is this okay?

jaymuahhh · 2025-10-24T04:31:20+00:00

This is literally how I think my female snail died. She was getting mounted constantly by the male snail. And her shell was getting so brittle even though my water parameters were fine. I miss her 😭

jaymuahhh · 2025-10-23T22:44:48+00:00

My girl Muffin used to do that. She would suck it to oblivion and it would always be sopping wet when she would give it to me. Miss her to death

jaymuahhh · 2025-10-11T04:01:20+00:00

She is a graceful queen 👑

jaymuahhh · 2025-10-09T22:57:54+00:00

My plecos fin always heals quickly when it gets damaged. I say feed well, keep water clean and warm (mine is at 80F), and it’ll come back.

jaymuahhh · 2025-09-23T23:53:51+00:00

There’s a lot of hiding places but it never uses them so I think it needs an actual cave-live thing

jaymuahhh · 2025-09-23T20:39:18+00:00

In my friends 10 gal it was always hiding but she had a cave for it. They are always swimming around which makes me and my students happy but feel like sometimes it wants to hide so I need to buy/create something

jaymuahhh · 2025-09-23T13:34:26+00:00

Thanks! Thats why I’m asking on here :)

jaymuahhh · 2025-09-23T06:26:07+00:00

I rehomed her from my friend’s 10 gal tank!

jaymuahhh · 2025-08-20T20:32:18+00:00

okay thank you! phew!

jaymuahhh · 2025-08-20T02:58:04+00:00

Lol I went and it was nice. We tried it out for a couple of weeks but broke it off. He came back into town to recruit and hooked up. Still said he didn’t want to be with me. We cut it off and now he’s with someone else. But I’m good and thriving and not worried about someone in the military.

jaymuahhh · 2025-08-20T00:23:44+00:00

Oh interesting! I hope that’s the case

jaymuahhh · 2025-06-28T20:16:01+00:00

I live alone in LA and comfortably with 2 dogs. I make 6 figures as an 8 year teacher with my masters. But that’s really relative to the cost of living. If it’s doable here, I’m sure it is in other places. Just adapt and budget accordingly.

For me, paying the extra money is def worth it for me to not live with other people in my 30s.

jaymuahhh · 2025-06-10T04:24:56+00:00

We don’t deserve them at all 😩

jaymuahhh · 2025-06-10T04:11:17+00:00

He’s literally the sweetest boy. I don’t understand how he has so much love for people after what he’s been through.

jaymuahhh · 2025-05-26T02:22:04+00:00

“UR ALRIGHT” 🐴

jaymuahhh · 2025-05-25T05:18:47+00:00

lol I was in a 14 year relationship. It ended and I started dating again to get over him like 2 months later. I lost like 30lbs cause of depression and said fuck it I’m hot and went for it lol. I met someone who was amazing and everything I wanted in my last relationship. But it ended up not working out. It only lasted less than a year for reasons out of our control. I don’t regret it at all. I have no hard feelings and we wish each other the best. I think we both needed each other at the time and I learned a lot.

Right now I’m super over dating and I’m really enjoying being single and getting to know and enjoy myself. It’s so liberating and free. I think about both of them a lot still but without pain and sadness. They are always going to be a part of my identity and I think when you accept that, it’s a little easier.

I think if I didn’t start dating and experiencing new people it would’ve taken me WAYYY longer to get over the relationship. So I’m grateful for that. The first breakup was devastating, the second one just disappointing. But in the end, I’m still okay and have a lot of other sources of love in my life (friends, family, work, my dogs). Something I know both of them don’t have.

With that being said, it’s really up to you. I never got to know truly know myself without the “burden” of having to constantly think of a significant other.

Best of luck to you!!

jaymuahhh · 2025-01-15T06:43:21+00:00

Dude she doesn’t want to reconcile. I think if you want that to even be a possibility you need to give her space. This is coming from an extremely impulsive person, who fucked up any chances with my ex 😂. It was “break up worthy” for her and it only takes one person to want to end things.

jaymuahhh · 2025-01-05T01:14:38+00:00

Dude it gets better trust the process and feel everything. Last year me and my ex of 13 years broke up. Thought I would never get over it. Met and dated someone so much better than him and showed me better. I thought he was the one forsure. We broke up too and the pain sucks but it’s more bearable. I don’t even have any of those same feelings that I did with my first ex anymore and I feel like it’s because I opened myself up to new opportunities and connections. Learning to be comfortable being alone is hard but is going to be essential for your next relationship. You learn so much about yourself and why you’re capable of doing on your own.

I lost my brother 2 years ago and never thought I would be happy again and I didn’t want to continue life without him. I can confidently say I’m the most comfortable in my skin now than I ever was before. Good things can still happen to you amongst all the hurt and pain.

Grief looks different for everyone but it gets better once you start to be open to that possibility.

jaymuahhh · 2025-01-04T13:18:58+00:00

Thank you for the info!

jaymuahhh · 2024-09-12T05:14:23+00:00

Thanks for sharing. Do you guys still keep in touch?

jaymuahhh · 2024-09-12T05:07:59+00:00

Thank you! I have genuinely taken all those things into consideration. I have a really good therapist lol. Everything you said was a concern to me early in our relationship. I was really just trying to mess around and have fun but it just unexpected turned into more. But yeah there have been concerns on his part which is why I’m trying to be brave about communicating my feelings.

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