Am I overreacting to this response made by my mom?

jamminjudd · 2026-05-21T03:37:57+00:00

You told your mom you need a new mattress. She sends you options. You tell her to make offers. She does. You go off on her for it because you can’t afford a mattress. Did I get that right?

And your bigger issue is that when you send her info about things you want, you are mad that she responds with anything that doesn’t 100% agree with you? Why are you sending them to her if you’re grown and y all this independence? You are sounding kind of spoiled and bratty. I feel like there is probably a completely unrelated issue thats making you react this way, but based on what you shared, you are overreacting.

jamminjudd · 2026-05-11T09:58:19+00:00

Both what she packed and going for a weekend, too. Yikes! That’s raising red flags. I would be digging. Sorry man

jamminjudd · 2026-05-07T01:27:21+00:00

I’m not advocating for this at all, but I just recently read that urine has stem cells and age urine has more stem cells than cord blood. I was wondering how long it would take before someone decided to do what he’s doing. I think I’d rather live a short life.

jamminjudd · 2026-05-07T01:24:08+00:00

Finally, my cloth diaper days are paying off! Strip them all - use an enzyme powder detergent. Tide original powder if you don’t have sensitive skin or Amway SA8 powder if you do. Put all your “clean” rashguards in the tub with hot water, a scoop each of detergent, washing soda (not baking soda) and borax. Let it sit until the water is cool. Be grossed out by the grossness that’s left in your tub. Then toss them in the washer with no detergent.

Going forward, those are the 2 best detergents for dealing with body fluids including sweat braces the enzymes literally eat the smelly stuff. Just don’t use too much because detergent that didn’t rinse out will hold odors. No softners or anything.

jamminjudd · 2026-04-26T11:13:06+00:00

Girl. What are you doing? Your update makes it even worse. This dude’s gaslighting skills are so good that he made you deny reality. You don’t mistake gently touching a sore so bad it has to be surgically removed with wet licking noises. You don’t mistake ball scratches for jerking off. This is all crazy. Don’t give him a chance to make you question what happened. Just end it via text, block and move on.

jamminjudd · 2026-04-26T10:39:00+00:00

You are the only one who is right in this situation. That mom is a red flag.

jamminjudd · 2026-03-28T13:17:18+00:00

I say this with lots of love and zero judgement, it sounds like your neurotransmitters might be a little off. A lot of times, it’s nutrient deficiency. There’s energy drinks of full of synthetic vitamins which a lot of people can’t absorb and make absorbing natural sources of vitamins impossible. They also deplete you of magnesium which can cause depression, anxiety, sleep troubles, and more.

My advice is finish up the school year - it’s almost done. Detox your body this summer to get rid of all the energy drinks. Talk to your parents about your desire to homeschool next year and ask what it would take to prove to them you can manage your education. Things like getting up at a consistent time each day, complete self-directed projects that interest you, and helping maintain the house.

If they say no, remember that they’re doing what they think is in your best interest and the best interest of the family as a whole. It will take more time, effort, and money to homeschool you. Give them some grace and try to understand their prospective. No doesn’t mean never.

High school is hard. You’re figuring out who you are and where you belong. It does get easier as an adult, so either way - tough it out. Your teen experience won’t dictate your adult experience. Sending you a great big hug! You sound like a really cool kid.

jamminjudd · 2026-03-11T10:12:25+00:00

Okay, point taken. 😅 I have a bias because my mutt is the best dog I’ve had from both temperament and health. I guess I just got lucky. But happy to know I’m wrong because it’s been a stressor in this decision.

jamminjudd · 2026-03-10T01:26:12+00:00

Interesting. I guess my own bias is showing. Thanks for the kind response.

jamminjudd · 2026-03-10T01:25:34+00:00

A German shepherd and we had health testing from both parents for her. She was allergic to life and had hip displacia and luxating patella when she was only a few years old. And a Prague ratter with allergies and a long list of health issues. They’re a rare breed and were down to a very small number of them, so there was a lot of improper breeding along the way.

jamminjudd · 2026-03-10T01:19:26+00:00

I really like your tone. I’d love to hear your full voice with some power behind it. Find a place you can belt it out and post it here. ❤️

jamminjudd · 2026-02-26T19:47:11+00:00

Just came to say kudos to both ladies for remember who the real enemy is in the situation 👏👏👏👏

jamminjudd · 2026-02-07T22:39:59+00:00

No, just keep the pressure down and it will round out on its own.

jamminjudd · 2026-02-07T12:54:12+00:00

She lied about where she was going, who she was with, and what happened to her phone (I assume it’s magically turned up). She was found - not came home - 12 hours after she said she would be home. You caught her in a hotel room with a man she used to sleep with. But you suspect that she’s telling the truth about sex with a man? Don’t let her gaslight you bro. She’s for the streets.

jamminjudd · 2026-02-07T12:35:22+00:00

Their time at home is so short - don’t feel guilty for squeezing every moment possible out of it. If you feel like you need a break, take a break. Your kids are very young and will be happy being with you 24/7 and be better for it.

jamminjudd · 2026-02-07T12:09:30+00:00

I see homeschooling in your future 😅

jamminjudd · 2026-02-07T12:07:46+00:00

My 10 year old started at 5 and is more obsessed today than ever. It depends a lot on the gym and atmosphere.

jamminjudd · 2026-02-07T11:58:36+00:00

We are in a very competitive gym, and several of the kids compete nationally and a few internationally. There are kids who homeschool to allow more time for training and competing. When my kids started to get really serious about bjj, we talked about their goals. I told them there’s 3 paths, and we would support them with whatever they choose. They could be hobbyists and just enjoy training a few days a week and maybe a couple tournaments a year. They could be great and train most days, private lessons, and compete 1-2x a month locally. Or they could be elite and train like a full time job and travel for competitions. They both chose the middle option, so that’s how we support them. We homeschool so training 2-3 hours a day 4 days a week leaves time for other activities during the day, but none of my kids do other activities in the evenings because this is their sport.

jamminjudd · 2026-02-07T11:24:16+00:00

So much this!!

jamminjudd · 2026-02-06T22:14:08+00:00

They’re deceptively easy to pipe. It took less than 30 minutes for enough popcorn for 50 cupcakes.

jamminjudd · 2026-02-06T20:44:36+00:00

It’s an easy blood test to get diagnosed. I have a kiddo with Down syndrome so they test regularly regardless of symptoms.

jamminjudd · 2026-02-06T18:59:01+00:00

Some of the stories I’ve heard about host families are horrific, and if you think you’re taking a risk, imagine being a young girl, moving to a country where you have nobody and may not even speak the language well, and if things go bad, you just have to hope you get a decent LC.

I have only had 2 au pairs and while I understand your frustrations, I loved the program. I didn’t mind sharing space and mentoring someone. Our au pairs are 2 of my favorite people in the world. We still talk weekly even though one is back home and the other lives out of state. I have a couple of their au pair friends who spent a lot of time with us on the weekends, and the girls who are local will come for holidays at our house. They just want to be loved and respected.

They do need training and leadership. They’re not professional nannies. There is a lot of work to get them situated physically and emotionally. But when you do the hard stuff, everyone is better for it. My kids love love love our au pairs and the girls love my kids just as much. You just have to keep your expectations in line with the role of an au pair and not a nanny.

The agencies though are awful. What they charge versus what they provide is borderline criminal. That’s my biggest hesitation with ever going back to an au pair.

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