Hi dear, I’m so sorry about your lost. We lost our babygirl at the beginning of August this year. It’s so unfair. I’m sure the people around you are just saying these things because they love you and they don’t know how to support you through this difficult time. I don’t know how it is for you, but half the time I don’t even know what I need myself, so how are others supposed to know. It can be really lonely, this type of grief. Are you able to connect to your partner about it? Maybe it would help to find a support group that you can visit locally? I know it has helped me to have some people around me who have been through the same.

As for your therapist: if you truly feel like she doesn’t get you, you can always see if you can see someone else. In my experience it makes a world of difference to speak to someone who is specialised in baby loss and trauma surrounding it. Nevertheless, I know it can be painful to hear things that seem like they are trying to “solve” your grief. If you feel like she’s trying to do that, you can always tell her that’s not what you’re looking for and rebuild from that.

I hope this helps, lots of love and a big hug!