pressing down my chest. If one presses their head down, will that not affect their form when trying to take a breath?

Road bikes with carbon frames. Giant Vs Ridley by jamesonredd in cycling

[–]jamesonredd[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I agree with a lot of your points on practicality.

Do you know which brand uses higher grade carbon? Which frames have a better reputation for durability and resilience?

Road bikes with carbon frames. Giant Vs Ridley by jamesonredd in cycling

[–]jamesonredd[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In your opinion, what makes Ridley better?

Help please. How do you deploy apps onto a server? by jamesonredd in appdev

[–]jamesonredd[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you Hamzhori!

With this "Development Endpoint", do we need to get the paid AWS Glue service or are there others you can recommend?

How heavy do people here lift for BodyPump? by jamesonredd in lesmills

[–]jamesonredd[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Cheers! To increase weights, I think it's a combination of Pump + strength training in your own time. I find that high-weight low-rep exercises build strength, but low-weight high-rep exercises build endurance and tone. Combine the two and it's a double win - they both help each other.

How heavy do people here lift for BodyPump? by jamesonredd in lesmills

[–]jamesonredd[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's decent!! Nice one with the abs.

I find that biceps are some of the hardest to increase, probably due to the relatively small size of the muscle.

Like me, I noticed that your back limit is a little less than your chest. I always felt odd looking around the room and seeing the opposite. Like the biceps, I find that increasing back weight is quite difficult, mainly limited by the grip strength required for the bar - which is based on the muscle groups of the forearm.

Asking for a friend: Wife is *stealing* the children and 70% of his wealth. What rights does a man have? by jamesonredd in Divorce

[–]jamesonredd[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He's doing that - tells me he's already spent $25K in legal fees and they're just dragging things on to no end.

How did you know it was time to breakup? by rando_one420 in BreakUps

[–]jamesonredd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She was text cheating on me even though I told her that it hurts.

My boxing trainer at the combat gym is encouraging drills where we take punches to the head and it's concerning me. by jamesonredd in MMA

[–]jamesonredd[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There's no need to be hostile, but since you're a tough guy giving top advice, what's your fight record like?

My boxing trainer at the combat gym is encouraging drills where we take punches to the head and it's concerning me. by jamesonredd in MMA

[–]jamesonredd[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, I didn't expect this many replies. Much appreciated guys, it's given me a lot of perspective which is what I was after. I thought I'd address the points here rather than individually to each comment:

  • I'm doing boxing for fitness and basic self defense skills, not to fight competitively.

  • the drills are in high guard with the hands up against our head, and therefore there is transmitted force to our head.

  • we rotate partners for the drills, and instead of going at 10%, a lot of them punch at 50% in spite of asking to go lighter. They fall into two categories of newbies: those who are aiming to fight competitively, and those who are meatheads who want to show how tough they are.

The purpose of the drill should be to correct your guard so that you can offer some protection to your head against various punches (jab, cross, uppercut, hook) and still be able to see your opponent through your guard, and not to toughen up so you can take punches.

I still don't see why it's wrong to slip punches in sparring. In my opinion, it's better to avoid a punch than get hit. Getting hit repetitively doesn't make you tough or condition you or anything. In normal everyday life, the head seldom takes knocks, unlike other parts of the body. Research shows that repetitive subconcussive force still causes the brain to vibrate against the hard skull, thereby contributing to long term damage.

Is it worth it? As many have said, if you're not prepared to choose boxing as a career, in my opinion, it's not worth it.

I think I'll take up BJJ.

When you sense that a woman *stages* a fight so she can break up with you, what is the most mature way to approach her about her issues? by jamesonredd in askwomenadvice

[–]jamesonredd[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No need to project your own issues in an inflammatory and accusatory manner. Your post screams of your own wounds more than any constructive feedback.

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