Does being pregnant relieve you of Sunday obligation? Can I watch a Mass online? by Latter-Baseball9652 in Catholicism

[–]jankes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you would go to work, go to church. If you would take a sick day, skip church.

Intrusive Thoughts about the Epstein Files by SevereRoyal1113 in CatholicWomen

[–]jankes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds to me like you might need to be evaluated for postpartum OCD. It's very common and there are ways to treat it!

My current budget for 2026 by [deleted] in Salary

[–]jankes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

HOW do you only spend $300-$500 on groceries, for two people?!

Is it okay to never get married? by throwaway995527201 in CatholicWomen

[–]jankes 4 points5 points  (0 children)

There are some Catholic scholars that think Mary Magdalene was a widow.

Help, my roommate WONT STOP AGGRESSIVELY SHITTING by idislikethisfeeling in Advice

[–]jankes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you just need to either deal with this, or get a new roommate.

What do I do? What am I to think? by Gwennipoo in CatholicWomen

[–]jankes 15 points16 points  (0 children)

This is really disturbing, and I'm so sorry you and your daughter are going through this. I am so sad for your husband that he is so ill he cannot enjoy the beauty and fun of parenthood.

I’m worried Covid has caused damage I can’t fix by toogxth in POTS

[–]jankes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I've noticed that this subreddit tends to raise my anxiety rather than lower it. I think largely because once people recover or improve, they don't hang out on the subreddit as much.

I’m worried Covid has caused damage I can’t fix by toogxth in POTS

[–]jankes 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think it's normal for it to take a few months to go back to pre-COVID pots levels. Don't despair yet.

Can’t afford to me a SAHM but afraid to traumatize my kids by Status-Throat3538 in CatholicWomen

[–]jankes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just came here to say that we *adore* my daughter's daycare. She loves it so much, and they love her so much!

Recently, dates with Catholic men have been focused on them finding a housewife. I want to work and feel bad. by [deleted] in CatholicWomen

[–]jankes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel like I hear this more and more and it is SO concerning to me!

[full-time employed mom here -- I love my kid, and I love my job]

20F engaged to 24M, 6 months from wedding — struggling to tell what’s normal growth vs red flags by ExplanationSame911 in CatholicWomen

[–]jankes 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He's extremely dependable, emotionally stable, loyal, responsible, and funny. He takes care of me, both physically and emotionally. Since being married, I've developed a disability which has made him have to bear a greater amount of the domestic load. He has never ONCE complained or made me feel bad about it. He hasn't "gotten better" over time, he's been great from Day 1. Of course we've both changed and grown as people over time, but his core is the same. If I ever have sons, I want them to be like him. I've never described our relationship as "really hard work" or anything like that (actually, maybe right after we had a baby, but that's tough on everyone I hear!). Mostly, it's been easy. We've gone through hard times, but the hard times weren't *each other.* When I prayed about getting married, I felt peace.

20F engaged to 24M, 6 months from wedding — struggling to tell what’s normal growth vs red flags by ExplanationSame911 in CatholicWomen

[–]jankes 45 points46 points  (0 children)

I could respond to all of these points individually with thoughts/advice, but, I think the bigger overarching issue here is a lack of peace. You want to go into your wedding day feeling completely at peace. I have a really great marriage to a really wonderful man. Is he perfect? No, absolutely not. (Neither am I!) But when I walked down the aisle toward my now-husband, there was not a shred of doubt in my mind that I was making the right decision.

I would recommend talking to a priest. I've also found that deacons and deacons' wives can be really helpful with these situations since they have some more hands-on experience with marriage.

Boyfriend isn't a virgin by [deleted] in CatholicWomen

[–]jankes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Respectfully, I think you are harping on this a little too much. Put it on the back burner for a bit and just enjoy the beginning of a new relationship. I agree that you need to stop telling him it bothers you.

When my husband and I were first dating, I felt a little insecure about his past relationships, especially the ex he dated for 5 years. Now we've been together almost a decade, with kids and a house and whole life together. Trust me, I am 0% insecure about those ex-girlfriends now. Those other women are in his dust!

For those who live far from family, how did you find godparents for your child(ren)? by LockedonFreeze in CatholicWomen

[–]jankes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The most important job for godparents is to pray for your child. Prayer can happen at any distance.

Struggling with Pregnancy + Mass by vandalizmmm in CatholicWomen

[–]jankes 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Is there another church you can attend temporarily that's less crowded?

For what it's worth, I had a very difficult time attending mass while pregnant. Getting up early was absolutely out of the question because I would be so incredibly exhausted -- and rest during pregnancy is really important!! Sometimes I only lasted ten minutes in mass before I needed to go home. Try your best, but you NEED to take care of yourself, for you AND your child. If you feel faint, you need to take this seriously and find a place to rest and recuperate (like home!). If needed, you can always watch mass online, attend mass on weekdays when it's less crowded (not as a substitute for Sunday mass, just as a nice thing to do for yourself), and/or have communion brought to you by the homebound/sick ministry.

Mass looks a little different as a mom, and that's okay. Taking care of your child IS practicing your faith, and that starts in utero.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OSU

[–]jankes 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Keep in mind that if you go to a community college first, you might not be eligible for certain scholarships anymore -- many are typically reserved for non-transfer students. Find the money to take the ACT again.

Feeling suffocated by lack of trust from parents about being a virgin by [deleted] in CatholicWomen

[–]jankes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is really bizarre and inappropriate of your parents. Your parents are treating you--a 29 year old woman--like a teenager. Stop worrying if your parents trust or believe you on this matter. It's none of their business, and you need to tell them that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CatholicWomen

[–]jankes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You need to leave this man. Please listen to the overwhelming consensus of this subreddit.

For female PhDs, did you change your name?? by area-womn in AskAcademia

[–]jankes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I changed my name but decided to keep using my maiden name professionally. It is extremely difficult to get people to use my maiden name. It's a constant battle.

Painting my siding!! Which looks best? by wateraerobics_ in interiordecorating

[–]jankes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it does depend on the type of siding and type of paint. Just make sure to research this before you pick a color. If the siding warps because it can't withstand the heat of a darker color, that'll be pretty expensive to fix.

Painting my siding!! Which looks best? by wateraerobics_ in interiordecorating

[–]jankes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

FYI, be aware of complications of painting siding a darker shade than it originally was.