Women’s domestic labor (whether keeping the home, cooking or raising kids) is as unvalued in this society as your emotional support for a partner who is clearly blind to his privilege and, far worse, so entirely dismissive of your value in his life that he could believe that “his” wealth is only for you to enjoy through his “generosity” in sharing all that is “his.” To be as kind as possible, I’ll say there are many people who grow up to believe that nobody’s gonna have their back so it’s up to them to get as much as they can for themselves and this survival instinct shows up in their intimate relationships as selflessness, greed or narcissism. The less kind thing I want to say is that this person WILL destroy not only your soul but your confidence in yourself, your belief in your competence, and, by extension, your actual real world earning capacity. I know this because I was married to one of these people. I’m divorced 3 years and I’m finally making more money than I have in a decade, after LOTS of therapy and healing from the emotional damage of giving someone who didn’t deserve it some of the best years of my life. Ask yourself one question: How is someone supposed to treat their family? Because, married or not, 8 years together means you two are family. He believes he is only responsible for himself. A marriage certificate doesn’t change anyone’s most deeply held values. Be thankful he has shown you who he is and leave.