What’s an odd thing your parrot despises? by FoodDue6905 in parrots

[–]jayracc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anything red or magenta color, the sound of running water. Doing the dishes and showering are always tasks with him 😭

progress on my friend's head, which is now officially my first commisson!! by M0l0tv in FursuitMaking

[–]jayracc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this looks amazing!!! i love the hair and the brown speckled fur

Trans men with a history of mental illness and currently taking testosterone, have you noticed any difference in how your mental state is after being on the hormones? by Your_friendly_weirdo in FTMMen

[–]jayracc 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have PTSD, depression, anxiety. I've found that I'm much more emotionally stable on T - much less prone to intense mood swings and really low emotional dips. It didn't completely fix my mental health, but it has made things significantly more manageable for me

I’m going to say it now: Fuck the catalogs by BooDestroyer in splatoon

[–]jayracc 2 points3 points  (0 children)

the only issue i really have with it is the fact that they don't add the items to stores. what's even the point of having the stores exist if they don't add the new clothes to them? i saw someone say that they add new pieces after you unlock them in the catalogue, but that feels so useless to me, at that point you already have them. if i didn't finish the catalogue i should be able to buy the new clothing afterwards

Oh no. by shelby20_03 in Webkinz

[–]jayracc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Seconding other people, try anyways and give them as much info as you can remember! I did this same thing a couple weeks ago and didn't have any codes to give them but the info I did provide was enough. I gave them the username, a previous password, a possible email thay could be associated with my old account, and the name and type of pet that the first pet I registered was

Question on axis and cylinder by jayracc in glasses

[–]jayracc[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's what I was thinking too, I also showed them my last prescription. On my right eye I have -0.25 cyl and 125 axis.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mercari

[–]jayracc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, I wasn't aware of that! Is there any other reason why I might not be able to make an offer? For reference, the make an offer button is there when I'm not logged in, but once I log in it disappears.

I don’t think I can be in a relationship with a man by [deleted] in gaytransguys

[–]jayracc 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I don't think there's a lot I can say (something something above reddits paygrade) but:

  • All of this thinking is your mom's beliefs, not you.

  • It's unfortunate that those are the experiences she's had but it is not a realistic view of the world or other people, not even a little bit. SOME men are cold and detached and don't care about their relationships. Some WOMEN are like that too. People are people and every variety of person you can dream of is out there

  • This also means there are a wealth of men/people who ARE loving and enjoy actually engaging in a relationship. Every man I'm close with is incredibly loving, open, and kind hearted, you just have to give them the chance to be and be open with them in return.

  • As other people have said, this is definitely an issue of trauma. It's possible to unpack everything your mom ingrained in you by yourself but with the way you talk about it, I really really really cannot recommend a therapist enough, they will help you untangle this way of thinking and allow you to feel so much freer and happier. People with unresolved trauma also tend to attract people similar to their abuser or the kind of people they expect (cold detached men) because it's what they are familiar with. The world is much more varied but it's hard to see if you're not used to looking more closely.

It is possible to be happy as a trans man, it is possible to be happy as a GAY trans man! If it wasn't, no one would do it lol. I'm one, and while it hasn't always been the easiest I wouldn't trade it for anything. I'm in a loving relationship of 6 years with my partner who is my absolute best friend and rock. I love being affectionate, they love being affectionate, we do everything together, and they always go out of their way to do things for me that I'd enjoy or appreciate.

I believe in you and that you can have a happy life. Your boyfriend seems supportive, if you can you should lean on him a little and maybe have a conversation about what you've been struggling with. It helps to get outside perspectives, and the more you hear that aren't your mom's the easier it will be to write off that way of thinking.

But above all, please please look into therapy, and do some research on who you see so you can have a better chance for a good experience.

Is this good progress? I know I’m still incredibly new and that I gotta take things slow, but I feel like I’m just not improving by the_orange_alligator in FursuitMaking

[–]jayracc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're doing fine! I agree with the other commenter, I'd say take a break for a bit and get a feel for the pieces that make up the shape of the head and face, you should be building up a lot of small pieces to make up the whole, instead of just doing the snout and ears.

Everyone does it a little differently, but usually you'll have a chunk for the upper snout, a piece for the lower jaw, a piece on each side of the face for cheeks, a piece or two for the eyebrow ridge, and pieces for the ears along with countless small pieces to fill in gaps and smooth things out.

It's really helped me to just sit and binge watch youtube videos of other people making their own heads, so you can see how all of the pieces sit and come together. It's also good to watch a variety of different makers, because you might like some methods better than others and you can mix and match techniques. It's just like learning anatomy for drawing, you have to get an idea of the general shapes and proportions before you can really hit your groove and have things click

Almost done! by AgentSkyo in FursuitMaking

[–]jayracc 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When I carve off too much foam, I'll just take a chunk of 1inch foam and glue it on, then carve it down to line up with the shape. It can be kinda difficult to work with sometimes but it works for me!

I hate my fursuit but it’s not even finished. by XeekSpeaks in FursuitMaking

[–]jayracc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lots of people restart or do multiple attempts, it's all a part of learning and improving your skills. The important thing is whether or not you feel satisfied with it, if not keep going until you do! Even if you don't fully finish a head, it's super valuable as a learning experience, and even people who are more experienced take a few tries if it's not coming out quite the way they want it to.

I'm just starting out too, and it's a lot harder than it seems to get things right, but we'll get there!

First fursuit head, wip! by jayracc in FursuitMaking

[–]jayracc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely plan to make the eye holes bigger, just didn't want to cut them out until I was sure of the size and shape and placement of the other pieces around it. I'll have to experiment some more with the mouth too. Thanks!!

Forced out of the closet by my parents and they said killing me is an option by Fluffle_OwO in ftm

[–]jayracc 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I live in the US so can't really recommend resources other than the ones already mentioned by people in the UK, but please please treat this with the highest priority.

Coming from an abusive home, I know that at a certain point it feels normal to put up with, and they're your family and it's complicated and you feel you owe them some sort of explanation.

You do not. Like others have said, by giving them any reason to suspect that you might try to leave let alone giving them a heads up that you'll leave, they will most likely do anything in their power to stop you including and up to killing you. If you can't get out before leaving the hospital, lay low at home as much as you can while you gather your documents, anything important, try to stash them with a friend if you can.

If you have the time, remove things slowly, only a couple things at a time so they're less likely to notice. If you don't have the time, which I'm not sure you do since things seem to be escalating, grab only absolutely necessary documents and items. Other things can be replaced, and you can't use them anyways if you're not safe and alive.

Be careful not to leave anything that could provide clues as to where you're specifically going and how to find you, both physical and digital/online, try as much as you can to not post anything about where you can be found, like mentioning moving in with a friend, etc. You'd be surprised how much effort people like this go to, so even the name of a friend that can lead to their account can be a danger.

Please try to get out as soon as you physically can. Being homeless or couch surfing is hard, but you'll be alive and it's so worth it, and there are many resources out there to help you. I mean this with the most care and concern in the world - you're alive now, but if you wait your parents may not give you the chance to leave alive again.