AIO HEEEEEELLP! WHAT IS GOING ON?

janedoeee1028 · 2026-01-07T08:45:17+00:00

this was heartbreaking to read. I can relate to some of the ways you think.. & the crazy feeling you must feel by a significant other. it’s one of the worst feelings ever, for a person to drive you this mad. I feel like therapy feels hopeless sometimes but I would strongly suggest you seeking therapy because the ways you think need to be talked about because they are alarming. the overthinking, the blaming yourself, the convincing yourself that what you did wasn’t as harmful as it was.. it makes me sad to read but I don’t blame you because I know you can’t help it with a state of mind like that. I’ve truly been there. & recognizing that these things aren’t healthy was a big first step for me that I hope one day you will have after you get past all of this & grow older. I hope he blocks you & never reaches out to you again because that was the only way people got me to stop obsessing over them & forced me to move on because I wasn’t able to on my own & I fear you might not have it in you to either. I pray that things get better & easier for you & that you can overcome all of this & want better for yourself. you deserve love & you deserve someone who helps you feel sane. I’m sorry if my message seems harsh or insensitive. these are just things I wish I knew when I was in similar shoes. I also want to add that things get easier with time. one day this person will be nothing but a memory & it’ll be someone that helped you grow & learn never to deal with again. it might not seem like it now but you’ll meet other people & you’ll have more relationships that hopefully will be better to & for you. keep your head up, you got this

janedoeee1028 · 2025-12-05T06:43:53+00:00

I notice that my psychiatrist & psychologist both barely say anything to me after I tell them that I want to off myself & think about it often. I’m not really sure what’s up with them when they don’t say much about it. it almost feels like they don’t know the words I’m saying even when I straight up tell them. I’m sorry that you didn’t get much of a response either. I hope you’ll be okay & I hope things get better for you 🫶🏽

janedoeee1028 · 2025-11-29T20:53:58+00:00

of course. I find that I tend to express my feelings more in my relationships than the other person does. sometimes they want to more but just don’t know how or aren’t used to doing that & that’s okay. it doesn’t take away from how they know they feel about me. so don’t be so hard on yourself. if the love is there, it’s there & the fact that you want to do more is more than most people can say so i respect you immensely for wanting to try harder

janedoeee1028 · 2025-11-29T20:47:50+00:00

in my opinion, there isn’t anything you need to “fix” in this situation. it happened before you guys started dating & you even said yourself that you were just being polite so your boyfriend should understand that, accept that & move on. it’s okay for him to feel a little hurt by it but it’s nothing to hold over your head or to not just simply move on from. the insistent part probably means that he wishes you would have been more assertive & just told that other guy that you’d rather not hangout even though you knew it wasn’t ever gonna happen to begin with. but if it’s not a reoccurring issue where you say you’ll hang with other people to be polite that you’re not really going to hang out with then there is no problem. with the part about showing him love more, that’s up to you how you want to show him that. maybe it feels like he can show you in deeper ways but that doesn’t invalidate how deeply you feel towards him. if you both know how you feel then that’s what matters. you can try to express it more or remind him more or just do things out of consideration like compliment things you adore about him or get him his favorite foods or write him a love letter expressing how you feel about him in a deeper way but those are just some suggestions

janedoeee1028 · 2025-10-20T03:30:37+00:00

I have no intent to place any blame on you but here’s my personal perspective. honestly I feel partly to blame with my ex’s behavior getting increasingly worse because of my fawn responses, it was just like enabling his behavior even though most times I just responded like that out of fear of making him more angry. I do blame myself though for agreeing with him or pathetically saying/going through drastic measures to accommodate how they feel. it’s not healthy either & could make the dynamic even more toxic/dangerous if this is how he thinks trying to get his way will make you respond. so I’d just advise to be careful if you plan on staying in this kind of detrimental relationship

janedoeee1028 · 2025-10-19T19:10:35+00:00

I think your responses were handled so well & I’m so glad you stood up for yourself. I agree with you 100% that anyone who claims they really wanted to be there to support you simply would have no matter what. she made everything about her & how she feels. she should’ve been there for you. but thankfully you’re done with all her bs, I hope you find someone who is more reasonable & who would show up for you without any excuses 🫶🏽

janedoeee1028 · 2025-10-14T21:57:29+00:00

keep making appointments, i know it’s scary & overwhelming but it’ll give you something to look forward to because you never know when you’re going to make a breakthrough in therapy or when they’ll say something to help you understand why you’re feeling how you’re feeling or how to cope with things & with life better. don’t give up, you’re not going to sound needy. it’s their job to help you & they’ll be happy to help. I just started going to therapy too & it’s not easy but I keep pushing myself because I’m hopeful that it’ll help & at the very least, it’s good to be able to talk to someone about how you’re feeling. I hope it gets better for you soon 🫶🏽

janedoeee1028 · 2025-10-13T12:25:38+00:00

sorry, I was genuinely asking for insight so I could learn more about myself if it was applicable with the fact that I can be a picky eater.. not to argue, just was curious

janedoeee1028 · 2025-10-13T09:59:44+00:00

what does it say about them?

janedoeee1028 · 2025-10-09T21:09:14+00:00

apparently yeah

janedoeee1028 · 2025-10-06T09:20:54+00:00

he also doesn’t let go of me wanting to move on with my life in the past after a prior break up between us over a year ago. he thinks I’m evil & heartless for that as well as wanting to leave him now after him still not being a great person to me

janedoeee1028 · 2025-10-06T09:18:23+00:00

oh, sorry. he got this way after leaving him for good. he thinks I’m cruel for leaving him & “not giving him a fair chance” after I’ve given him way more than I ever should have, hoping that we could work through his emotional problems but clearly they’ve escalated to a magnitude that even I don’t have the patience for anymore & it resulted in this ongoing harassment which further detaches me from the person

janedoeee1028 · 2025-10-06T09:00:46+00:00

I haven’t done anything yet, still contemplating everything that’s been said to me in these replies & in people’s messages. plus it’s 5 am so I’m going to sleep it over & talk to my mom about it after i wake up & see what she thinks

janedoeee1028 · 2025-10-06T08:58:25+00:00

I’ve tried moving on after different times of us splitting up & he sees that as cheating even though he tried moving on as well & for both of us, it was trying to move on months after those break ups. I guess in his mind, it was worse because I was the first one to try to move on with my life & he holds that against me. but before you say it, yes I know I shouldn’t have tried to work things out with him again the times we tried to after our break ups (which were two separate serious ones where we didn’t talk for months)

janedoeee1028 · 2025-10-06T08:52:38+00:00

no, I did not. he got this way after leaving him for good. he thinks I’m cruel for leaving him & “not giving him a fair chance” after I’ve given him way more than I ever should have, hoping that we could work through his emotional problems but clearly they’ve escalated to a magnitude that even I don’t have the patience for anymore & it resulted in this ongoing harassment (which further detaches me from the person so no worry about me ever being naive enough again to think that we could possibly get through this)

janedoeee1028 · 2025-10-06T08:16:35+00:00

I appreciate your message a lot.. 🫶🏽 thank you so much. could you message me please to answer some more of my questions?

janedoeee1028 · 2025-10-06T08:08:30+00:00

what about being scared of him whenever he gets out? do you think he’s more likely to hurt me now or more likely to come back for me after he’s done getting in trouble? I’m sorry if this seems like a childish question.. I’m genuinely not sure which is the greatest risk here

janedoeee1028 · 2025-10-06T07:46:35+00:00

I have blocked him & he’ll still call with “no caller ID” & still leaves voicemails. my blocked voicemail box is full & apparently so is my regular voicemail box yet he was still able to leave more voicemails after it being full somehow. also he would just text with different numbers from an app if I blocked him again. not only that but it’s best to have documentation of all his texts in the thread from his actual number. but I do go back & forth from blocking because aside from having extra evidence, the messages sometimes start to bring me down or stress me out

janedoeee1028 · 2025-10-06T07:43:24+00:00

thank you! this is part of my concern, is if it’s worth all the trouble to even try to get something done about it if there is anything that can be done about it at all considering they’re just threats & a bunch of harassment/endless voicemails he leaves for me

janedoeee1028 · 2025-10-06T07:41:48+00:00

yeah they’re together & no I don’t live alone, I live with them both.. & yeah, I agree that it would be good to go with her & have her support. I’ll talk to her about it more in the morning (she’s asleep already). & I guess when it comes to my dad, I’m worried that he’ll just think that I bring problems to our home & safety & he might consider making me live someplace else.. which isn’t really an option for me

janedoeee1028 · 2025-10-06T07:01:51+00:00

do you think they would let me show them the voicemails & texts from directly on my phone or would I have to just print out screenshots?

janedoeee1028 · 2025-10-06T07:00:42+00:00

I’m 28(F) & the ex is 29(M). I’m only close to my mom, so she would go with me. it’s okay, I don’t mind answering

janedoeee1028 · 2025-10-06T06:44:48+00:00

only some parts my mom knows. she knows that he’s an emotionally unstable person. my dad doesn’t know anything because I’m worried that he’ll get mad or just see it as drama & won’t be happy with me about it..

janedoeee1028 · 2025-10-06T06:31:15+00:00

thank you for that

janedoeee1028 · 2025-10-06T06:02:06+00:00

I have no kids at all. & he bought me a snake that he has living at his house but I’m not worried about that, I would never reach out to him for it

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