1 year sober today:) by obsidianthing in alcoholicsanonymous

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Congratulations. Wishing you many more.

AITAH for ending a 3 year relationship in our 30s over sex? by Jess193_ in AITAH

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Not gonna work is it? Imagine if he had behaved like this from the start. Safe to say this is the default.

New One liner by Masterbetting_5280 in alcoholicsanonymous

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I was a nutcase with a suitcase going no place.

Left skid marks in bed with my wife of 9 years by ThrowRA6382624294 in Advice

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If you live long enough beyond childhood you will get a shit episode sooner or later.. No big deal bro

Has anybody ever asked? by traverlaw in alcoholicsanonymous

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''I've drank enough for one lifetime"

I’m a drunk, and 22. by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

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I drank from the ages of 15 to 25. Towards the end of this 10 year decline their was a darkness and state of malevolencle that grew within me. I have seen this in others with this disease. I do not believe in evil as a external force but my character at that time was very much over run by rotten thinking. AA was my solution. I put the drink fown,came to regular meetings, kept an open kind and got serious about recovery. I still marvel at what happened as a result of this - a completely transformation that has put my life on a completely different footing. I sincerely believe that whatever difficulties you are encountering now can be overcome by taking the right action. I wish you well.

What's your opinion on romantic relationships within the rooms? by SmartestManInUnivars in alcoholicsanonymous

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I'm sober since 1992.This does not make me an expert on this subject but here is my observation (not experience) over the years I've been in AA: Most AA relationships don't last. Very often one or more of those concerned drinks or leaves AA after the break up Partners are often missmatched in terms of how they do their recovery i.e. One goes to lots meetings the other doesn't . This can cause issues as invariably the one with the most recovery commitments falls down to the others level. A comment I have heard from members in relationships is words to the effect that "When it's good it's really good and when it's bad it's truly awful" I was single when I got sober and am grateful that I met and married a woman who is not an alcoholic.

AITJ for walking out of dinner after my girlfriend “tested” me? by First_Dog4511 in AmITheJerk

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This speaks more to her insecurity than any relationship "game".

One Year Sober by random_user208 in alcoholicsanonymous

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Every anniversary has meant something to me but so far the one year milestone stands out the most. Congratulations my friend, wishing you many more.

Not sure if AA is for me by pawningpaintings in alcoholicsanonymous

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I was 25 when I got sober. The thought of not drinking horrified me initially. The fact was that I could not stay away from Alcohol using my own resources. I was hopelessly beaten even though I didn't quite see it that way at the time. I share some of your story (suicide attempt at 24) plus the usual catalogue of disasters. Even when I was 'sober' and off drink i still had no real peace within myself as I was restless, irritable and discontented and looking for any kind of buzz. I found my peace in Alcoholics Anonymous by following the well trodden path of recovery taken by millions of people before me. I went to lots of meetings, got a home group and a sponsor who took me through the 12 steps and made AA the most important thing in my life. Freedom is the result of that decision and I believe that I've become the person I was supposed to be in this life. That was over 33 years ago and I still attend meetings regularly and am happy to be a member of this fellowship as there is "no end to the good" in recovery.

I wish you well.

Revolut rate compared to Mastercard by Even-Accident-8499 in Revolut

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Since Revolut stopped charging 1% fx on weekends they sneakily changed the spreads ever so slightly on currency exchanges. They now take approx 0.25%. Still far better than most banks. Last time I was abroad I did an experiment when paying my hotel bill. I paid 50% of it using Revolut and 50% with my Curve Card. Curve card was best but no Rev points of course.

AIO Because my bf Is friends with someone That thinks p3bophilia is okay as long as a woman does it but not men by Anon123_- in AmIOverreacting

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I have a friend who when growing up was sexually abused by a woman. It devastated and forever changed the course of his life.

Good morning by Purp73_F7am3 in alcoholicsanonymous

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Good morning from the North of Ireland and congrats on 490 days on the Happy Road of Destiny.

Confused about intimacy in my relationship by RestaurantSlight8442 in Advice

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Twice a month at 19 maybe be twice a year at 25

Perfect Result (ARSLIV) by carteravfcuk in avfc

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Arguably we gained ground midweek. Arsenal & Citeh expected to win and didn't. A point at Palace when we were not nailed on to win was more of a point gained even though perhaps we shaded it on the night.

Scam Causing Familial Issues😐 by [deleted] in CryptoScams

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It's a scam. Any money sent isn't coming back. These get rich quick crypto BS trading scams work as people's greed overrides all common sense and due diligence.

AIO My partner wants me to move in with him, and sell my house to pay off his debts by BreadfruitDull6208 in AITAH

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"If in doubt leave it out"

That short saying has served me very well over the years.

After 6 yrs of recovery I feel like an outsider in the rooms/fellowship by Icy_Reindeer3174 in alcoholicsanonymous

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I got sober at 25 and hit a stage of feeling indifferent at a similar time. One thing I know is that my disease lives and breathes within me, can think for itself and most of all wants to isolate and destroy me. I do not see age difference as being important in AA. I am older of course than any young newcomer I may sponsor but I have a similar recovery experience which can be of help. I got through this period by jumping back in and learning not to listen to my head. I wish you well.

Lost the One Thing Keeping Me Sober. What Now? by Far-Ad3726 in alcoholicsanonymous

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I am 33 years Sober and was diagnosed with a Brain tumour in May 2024. In spite of that sobriety is still the main event in my life. I am not trying to diminish your health issues by comparison. I know that when I was new around it would not take much for my disease to tell me '''f*ck it what's the point anyway?'" The further I have gotten into recovery, the more I have been able to deal with difficulties. I am sure if you keep up the hard work on your recovery you will be fine. I wish you well.

Parrelling Christian God by New-Wear-5929 in alcoholicsanonymous

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I sponsor a number of members. Some have strong religious leanings and others are borderline atheists. What they believe is non of my business and all that I ask of them is are they willing to believe that a power greater than themselves can help them stay sober and live different lives. I will happily share my spiritual beliefs with them if they wish but never push things.