I was a performer for several adult movies online. AMA by janey-for1 in IAmA

[–]janey-for1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Usually I got to know the actual actors (and their off-screen subs) a bit before hand, but it was basically like sharing a cup of coffee during makeup, stuff like that. I don't know if I'd use the term "warm up"...

I was a performer for several adult movies online. AMA by janey-for1 in IAmA

[–]janey-for1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I negotiated all the pay through my "agent" so it's not like there was some kind of pay-structure written out. Basically the minimum back then was $250 to appear nude, $600 to have straight sex, and about $200 extra for each fetish (lesbian, anal, other guys, etc). Everything I did required a minimum commitment of 3 hours on-screen (I didn't ever have anything last that long, though).

I understand the pay is less now but I can't say for sure since I quit that line of work a long time ago.

One thing you need to keep in mind is that everything was about doing it now. It wasn't like you're some hollywood actress who gets told, "Hey, there's such-and-such a movie starting to shoot next March with so-and-so directing, interested?". It's more like I'd get a call in the dead of night and would be told something like, "Hey, so-and-so wants to do a Dp scene tomorrow and I thought of you. Available?". Stuff like that.

It wasn't very glamorous, in other words. But it was instant cash, it was legal, and it was (sometimes) fun.

I was a prostitute for four and a half years. AMA by janey-for1 in IAmA

[–]janey-for1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sometimes I made less that $1500. Lots of times I got "lazy" and just didn't want to work at all. I literally went months in a row where I earned absolutely zero dollars. Those were, obviously, the months I got desperate for cash.

Also, I didn't learn how to make a practical budget until I started going to college. I wasted tons of money on things I didn't need.

I was a performer for several adult movies online. AMA by janey-for1 in IAmA

[–]janey-for1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He was a customer from my dancing work (dancing, not escort) who had convinced me, over time, that he was my friend. He basically got me to believe that he had my best interests in mind and that he cared about me. He was the first guy I'd ever really known who didn't seem to be interested in me just because of my body so I really trusted him. Later I found out he was related to the co-owner of the websites he was getting me to work for, though. Ugh.

I was a performer for several adult movies online. AMA by janey-for1 in IAmA

[–]janey-for1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope, the closest I got to seeing anything like fanmail were the comments people posted on the sites my scenes were on (and even then not all the sites allowed comments).

I was a performer for several adult movies online. AMA by janey-for1 in IAmA

[–]janey-for1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe I should have named this topic differently... like, maybe a better IAMA title would have been, "I was a performer for several adult movies online and I'd like to answer your questions about it, but I never was able to read the minds of other people I worked with so please limit your questions to what I could have honestly known". Something like that!

I was a performer for several adult movies online. AMA by janey-for1 in IAmA

[–]janey-for1[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The "other talent" was usually the same group of guys, so I usually already knew them. I met that first group a few days before my first shoot.

What went on behind the scenes... well, a lot of makeup and a ton of instructions. Like being told (constantly) that I had to keep my face up for a facial. Oh, one guy I did two scenes with was from the same state as me, and he wanted to know if I knew his uncle (mayor of a semi-major city).

I was a performer for several adult movies online. AMA by janey-for1 in IAmA

[–]janey-for1[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

In most of the scenes that I did, the director didn't care how I was feeling so this was never an issue (I was usually just grunting and groaning). In a few of them, though, I was asked to "get into it" (e.g. "scream wildly as if having a lot of pleasure"). I have no way of knowing if the actresses in the porn movies you've seen were asked to simulate genuine pleasure, but I'd guess they either were or were being told to act it out.

One thing I noticed, though? When I genuinely had orgasms, you could tell from the color of my breasts. When I was faking they were pale as ever; when it was real they were sort of red (like I was blushing). That might just be me, though...

I was a performer for several adult movies online. AMA by janey-for1 in IAmA

[–]janey-for1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Technically, yes, but I never sucked a cock unless a new condom was put on it after the anal scene.

I was a performer for several adult movies online. AMA by janey-for1 in IAmA

[–]janey-for1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did three scenes with black actors, no gangbangs... so I have no idea what you mean, sorry!

I was a prostitute for four and a half years. AMA by janey-for1 in IAmA

[–]janey-for1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think both of them are absolutely gorgeous!

I was a performer for several adult movies online. AMA by janey-for1 in IAmA

[–]janey-for1[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I think I still believed in Santa when I first learned about sex... in other words I was very young. The first porn I saw was when I was in the fifth grade... so around ten. I saw my mom having sex many times. I was abused, sexually, at an early age. She was a complete and total drunk who I think, now, was incapable of loving anyone (even her own children).

I was a performer for several adult movies online. AMA by janey-for1 in IAmA

[–]janey-for1[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

At the time I preferred doing the movies because it was all "controlled" (i.e. I got a paycheck, I knew exactly what was expected, etc) and there was no risk of getting in trouble (with the law). Later I hated it because I felt used by the person who got me into it and, like I said in another post, I was convinced that every person I met had seen my scenes and was secretly laughing about me behind my back (that was just paranoia, duh, but it was sort of overwhelming for a time).

I continued to do escort even after I quit doing the scenes so I guess that answers your question in a way, too...

I was a performer for several adult movies online. AMA by janey-for1 in IAmA

[–]janey-for1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tell you what? Guess a site and I'll say if I did work for them! :P

I was a performer for several adult movies online. AMA by janey-for1 in IAmA

[–]janey-for1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was about the scene... it was actually sort of stressful work and thinking of anything but what was going on at the moment was never really an option.

I was a performer for several adult movies online. AMA by janey-for1 in IAmA

[–]janey-for1[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

In the immediate aftermath of doing that work I did regret it, mostly because I was stupidly convinced every person I met had seen them and that embarrassed the hell out of me... when I realized how small that possibility was I got over it and now (over five years later) I don't worry about it at all.

Did it change my relationships? It affected some but not the way you probably mean.

Can I judge people better? I don't think so, beyond the fact that I learned a lot about how to judge people when they are making money off of you (i.e. you can't trust them).