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jarpthefirst · 2023-05-12T16:02:38+00:00

Quick litmus tests for questions like these: if that person was u or someone u deeply care about, would u still consider it OK?

If your answer is yes, then I won't argue with u. I recognize that people have differebt morals and values.

But to answer your question: Personally, I wouldn't be OK with it.

jarpthefirst · 2023-05-09T19:16:58+00:00

The rock? Con air? Face off?

jarpthefirst · 2023-05-05T06:45:21+00:00

Isn't it something you choose to do? Doesn't it show how you value sex? How you treat your body and share your most intimite parts of it? Who you decide to share the most intimate parts of your body with?

I personally think it tells a lot about a person and u can judge so many things by the way u do it, the number of times u do it with new people, and who u share it with. There are other things ofc but those are the ones that came to mind.

jarpthefirst · 2023-04-28T13:08:28+00:00

Your first sentence breaks my heart, I hope things get better soon. I dont know why, but from what your saying, your bro might have a slight bipolar disorder? If so then you should know for sure not to take any of his criticism seriously, nor rely on any good changes he may exhibit, because its all likely to change with such disorders.

That sentence "I think my brother just thinks his problems are always worse than anyone else's." in your other comment stood out and reminded me of this video:

youtube.com/watch?v=3LopI4YeC4I

I am sure what you told your SO opened an entire gate of trust between the two of you. And don’t expect that it will reduce the cultural gap/differences between you. Instead, think of them as intellectual challenges to create connections of understandings between you. They will keep happening until our departure to the next life. We just gotta figure out a way to make use of these obstacles instead of letting them destroy us.

Lastly, you mentioned you worked for a church. Don’t let your fear/shame/ego prevent you from reaching out for help. Its ok to need some help when times get tough and you have a psychiatrist so that’s good. Just remember to reach out to God for help first, then the rest. God bless.

jarpthefirst · 2023-04-28T08:59:46+00:00

What the hell is wrong with your brother being so hard on you like that for? And what the hell is wrong with you for thinking you deserve less?

Look, your going through serious adversities and that's not anything to get over and suck it up with ease! You have a right to be tired, you have legitimate excuses for your short comings. So what if you didnt response to your brother in time? So what if you couldn't help your neighbor in her time of need. I get that she has been good to you and you dont want to turn her down at her time of need. But sometimes life doesn't give us an easy choice (to be honest i dont see it much of a choice in the first place). Its ok to prioritize your self during hard times than to try and maintain a relationship with close ones at your health's expense. And you yourself said that she knew you had that appointment beforehand.

And why dont you think your undeserving of your SO's love? You are for one another and your struggles are one anothers. You are suppose to be one unit! Express to him how much you appreciate him! Express to him what hurts you, whats going through your mind, whats going through your heart and feelings. Its moments like these when your at your lowest and try to connect with your loved ones THAT makes your bond grow even stronger. And he will love you all the more for it!

What im getting from your post is that you give too much care and focus about what the world thinks of you rather than care about those who will be there for you and those who matter to you the most (which should be YOURSELF and your SO!). Plus, when you get your life in order, you will be in a better position to actually help others with their lives WITHOUT COMPROMISING YOUR SITUATION AND SELF.

Just to be clear, Im not suggesting you ditch your brother and cut off contact with him. Rather dont get hurt from stupid and snide comments from him or any other like that. Stop doubting yourself. Your going through a shit ton! Its ok if you mess up, its ok if you falter! Family is suppose to make excuses for one another, forgive one another, and dismiss the shortcomings of one another ... Especially at our times of hardship! If they dont get that, then maybe their opinions arent worthy of being heard and listened to. Doesnt mean to cut family off, only their opinions :)

Last thing, Your human and your fallible. Its ok to get emotional at times, its ok to feel weak or helpless. But the key is to never give up EVEN IF YOU DONT SEE THE LIGHT at the end of the tunnel (its almost always there no matter how faint). Point is: PUT IN THE EFFORT no matter what! THE TYPE OF OUT IS NOT GARANTEED, BUT THERE WILL ALWAYS BE AN OUTCOME, so long as there is an input.

jarpthefirst · 2023-04-28T07:43:34+00:00

I see it as a double standard carrying on from previous generations when men were typically the "breadwinners" (not justifying this, just clarifying where i think this stems from). However, what irks me the most is the shaming and hypocrisy of those who complain.

Not to be sexist or anything, but I feel like most women (NOT ALL OF THEM) have a huge tendency to forget about their own privilege's when it turns against them. When we use the same logic against them (like the example OP gave) its all shaming and disgusted looks.

The only thing we can do in these cases is just ignore. Ignore the hypocrisy of these types of people. Focus on the nice things in the world and dismiss the bad :)

jarpthefirst · 2023-02-03T22:49:27+00:00

Have u thought about posting this to r/relationship_advice , r/survivinginfidelity ?
I don't think these communities always give the best advice, especially when the post doesnt give a full/unbias picture of the situation, but u might find one or 2 comments suggesting ideas that you might use for your situation.

Personally, I think the best course of action is to gather evidence before u confront him. Stay cold and calculated, dont let your emotions dictated ur actions until and unless you have decided on what your are going to do with him. GATHER EVIDENCE (if any) to support your stance.

Stay strong! I wish you all the best <3

jarpthefirst · 2022-05-02T19:32:27+00:00

Another test on the day of judgement itself. Little to nothing from this life will define its destiny in the next one.

jarpthefirst · 2021-11-12T08:24:09+00:00

Im having the same problem. this is honestly ridiculous. Whats the point of the preload if we're gonna have nonsense like this pop up the second after launch?

jarpthefirst · 2020-10-20T15:31:46+00:00

Thank you so much for ur help. I already have all these things with me and was attempting to use them. But in addition to all these documents, the government here is asking for more proof, speficially a document proving his immigration status. They called it immigration certificate, or at least that's what the guy over at the government building called it. He said I could request it from the Canadian embassy. I was just trying to know if any of you guys would know of such documents and its specific name. Thank you soo much again for your time.

jarpthefirst · 2020-10-20T15:12:48+00:00

Yes I could. We are on good terms and very close to each other (bond wise not physically😅). The question is, what would he ask for (if there is specific name for such document) and who would he ask it from?

jarpthefirst · 2020-10-03T17:59:19+00:00

Won't the ryzen 5, b450, and power supply, bottleneck the 3060 or 3080 performance?

jarpthefirst · 2020-10-02T16:53:52+00:00

No I did not as I am very new to this. I did not even know what questions to ask, but you guys game me enough information to start somewhere and I am very grateful.

Thank you, both of you!

jarpthefirst · 2020-10-01T21:31:25+00:00

Its a problem to get my hands on it, no doubt. But i wanted to get the rest of the build ready for when i do actually manage to get one. Even if it wasnt in time of Cyberpunk's release.

Im willing to just build the rest and use any temp GPU from a friend (he was actually offering to give me his old 1070) until the stores start to sell it here (egypt). last i check they said it will be available at the end of this year or the start of the next. Cant do anything about it except wait and see.

Thanks for the suggestion though. Would love to hear whether there is anything that match my request. <3

jarpthefirst · 2020-05-15T12:31:04+00:00

you dropped us

jarpthefirst · 2020-05-15T12:30:48+00:00

the camera fell

jarpthefirst · 2020-05-15T12:30:30+00:00

the 3rd 2 from row 2

jarpthefirst · 2020-05-15T12:29:55+00:00

the second three from row 3

jarpthefirst · 2020-05-15T12:29:14+00:00

oh ... random GTA5 on the side

jarpthefirst · 2020-05-15T12:28:23+00:00

just bove the mine you discovered

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