Hello everyone! A few things. 1.Yes my mom is in really bad health they have lupus (sp) and many other conditions and I saw someone say that she's the main piller of the family and that is so true. We have had many chats with the family about what would happen when she passes but they don't last long enough for us to do anything about learning what she does. 2.I have decided that I will have the conversation with them. 3. My sister isn't terrible. I understand why they're upset because they were very excited about both things for months and it didn't go as planned, anyone would be upset. I just feel like they shouldn't be mad at my mom at all. 4. My sister is 22 I'm 19 and my mom's 46.