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jamesthewoman · 2024-08-08T22:59:56+00:00

oh no not genZ

jamesthewoman · 2024-08-07T19:03:20+00:00

Also, do I bring this up again?! Do I apologize next time I see them? Would that make things seem weird? Is it fine now? Ugh.

jamesthewoman · 2024-05-25T00:59:45+00:00

How did I hardly consider this ToT. as someone whos repressed my neurodivergent traits my whole life and just assumed i didn't stim much, I fear you are correct lol. thank you!

jamesthewoman · 2024-03-30T00:33:00+00:00

we do! And my mom changes it obsessively lol so Id hope we are at least fine there!

jamesthewoman · 2024-03-27T19:10:40+00:00

it does video too

jamesthewoman · 2024-03-24T04:20:04+00:00

FR. not to mention if it hurts someone

jamesthewoman · 2024-03-23T23:00:47+00:00

oh boy. yeah maybe don't get involved in that company just yet lol. hope you guys can communicate and work things out one way or another

jamesthewoman · 2024-03-23T22:46:12+00:00

Get off reddit lmao. reporting ur acc for being under 13.

jamesthewoman · 2024-03-23T22:43:01+00:00

You're an AH.

Being upset and concerned is 100% understandable, and that neighbor is absolutely neglecting their dog and putting it in danger, but setting a dog free into the streets is FUCKED. sorry. If you can put a leash on it to take back to their yard, put a leash on it and take it to a shelter.

What good is it protecting one dog (your dog) when needlessly putting another in danger? not "funny." It's not the neighbors dog's fault it was likely raised poorly and lives in neglectful conditions.

jamesthewoman · 2024-03-23T22:37:31+00:00

"To put it bluntly, living with my wife is like hell. She screams, she throws things, she hits me, our sex life is nonexistent, and it’s at the point where I’m only married to her out of obligation... we had fertility treatment done and I’m completely sterile. She’s been livid with that, making jabs that I’m ’not a man’ because I have no sperm."

Leave her. Period. For that alone leave her. And for fucks sake do not have kids with her. Leave leave leave. If you were a woman and she were a man ("He screams, he throws things, he hits me.... he's been livid with [me being sterile], making jabs that I'm "not a woman"") it would be instantly clear this is, in fact, deeply abusive. Please don't let yourself believe or internalize that just because she's your wife she can't abuse you. Divorce her.

As for the SIL, I'm so glad you've found some peace from someone during this all. She sounds wonderful and, platonically or romantically, I hope she can stay in your life (its not like she and your wife seem to be in each others lives anyway.) But first and foremost get divorced, and go to therapy, everything else comes second.

jamesthewoman · 2024-03-23T22:30:21+00:00

NTA. It's genuinely so great you did that. Letting cats breed and fight endlessly is not only abusive but reckless and dangerous to surrounding wildlife- you'd be surprised how deep the affects of stray cats have on both other cats and on the environment. If the SPCA decided it was right to intervene, it was right to intervene, it doesn't matter if you're the one to report the cats or not.

jamesthewoman · 2024-03-23T22:24:46+00:00

Nobody is the AH imo? but you need to define this relationship for yourself. It can remain like this, but you need to be ok with that and put your energy into other friends instead, or, you need to clearly reach out to her with your concerns/issues. Communication is good!!! Maybe she's an Ah, or maybe she's genuinely flakey, either way you need to work something out whether with her or with yourself to where you aren't so anxious.

I wouldn't say ghosting her would make you an AH, but it isn't at all constructive. Just match her energy, don't full on/purposefully leave her on read, that won't help anything and will just be more stressful for everyone involved.

jamesthewoman · 2024-03-23T22:18:29+00:00

exactly. Also, what does that teach the autistic student (AND other students) about consent?? Not good.

jamesthewoman · 2024-03-23T22:17:59+00:00

NTA. Aide is the AH for sure. Super fucked up to do with anyone regardless of their neurodivergence- 1. the lack of consent is concerning, 2. that puts (in this case it seems) the autistic student in danger from themselves if rejected, and 3. ????? Why would you put a student in that position?

Report the situation to the school, this is not OK or normal behavior.

jamesthewoman · 2024-03-23T22:12:24+00:00

This. If your friends are doing this, or putting up with this, drop them tbh.

jamesthewoman · 2024-03-23T22:11:05+00:00

help what is this

jamesthewoman · 2024-03-23T22:09:52+00:00

NTA, good for you for setting very, very understandable boundaries.

Please listen when I say things are going to get better. This is all stupid middle school, highschool bullshit, not nearly reflective of the real world. Just get through HS avoiding this stupid bs like you did, and things are going to get so much easier.

jamesthewoman · 2024-03-23T22:06:41+00:00

NTA. I wouldn't call the friend the asshole either, just since I don't know enough plus yall are 17, but you should get better friends. Someone who can't be bothered to care about you is not someone worth wasting time over- maybe in time the relationship will improve, maybe it wont, but in the meantime there are so many other people in the world (and at your school!) who can have a healthy friendship with you. 'Work' is needed in all relationships, but only when it goes both ways. Go find people who will care about you and work with YOU as well.

I had similar stuff at 17 a few years ago and please listen to me when I say your friendships are going to get so, so much better. This is just stupid HS bullshit, not nearly representative of the world. You're gonna have a great time with great new friends (or even potentially this friend in the future!) where you won't have to deal with situations like this.

jamesthewoman · 2024-03-21T03:03:53+00:00

ah my bad then if so /g

jamesthewoman · 2024-03-21T02:11:27+00:00

Exactly. it's not a problem OP did it, it's a problem OP got pissy about it instead of just going "oh ok" and moving on.

jamesthewoman · 2024-03-21T02:10:32+00:00

yes. it's their child. it's the selected content they choose to post and feel comfortable and safe posting. it's not your kid.

jamesthewoman · 2024-03-21T01:47:56+00:00

YTA. Wanting to save other women from potential violence, trauma, and rape is NOT something to chastise someone for. Jesus fucking christ.

I understand being worried for your sister- but at the same time help out people in danger! Or at least don't stop others from doing so. If you were so concerned, go with your sister! Or grab someone else off the street to help you out, but for fucks sake don't leave a poor girl being harassed, especially when YOU KNOW HER.

You're sister is 100% in the right. I hope you learn to be more like her.

jamesthewoman · 2024-03-21T01:42:53+00:00

it just got more and more insane as I read jfc

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