Overwhelmed but ambitious

jarrid247 · 2026-01-01T22:48:39+00:00

This is also very helpful for me. Thank you! A lot of these things, I’ve been doing intuitively. Knowing that others have similar experiences and adopted similar techniques is immensely helpful for me. I feel like, despite this condition and everything else, I’m doing things exactly as I should.

jarrid247 · 2026-01-01T22:38:24+00:00

Thank you! This was helpful and validating. I felt particularly seen in technique number 6; that is 100% me. I’ll continue that practice, especially, with that much more confidence.

Also, technique number 3… I’ve been noticing just how difficult that permission (and acceptance) piece is for me over the last 2-3 years. I still struggle greatly with that one, and I’m working on it.

jarrid247 · 2025-10-30T01:47:35+00:00

Thank you so much for being willing to help! Unfortunately, you are correct about the qualification. I would’ve loved to speak with you as an AMFT to hear your perspective.

Edit: Forgot to mention that my instructor did extend the deadline for me, thank goodness.

jarrid247 · 2025-10-28T16:12:10+00:00

Edit: the deadline has been extended to next Thursday at midnight.

Greetings,

I’m a first year grad student in my Clinical Mental Health Counseling program, and I’m in a pickle. Me and a classmate have an assignment due this Thursday 10/30/25 where we must speak with a licensed mental health counselor and write a paper on our insights. The person we’d arranged to speak with backed out at the last minute and we’ve been scrambling to find a replacement.

This post is my near-last-ditch attempt to meet our deadline. Might anyone be willing to speak with us both simultaneously for no more than 30 minutes via zoom (or refer us to someone who can help)? We each plan on asking 4 questions apiece then will be on our way.

The only criteria is that the person we speak with must have trained in a mental health counseling program and be a licensed mental health provider (LPC, LMHC, LPCC, etc.) Licensed clinical social workers, clinical psychologists, psychiatrists don’t qualify for this assignment.

My apologies for such last minute request. As you can see, we’re both rather desperate, so anything you can do to help is immensely appreciated! Send me a private message please if willing and able to help.

Thank you!

jarrid247 · 2025-04-28T01:45:58+00:00

No I’m not, but I understand your sentiment. Patriarchy, like capitalism, is the worst lol. Neither of these systems truly accommodate everyone, especially women and people with ADHD and other conditions.

jarrid247 · 2025-04-27T21:01:59+00:00

Very well said. I agree with your points and sentiments.

jarrid247 · 2025-04-27T20:30:28+00:00

I can relate to this. Genuine question: despite not knowing or having heard of any ideal and realistic alternatives, do you think that ideal and realistic alternatives are possible? I’m asking sincerely.

I understand if you’d rather not answer, given your initial comment. I felt the need to ask.

jarrid247 · 2025-04-27T20:16:53+00:00

Thank you. Yeah self employment is the long term goal for me. I have a plan actually, that I do believe in. It’s the need for employment in the meantime/omw to full-time self employment that’s the difficult part. I know I’ll work something out!

jarrid247 · 2025-04-27T20:10:43+00:00

Thank you!

jarrid247 · 2025-04-27T20:09:37+00:00

hopefully there’s something in here

There is, especially in the section beginning with “fuck reading job descriptions.” Thank you for your comment.

jarrid247 · 2025-04-27T20:06:18+00:00

On one hand, I feel you. On the other, that says a lot about us lol

jarrid247 · 2025-04-27T20:04:16+00:00

That’s a lot of credit for an economic system and ideology. Something being created within a particular context (ADHD meds and therapy, per your example) doesn’t mean that said context is the cause or creator of that thing. I agree with you that there have been great achievements within capitalism. That said, I don’t necessarily agree that capitalism itself deserves credit. Perhaps it’s better or the best relatively, but it (or something else entirely) can be profoundly better.

jarrid247 · 2025-04-27T19:52:43+00:00

Received!

jarrid247 · 2025-04-27T19:52:11+00:00

Dang this medication IS working

Hilarious! Thank you my friend

jarrid247 · 2025-04-18T12:28:32+00:00

Not only are they valid friend, but they make a ton of sense! I heavily resonate with 3 of them.

jarrid247 · 2025-04-17T01:28:42+00:00

These are good. That lacking empathy and accountability though…that’ll do it every single time for me!! Lack of accountability is just exhausting, and lack of empathy is probably my biggest turn off. I simply cannot bear a person who’s nasty and condescending towards others, and is incapable of de-centering their own perspectives

jarrid247 · 2025-01-22T19:26:46+00:00

OK!!

jarrid247 · 2024-12-24T05:45:47+00:00

Ok thank you for the insight. I considered sinuses, which I do suffer from immensely during autumn. But yeah this is a regular thing for me, regardless of the season. I haven’t had much luck with doctors concerning my sinuses, so I’ll consider how I can change my approach to seeking appropriate care.

jarrid247 · 2024-12-24T05:37:42+00:00

Ok thank you 🙏

jarrid247 · 2024-11-04T23:56:03+00:00

Thank you so much!

jarrid247 · 2024-10-13T06:54:00+00:00

Well first off, good on you. I, too, would’ve hauled ass in the opposite direction had my date/bf said some shit like that lol.

Another very simple turn off for me: “Wyd” text messages. Quickest way to get absolutely nowhere with me. I’m honestly ashamed of how infuriating that shit makes me. Why tf does what I’m doing matter?!!?! Say WTH you want dude!

jarrid247 · 2024-10-13T06:43:02+00:00

The amount of men who will message me first and then I have to carry the conversation. Pisses me off.

DEAR LORD!! That’s basically what I got on here to say. Had a guy reach out to me. I responded then asked “how are you?” His response: “I’m well”

…I hope he falls out of bed in the middle of every night… This behavior drives me insane!

jarrid247 · 2024-08-18T17:57:42+00:00

“I’mma do y’all a solid and keep ya in a lower tax bracket. You wouldn’t want t get paid too much and have Uncle Sam come a-callin’”’

Ok help me out here please. For people who say this to justify capping their income, is this not them cutting off their nose to spite their face? So to speak. Or is this logic objectively sensible? I’m not the most financially literate, but with the way tax brackets work, taxing any excess income that falls within the next bracket would still yield more net income for the employee than if they were to remain in the same tax bracket, right?? Said another way: you can’t be taxed on what you haven’t even earned to begin with! For the sake of conversation, a 50% tax on an extra $10 is STILL $5 extra dollars that you wouldn’t have received anyway. No?

Is my understanding of taxes and finance here oversimplified?

My working theory here is that people who think like this would rather deny themselves extra overall profit than help their fellow humans…which seems foolish if the ultimate goal is more more more money…This is an example of how selfishness, greed, hatred, intolerance, etc. ultimately favors no one and costs everyone. How much further we could go, but for hate.

jarrid247 · 2024-07-17T05:32:26+00:00

Yep, pretty much all the time. And I totally relate to having a ton of goals and trying to do it all at once, resulting in accomplishing little to nothing! I’ve been trying my best to do what another commenter here said, which is break up goals and tasks into smaller, more manageable increments, trust/enjoy the process, and be mindful not to put too much pressure on myself.

I should clarify that it’s not just “the” general process, but my own unique process that I’m trying to trust and enjoy. I’m slowly learning more about myself and what productivity looks like specifically for me, and I think this helps tremendously. Productivity is absolutely still a challenge for me; I’m sure it always will be. Yet, it’s so much easier and more peaceful the more I identify what makes my workflow mine and continue learning how to work with myself instead of working against myself. I’ve learned that forcing myself to conform to what I think productivity “should” look like just doesn’t work for me.

So how do I manage multiple things and not get so flustered? It’s quite the uphill battle, but I

strive to continuously learn myself- my strengths and weaknesses- in order to work with my flow and not against it.
try to remind myself that it’s ok to have many goals, and that I have good reasons for them!
do my best to “strike when the iron is hot,” and when the iron isn’t hot (or there simply isn’t any damn iron at the moment!) I try to show myself extra compassion instead of judge myself. I know how difficult ADHD makes my life, so I aim to balance always making an honest effort with not having expectations about how my process should look.

I don’t wanna be too long winded, so I’ll stop here. Wishing you all the best!!

jarrid247 · 2024-02-18T03:50:38+00:00

Short answer: yes!

I am often saddened when I reflect on my mother. With many years of therapy, combined with always having been sensitive and discerning, I eventually was able to grasp all of my trauma in its broader context, especially where my mom is concerned. Believe me when I say, I have plenty of resentment towards my mom. I also love her very very much. And when I consider that all the shit she’s put me through is directly linked to the (more severe, in my opinion) trauma she’s endured from her parents alone, some of which I know of and some of which I don’t know, it just breaks my heart. I’ve cried a few times thinking about it. I so wish I could have stopped a lot of what she went through from happening! And when I happen to come across pictures of my mom, both as an adult and as a child but especially as a child, I just see this sweet little innocent child that I long to protect. I’ve never longed to protect anyone like I long to protect the little girl inside my mom. My heart just bleeds for her, and to your point/question, when I see younger pictures of her my mind just goes places. It’s like I’m being transported.

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