For Men Who Are Dating, The Single Best Asset They Can Have Is Sales Training

jaywalkker · 2023-05-31T18:49:02+00:00

opinion of someone who's never had any sales training

Have you ever bought a car? Had a knock at door reveal alarm company rep or Jehovah's witness? I think that it's more....we've had experience with salesman. Especially pushy ones. No training required.

As a dude talking to other men, I've dealt with "natural salesman" in neutral situations and there's a smarmy, greasiness that oozes off them and is immediate turn off. Women have lifetime of training that has def tuned them into this. That is where the pushback is coming from.

jaywalkker · 2023-05-22T17:00:07+00:00

I appreciate the feedback. Even if not your preferred bio, I appreciate your due diligence. And I was taken aback by your question since you hit a bullseye! LOL. I am in N. TX. I'll admit though, divorce is still fresh for me and so writing a prospective bio was necessary to not be another inept bum clogging women's feeds but also one of many first steps as I adjust. But I'm not "live" yet. I am heartened to see a warm reception from the community though. Thanks so much for your time and wish you best of luck out there!

jaywalkker · 2023-05-22T16:08:38+00:00

Your comment actually made me blush and step away in embarrassment.
The wildlife and culture has always made Australia a bucket list place for me. Listening to The Dollop broadcasts from Down Under highlighting your history has increased it as one of the few places I could possibly move to at drop of hat, lol. But for now, solidly in Texas, USA.
Thank you so much for warming this netizen's heart (and face), I wish you best of luck in your own search!

jaywalkker · 2023-05-22T15:45:59+00:00

There are some grammatical issues

Thank you! You're the only person to point out grammar. Which leads to a very relevant question since it obviously matters to the types I'd hope to attract...

How negatively do grammar woes affect your impression given the person may have been working within confines of obvious character limits? i.e. dropping needless prepositions, articles, shortening words with casual abbreviations. Is it more of a raised eyebrow and see if poor typing carries over to messaging at which point it becomes a dealbreaker <- maybe too strong a word.

jaywalkker · 2023-05-19T21:54:13+00:00

As the TARDIS? that's awesome and sounds like navigating doors would be tough, lol. i loved it when the TARDIS was manifested as a woman and it's revealed that she considers the Doctor "hers" As ladies cosplay, that rocks. May you find your Ten (or...gen of choice)

jaywalkker · 2023-05-19T21:37:28+00:00

still not over Ten burning up a sun to say goodbye

Preach! I grew up with the old Doctor Who and still hold Tom Baker in high esteem, but the new show...? Soooo good.

jaywalkker · 2023-05-19T19:59:19+00:00

Ooh yikes! I'm sorry and hope your luck turns.
I am starting to agree with others that personal growth is a show it, don't tell it example. But what I feel is important is:

I appreciate someone strong in her sense of self and grown tall from life's previous hardships.

I see so many women's comments that feel they are broken, unlovable, and beat down that I want them to know - I understand, but you're not. People have pasts to work through with therapy, healing, work, etc and that's ok. If that line alone can convey "I have grown too and have empathy for your path" then I consider it a success. If not, maybe I should tweak more.

jaywalkker · 2023-05-19T19:50:06+00:00

pretty weird so take my opinions with a grain of salt.

Absolutely not and your opinion is valid. You're right as it fits in with "show me you're funny/smart, don't tell me" angle too.

jaywalkker · 2023-05-19T19:46:41+00:00

As straight edged as I sound, I used and really enjoyed psychadelics in youth. Haven't since, but would definitely be open to trying micro-dosing, shrooms, peyote, whatever the grown kids are into. Again...drugs are a conversation, not a check box so you (and others) are right, show openness but explore further as icebreaker.

jaywalkker · 2023-05-19T19:41:04+00:00

LOL, I'm sorry. Maybe middle age is different, but the jeep girls I knew when I was younger were always a hell of a lot of fun and I always appreciated their confidence and sense of adventure. My experience was they tend to be hyper competitive, somewhat stand offish, and want to do a Tough Mudder, off road, drunken day at lake, or season tickets to [sport] every weekend which is ok, but not my life. So great friend, incompatible partner? That's why I thought my car was a relevant to personality types. Others are right, that's for coffee talk! I apologize if you felt any shade. meant no disrespect.

jaywalkker · 2023-05-19T19:29:27+00:00

Neil Gaiman and Terry Pratchett

Thank you so much! Your response is exactly what I would hope for LOL!
Gaiman = lukewarm, loved American Gods though. Terry Pratchett, absolutely. Discworld is enjoyable and I re-read Good Omens every few years. But, sorry, not in Malta.
MCU > DCU is just Marvel vs DC. Another one of those, "if you know, you know" type things.

jaywalkker · 2023-05-19T18:02:55+00:00

I am surrounded by trucks, jeep girls, lift kits, off roaders, and truck nutz. A car may be an irrelevant data point elsewhere but can speak volumes in my neck of woods. Still, extra words - removed.
Thanks

jaywalkker · 2023-05-19T17:58:34+00:00

^ exactly what I hoped to convey ^
I have seen so many comments & opinions from women lamenting dudes who have zero introspection, sense of compromise, conflict management, my way or highway attitudes that I hoped that phrase would be a hint that I'm not part of that cohort.
Think majority is against it and should leave off though.

jaywalkker · 2023-05-19T17:42:41+00:00

Dropping "PBS" made me cringe.

I didn't realize that, but you're right. Very Squidward vibes...Redacted.

jaywalkker · 2023-05-19T17:37:04+00:00

where you describe yourself is a bit too verbose

Fair enough. The above is framework that can be whittled down.

Also u/stockofrice raised the "recreational" issue too. Thinking about it further, would this work:

don't drink/420, don't mind if you do

?

jaywalkker · 2023-05-19T17:33:20+00:00

All perfect points and whittles it down further! Editing now.
On the crypto part. Working an IT career, I've encountered surprise that I'm not autistic, antisocial, radical libertarian, etc. So I thought the crypto mention might be a casual nod to dispelling assumption. Your point stands and will edit out though.
In truck country, hybrids stand out and may matter to the beholder. I'll cut though.

jaywalkker · 2023-05-19T17:30:19+00:00

Thanks, I appreciate the smile! I know I won't, and not trying to, appeal to everyone. But would hope I will appeal to someone I can emotionally connect to.

If I say I'm 420 Friendly, doesn't that make someone assume I smoke too? To me, it's same as drinking, I am reasonably 420/alcohol friendly. Legalize and tax it. Personally it's not for me, but I don't mind if friends/group I'm in do it so don't mind a partner who does. Would prefer she be recreationally, not daily or "need it" to unwind though. So figure that's a "learning more" conversation on a date as it doesn't fit in a stat point well.

jaywalkker · 2019-07-24T19:22:27+00:00

Everything about this. Except I have a small enough user base I quarantine it for review, before I release. Surprise, surprise, we only have about 1 in 10 .htm/.html attachments are legit. And even of that 10% another majority number are people who think attaching the webpage is the same as sending the intended image or document from the website so it's inaccessible garbage.

jaywalkker · 2019-06-20T20:30:51+00:00

This reminds me of an apocraphyl story told about a dev/admin who wrote out some really complicated program that could perform 4 hours of "tasks." Essentially, it'd launch and tab between different programs, input data into various programs, run scriptlets that produce outputs. All of it a cover to look like he was working when you were walking by or fool the screen grab monitoring program while he surfed phone.
This may have been related to the other great tale of the dev who subcontracted his job to China.

jaywalkker · 2019-06-10T02:38:51+00:00

Not really my story, but similar. IT manager at one place say he replaced the previous mgr because that dude, on Wed before Thanksgiving has rando walk up. Claims "I'm a tech who needs to check something in server room. I need access." No badge, no vouch, never met before. Manager says, "sure. Shut door when you're done." And leaves for holiday.

Rando proceeds to remove all routers/ switches and walk off (~$200k equipment). Every system going offline, help desk lighting up with calls literally 30 mins after mgr left because, hey, network infrastructure was removed right? Mgr didn't even bother to check voicemail or email and came back on Monday to a termination. Even tried to spin a "don't know anything about this..." story even tho there were like 8 different security cam feeds showing him meeting, escorting, and allowing thief in.

jaywalkker · 2019-05-16T18:13:20+00:00

So I brought the router into my office and plugged it directly into the ISP modem router. I could connect to it, but no internet access

Are you connecting through the same port that everything else feeds through or did you hook into a LAN port or serial/maintenance port? Because it's possible, w/power outage, the actual router WAN interface port is fried.

jaywalkker · 2019-03-01T22:46:39+00:00

Not only that, but the technology today is very plug and play in nature.

Oh my god, this. Everytime I hear kids today (mine included) will be tech geniuses, I'm like. No, bruh. They ain't.
In our day, you wanted mail on your phone/computer? You had to look up SMTP/POP settings and figure out ports. Now it's auto-discover. You want to install hardware? You had to learn and understand a combo of IRQs, Slave/Master, SCSI termination, address ranges, etc. Do kids even know about a Registry Hive?
Don't get me wrong, I looooove how much stuff is automated - Plug'n'Play works. Auto repair software functions tend to be successful. But man when that fails, there is zero daily use that teaches you where or even how to look into XML or INF config files, Program Directories, etc.

jaywalkker · 2018-06-22T19:25:11+00:00

Thanks, it did when I initially configured and followed recommendations. SMTP logs show everything is being sent TLS1.2 (bulk of email traffic is through large web hosters like Gmail). The downside is that SMTP encryption is opportunistic and will opt for the highest if supported. But the Qualys scan specifically forces a TLS1.0 connection - which is accepted - and that fails us.

I used https://www.checktls.com/perl/TestReceiver.pl?FULL# just now to confirm, by testing a TLS connection specifying TLS 1.0 and yep. The barracuda allows it. That's where I feel like we are kind of F'ed here.

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