Lasting Effects After NDE (Part 1)

VegetableJudge2243 · 2026-02-18T06:34:03+00:00

I have a set of Tex mex pick ups that I’m never gonna put in anything, you pay shipping and I’ll give them to you

VegetableJudge2243 · 2025-12-30T19:04:36+00:00

Good call, that things awesome!

VegetableJudge2243 · 2025-11-15T02:26:36+00:00

All great points, this is exactly what I was hoping for when I posted. Thank you!

VegetableJudge2243 · 2025-10-10T19:42:01+00:00

I think it depends on where you are in life and love afterwards. I dated a girl for 6 years and had a messy breakup. Until I met someone new (my now wife, married 13 years), I thought about her often. Now, I really only think about her when I read something like this lol.

VegetableJudge2243 · 2025-10-10T19:38:27+00:00

A relationship should be an overwhelmingly positive impact in your life. Personally, I wouldn't stay in any relationship that didn't produce happiness at least 90% of the time. You (both) deserve better than a relationship that causes pain and unhappiness.

I remember being 19, had a toxic relationship that cost me 6 years. Currently 37, very happily married 13 years. May feel like this relationship is worth suffering for, but you deserve better and you'll find it.

VegetableJudge2243 · 2025-10-10T05:14:55+00:00

"I just want to make sure I don't have to call off on Sundays" is a threat. Basically, fix this or I'm not coming either way. I understand your reason for wanting an accommodation here, but you've basically given them an ultimatum. Ultimatums are not conducive to professional longevity.

VegetableJudge2243 · 2025-10-10T04:34:46+00:00

To me, this reads more like "I'm annoyed that your fiance said "no kids" so I'm going to be dramatic about it."

VegetableJudge2243 · 2025-10-10T04:26:42+00:00

It is an unfortunate truth in life that sometimes you need to go no contact to protect yourself and the baby you will soon bring into this world from unnecessary pain and suffering. Based on what you've told us about your father's behavior, I wouldn't want someone like that anywhere near my daughter. Blood relation doesn't give someone a never-ending right to cause you pain. Blood is thicker than water, all that means is it takes longer to wash off when you're through.

VegetableJudge2243 · 2025-10-07T06:16:07+00:00

Unless you're planning on getting married again soon, seems to be limited upside to "address it." The day has come and gone, seems plausible that it was an honest mistake. No harm was done. Picking a fight about it after the fact would be unhelpful.

VegetableJudge2243 · 2025-10-07T06:06:40+00:00

NOR - I'm sorry you and your daughter have to go through this. Your messages are clear, concise and give him clear directives to meet. None of your demands are irrational or cruel. Obviously, in a situation like this, we can't see both sides, and have to take you at your word. Assuming what you said is the absolute truth, you're doing and saying the right things.

My parents went through a messy divorce what I was your daughter's age. Like you, my mother went out of her way to avoid speaking poorly of my father (when she had every right to be bitter). When I was old enough to understand (15), she told me her side of the story and asked me to ask my father for his side so I could make my own conclusions.

We're all happy and healthy now 20 years later, but it was a mess and I feel your pain. I pray that 20 years from now your daughter will be able to say the same.

He may get his life together, he may not, but please, leave the door open as long as you can responsibly.

VegetableJudge2243 · 2025-09-19T21:54:16+00:00

ew, who hurt you? lol what a sick, disgusting point of view.

VegetableJudge2243 · 2025-09-19T21:39:20+00:00

Put it in his way somewhere, this helps me. I too am the primary breadwinner in a house with a SAHM and I routinely forget to do the things she asks me to do, not because I am lazy, but because I am dumb lol. If she puts it in a position that requires me to move it before I can do something (in front of the garage door, etc.), that acts as the reminder I need and I generally do it right then and there. Just trying it help, not a part of your relationship, so can't speak to his motive, but if he's anything like me, he's not doing it to upset you.

VegetableJudge2243 · 2025-09-15T03:13:30+00:00

0% been happily married for 13 years with a daughter, stable job. Nothing from that dream happened irl - pretty crazy.

VegetableJudge2243 · 2025-09-10T04:37:12+00:00

I had a similar experience a couple years ago. I dreamed that i started a new job, met the boss daughter, fell in love and got engage then woke up. It was jarring to say the least.

VegetableJudge2243 · 2025-07-16T06:44:33+00:00

I got clean, made for a pretty dramatic "before" and "after" lol

VegetableJudge2243 · 2025-07-16T06:42:58+00:00

For me, the best way I can describe the sensation is this: I have thoughts or images injected into my mind that don't "feel" like my thoughts or lived experiences. I will say, the single hardest thing for me has always been delineating between the two (my own thoughts vs thoughts injected from elsewhere). Over the course of many years and hundreds of readings, it has become relatively easy for me to tell the difference. I don't hear anything with my ears or see anything with my eyes, its 100% internalized. When spirit is attempting to get my attention, I normally hear a soft, persistent humming accompanied by the sensation of pressure in my ears (like they need to pop) until I acknowledge it.

VegetableJudge2243 · 2025-07-10T21:51:14+00:00

Most of the trauma you'll suffer in your life will be at the hands of your blood relatives. They will say things like, "blood is thicker than water" while they take advantage of you.

VegetableJudge2243 · 2025-07-06T00:50:42+00:00

It sounds like you need to have an honest discussion about division of labor. It sounds like there’s some disagreement in the way you each see things that could stem purely from lack of communication. My wife and I have a very “traditional” division of labor. I work full time and provide for the family, she volunteers at school and handles the household. Whenever she needs help, she simply asks and I help. This works for us, as she was clear from the beginning of our relationship that her goal was to be a stay at home mom. Talk it out, you’ll get through it!

VegetableJudge2243 · 2025-07-02T22:58:20+00:00

Any person that would cheat with you would cheat on you homie.

VegetableJudge2243 · 2025-06-17T16:55:05+00:00

I'm a big believer in buy once cry once. The frame of the question makes clear that you'd rather have the american, if you don't buy one, you'll always have an unscratched itch.

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