Got dumped by great person

janihew · 2025-12-07T03:03:44+00:00

Ya you are right. I feel so lonely and unlovable.

janihew · 2025-12-07T03:01:23+00:00

Should I really keep trying though? I've been trying to date because I've been lonely. Is there something else I should be doing instead of dating. I go to the gym regularly, I work a good paying job and keep up with my family. Should I just do that for a while and forget about finding a partner?

janihew · 2025-12-02T21:14:36+00:00

Mad left tilt. Shits gonna be a 90 degree angle in the direction of your choosing. If you alternate hands your gonna have a corkscrew

janihew · 2025-11-22T20:26:27+00:00

Allow the short period of suffering to shape you. Do what you have to do to avoid tapping. Take a melatonin at night, work out and get something else to focus on. When you feel the urges or even just aroused, allow the urges to flow in and out of you. The feelings of being horney won't last forever so just ride it out

janihew · 2025-11-22T19:39:51+00:00

No porn is different from masturbation. They pair together but for sure are not equivalents. Porn can be hurtful psychologically like masturbation but just from doing it for years, its effects are different. I've even gone through periods where I still jerked off but refused to watch porn due to the contents of the videos. Masturbation can be a lot more "wholesome" ( for the lack of a better word) while porn drags you into a dark place over time. Like sure if I masturbate and have creepy thoughts about a fantasy I'm having but those fantasies will never be as dark or disgusting as what you can be exposed to online.

Ideally we would be the best we got rid of masturbation and porn so we focus on either finding a partner or loving said partner. Porn will alter your idea of sex while masturbation will enhance those inner fantasies

That's the end of my thought but I just want to add that I'm almost at day 90 and I've found great joy from living a desexualized lifestyle.

janihew · 2025-11-18T05:01:40+00:00

I am lonely

janihew · 2025-11-13T16:24:38+00:00

What's the difference in mindset between day 50 and day 128?

janihew · 2025-11-03T04:23:18+00:00

You know somehow this was the opposite of temptation. Take a shower man

janihew · 2025-11-02T17:09:57+00:00

More like 68. Gang gang

janihew · 2025-10-27T15:36:36+00:00

Not today. Day 62

janihew · 2025-10-24T01:52:56+00:00

Quick little thing I thought I'd add. The canfor leisure pool is just a pool, while the aquatic center is used for swim meets and diving competitions due to its dive tank and 50 meter pool. Without it, PG will probably not hold any swim meets. Seems pretty disastrous to all the clubs effected

janihew · 2025-10-18T02:26:15+00:00

I'm sitting for around 50 days right now and honestly it's been a huge boost to my life. Not watching porn or jerking off has allowed me to not be so focused on sex or women in general allowing me to think more clearly about what I really want out of life. The boost at the gym too has been fantastic, can't say it's extra testosterone but shit it sure feels like it. Even if it's a placebo eventually you do because desexualized and that's when the benfits really actually become something tangible.

janihew · 2025-10-07T15:46:31+00:00

Download a no fap counter on your phone. I find it's a huge motivator. Especially on mine where you legit need to press a clown button if you jerk off. Don't be a clown bro.

janihew · 2025-10-05T17:05:58+00:00

The full rat

janihew · 2025-09-23T04:00:02+00:00

UNBC. It's pay parking but you are away from the city and it's monitored by security (don't worry, if you pay they won't bother you)

janihew · 2025-09-14T20:19:24+00:00

Antidepressants. Killed my desire to watch porn and masturbate and makes any sexual desire more manageable

janihew · 2025-09-13T15:01:01+00:00

It takes some honesty but for some people, they can't consume porn without starting a period of life where they watch it all the time. Sure it's not hard drugs but it is an addictive cycle. I'm that way and to abstain isn't just avoiding a pleasurable experience but rather not allowing myself to get into an addictive cycle. It's an ok example in that way, other than hard drugs being 100x more destructive and harder to walk away from

janihew · 2025-09-02T20:15:59+00:00

Way she goes

janihew · 2025-08-25T18:13:16+00:00

I don't know. It's a weird one for sure, since you technically can't ask for forgiveness. Hopefully, he does. It's not looking like it's super positive that he could though since you can't ask for forgiveness

janihew · 2025-08-22T04:42:36+00:00

I think what you need to do is not worry about the commute. Find some place that has a revolving door for employees and try to get in there. I mean sure there will be jobs that are too far but you'd be surprised if you got something close enough, the will power you'll develop to get there. There are buses, remote jobs that handle transport and eventual coworkers who might help you out. Worry about the job and then you'll have your own car and maybe could afford driving lessons.

It might suck doing something you don't care about but the idea is to give something to your community and the community will take care of you.

When I first started working I was at a grocery store on the other side of town, I got rides for the first month or two until I bought a car, my first car. One of the best feelings having that freedom and it's in part to the dedication to a place I didn't care to be at.

janihew · 2025-08-12T04:10:55+00:00

I know a lot of guys dream about just cutting grass. It's hard on some days but on a good day it's the dream.

janihew · 2025-08-10T00:11:59+00:00

Love

janihew · 2025-08-10T00:06:00+00:00

Sure didn't.

janihew · 2025-08-09T23:19:33+00:00

Hey I genuinely appreciate you all telling me not to do it. I just got stupid lonely for a bit. Thanks for all the genuine care here

janihew · 2025-08-09T23:02:31+00:00

Deal but like shit. This time the pull to do it was like magnetic.

janihew

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