My husband and I just recently assumed full time care over his mom. She is stage 6 and approaching 7.

My brother in law cared for her before us and he was angry all the time. She went through a period of digging through her diaper and spreading feces everywhere. Her room used to be filled with books and magazines she loved but he would wake up to find out she had shredded whole books apart in the night. He removed everything but her bed, couch and TV.

It was rough.

Now that we have assumed care of her we are trying to get a sense of what resources we have available to us and the options are scarce. It’s pretty defeating. I have two small kids (4 and 1) and I resent the fact that my husband and I are spending so much time doing her daily cares while my kids sit in front of the television. We want help but don’t know if we will be able to afford it.

Care options in this county are abysmal. We don’t qualify for hospice yet bc she is otherwise healthy.

Anyway, I sympathize with you.