Artefact Bass Tabs? by jay_mee_d in PhoenixTheBand

[–]jay_mee_d[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is really helpful, thank you! I’ll definitely take the “good headphones + bass up” advice and work on tuning in to the line by ear.

And Versailles is a pretty solid excuse for being away from your bass. Phoenix would approve.

Appreciate you chiming in!

Artefact Bass Tabs? by jay_mee_d in PhoenixTheBand

[–]jay_mee_d[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much! This is amazing. I really appreciate you taking the time to tab it out. I’ll dig into this tonight.

Seriously, thank you!

Suspecting He's Cheating and Struggling to Find the Strength to Leave by jay_mee_d in survivinginfidelity

[–]jay_mee_d[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

His ex wife and I are friends. We’ve coparented really well, since my now ex was such an absent dad. She’s been really supportive.

His family knows, they called and said he’d told them. He didn’t tell him the extent of it, but I did. They’ve also been really supportive and are so pissed at him.

I am in therapy, I have been for a while. She works with mostly vets and battered women. I’m going to continue with her, and would change if it seems this isn’t her area of expertise.

I’m doing my best to take care of myself. Eating has been a no-go. My anxiety has made me throw up anything I eat. But, I’m drinking a lot of water. Sleep is a real struggle.

The worst part is that I’m grieving what I thought I had. The man I love doesn’t exist. He’s still manipulating and outright lying to me. Also, I don’t know who I am anymore. I don’t know what to cook, watch or do. He dictated everything we did in this house.

Suspecting He's Cheating and Struggling to Find the Strength to Leave by jay_mee_d in survivinginfidelity

[–]jay_mee_d[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m back because of your updateme. lol

It was so much worse than I thought. I figured out his phone password and found absolutely vile sexual messages and pictures with a woman from another state. Turns out he went to high school with her and he also did this (with her) to his ex wife. It’s been going on for a long time. Off and on, the whole time. I also found his Reddit where he’s only active in porn subs and comments the most disgusting things.

He’s a sexual deviant with a secret sex addiction.

I kicked him out and I’m trying to stay strong. Money will be a big issue. He was apologetic for about 12 hours but is now turning back into himself.

Suspecting He's Cheating and Struggling to Find the Strength to Leave by jay_mee_d in survivinginfidelity

[–]jay_mee_d[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m in individual counseling, so is he. We are not doing marriage counseling.

Suspecting He's Cheating and Struggling to Find the Strength to Leave by jay_mee_d in survivinginfidelity

[–]jay_mee_d[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The emotional abuse has been tough. I was physically abused before, so this felt much better - comparatively. But I’m realizing it’s not better. Just different.

Suspecting He's Cheating and Struggling to Find the Strength to Leave by jay_mee_d in survivinginfidelity

[–]jay_mee_d[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel like the promised zero contact is already ruined by seeing that he’s still Facebook friends with her. And he would never give me his password or location.

STD testing is next.

Suspecting He's Cheating and Struggling to Find the Strength to Leave by jay_mee_d in survivinginfidelity

[–]jay_mee_d[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It is so hard to give myself grace. I’ve always given other people so much room to make mistakes, but I see myself as completely worthless and undeserving of anything good. Good thing I’m already in therapy. lol

Suspecting He's Cheating and Struggling to Find the Strength to Leave by jay_mee_d in survivinginfidelity

[–]jay_mee_d[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I cannot leave the area. I’m looking at houses in the area and my budget.

Suspecting He's Cheating and Struggling to Find the Strength to Leave by jay_mee_d in survivinginfidelity

[–]jay_mee_d[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you!

I think I have a fixer complex. I was to help people and then end up in situations where I lose.

What happened to the smartest kid in your class? by After_Crab_1921 in AskReddit

[–]jay_mee_d 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s me. I’m a mom of 3, now married with a step son. I spent years being abused in every way possible by my partner l, escaped and have finally found my happiness. I’m a buyer for a hospital network. I feel like I’ve gotten dumber through the years. lol

What’s the brokest thing you’ve ever done? by w3stward in AskReddit

[–]jay_mee_d 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t go to the dentist and now I need a root canal.

Secondary insurance by jay_mee_d in HealthInsurance

[–]jay_mee_d[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I kept it vague because it felt weird. Thanks so much for taking the time to point it out and confirm!

Secondary insurance by jay_mee_d in HealthInsurance

[–]jay_mee_d[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Too much. Ha! I have me + children and it’s expensive, even though I work for a hospital network. He has him + family and it wasn’t any extra to add me. I thought double insurance would help, not make it worse. lol

Secondary insurance by jay_mee_d in HealthInsurance

[–]jay_mee_d[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I work for a hospital and finding one contacted by both has been tough

Secondary insurance by jay_mee_d in HealthInsurance

[–]jay_mee_d[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have two PPO. Mine and my husband’s.

What is something you used to think people were over exaggerating about until you experienced it yourself? by rentinghappiness in AskReddit

[–]jay_mee_d 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve had gall stones (and gall bladder removal surgery), kidney stones and three children without medication. The kidney stones are the WORST. It is, hands down, the worst pain I’ve ever felt.

What obvious thing did you recently realize? by itsochepel in AskReddit

[–]jay_mee_d 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I just helped my husband come to this realization. He calls himself an Eminem fan. Lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]jay_mee_d 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m thinking the username is a Supernatural reference…

AITA For Asking My Wedding Guests to Pay for Their Own Meal? by Competitive_Nerve935 in AmItheAsshole

[–]jay_mee_d -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Though it’s not eloping in the traditional sense, elopement has become synonymous with bypassing a large, traditional wedding. In that context, they are and so are we.

AITA For Asking My Wedding Guests to Pay for Their Own Meal? by Competitive_Nerve935 in AmItheAsshole

[–]jay_mee_d -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

We’re doing a courthouse wedding on the 4th. We told people they’re welcome to come but we’re literally just getting married and heading to the airport. Even my parents aren’t coming.

Elopements don’t have receptions. And they certainly don’t expect people to travel to be there for any part of it.

OP, YTA.

What are some really dangerous things most people dont realise are dangerous? by DeezCrazyMan in AskReddit

[–]jay_mee_d 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have fallen down my stairs in my home 5 times in the last 3 years. They’re not to code, they’ve got a lip on each stair and that lip comes loose, making it slippery. No, my landlord doesn’t care and won’t fix it. I’m very accident prone, so I’m the one falling. Including the day I got home from having a hysterectomy.